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Sorry to be MIA for a few days. I’m nestled away writing trying to finish my next book manuscript by December 1st.
Now, “nestled away “may sound glamorous invoking images of a quaint writing cottage, sunlight streaming through the window, hot coffee poured and a roaring fire my inspirational companion.
I actually got to have that experience back a few weeks ago as I wrote for a weekend at the charming PrairieSide Suites in Grandville, MI. Owner and gracious hostess Cheri and husband Paul provided the pampering and calm I needed to unplug for two days and dive into my words.
However, most days can find me nestled not in glamor. Far from it.
I instead hole myself up in our spare guest bedroom, laptop on twin bed, sweatshirt and jeans on, ear plugs tightly in place in an attempt to drown out the goings on in a house often full of teen boys.
I emerge only to help with homework, teach my junior his English class (thank the Lord for online classes and tutors for the rest of his homeschool this semester) and refill my coffee cup as I simultaneously toss something into the oven for supper. (Or I pick up the phone to order pizza. Just keepin’ it real folks!)
Today, I’ll show you a snippet of what I’ve crafted so far in this still-to-be-titled book about how to control what we should, trust God with what we can’t and decide which one is which.
Tomorrow—-oh please come back tomorrow—-I will introduce you to a brave young American hero. For now, enjoy. I’d love your feedback.
I’ve never fancied the word housewife. It sounds like a woman is married to her home.
I much prefer homemaker, as in “I am trying to make a welcoming home for my family.” Whatever the term, you can bet your sweet potatoes that when it comes to the home, it is usually the woman who has high hopes of making order and calm and yet often can’t seem to get her family on the same page.
We straighten and pick up, clean and spit-shine. We are intentional to get all of our ducks in a row.
And then? Along comes one of our own little ducklings carelessly (or purposely!) knocking them down, forcing us to start all over again.
Dad drops his socks on the bedroom floor—the floor you just rid of debris and then spent time vacuuming.
Or you may have used a little elbow grease to wipe down all of the kitchen counters and empty the dishwasher. No sooner had you moved on to another room than a child residing within your four walls decides to make a snack, leaving a trail of cheesy crumbs and soda drips on your newly shined surface and a dirty dish or two in the wake.
Or you left a list of tasks to be done when you were away for the day. And—unspoken—an expectation of just how they are to be done. Or a list of foods to eat that was not deemed off-limits.
However, when you returned home the chores weren’t performed to your standards and some foods you were planning on using later (like that shredded cheese for your Sunday casserole) were completely MIA!
It can make a woman blow a gasket.
I know. After twenty-one years of parenting, I am a top contender for “Most Gaskets Blown” in the mommy meltdown category. (I’m sure many of you would argue that you’d take top prize.)
Well, instead of exchanging “Housewives Behaving Badly” horror stories of the times we have allowed our tempers to get the best of us, let’s talk solutions.
What is realistic when addressing and assessing our homemaking routine?
Should we lay down rules and processes in stone and expect that they be followed with precision?
Or do we assume a laissez-faire attitude where we don’t force our poor brood to fuss with chores and chipping in around the ranch?
One extreme may appear harsh to our families with no room for real life and even less room for grace.
The other may find us wallowing in disorder and unable to function.
And just how does letting a free-for-all around the home teach kids responsibility, respect for another’s property, and the value of hard work?
What is a home-maker—who wants to make a happy home—to do?
Okay. That’s it for now. You can stay tuned for the solutions in another future installment. (aren’t I cruel?)
Back to the writing cave……..