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You are in for a treat! I met my new friend Teri Johnson when she was a client of mine over at our Proverbs 31 Next Step Speaker Services where I coach women with various aspects of their speaking ministry or help them start one.
Teri and I hit it off right away and, when she wrote a book, I wanted to feature it here on my site. (Pssst…she is giving away two signed copies of the book, each with a $10 Starbucks gift card!)
Now, meet Teri and hear how we can overcome the “nevers” in our lives.
Teri Johnson is an inspirational speaker, a sought-after personal growth expert, and the author of the newly released book, Overcoming the Nevers. Her unique strategies have helped transform the lives of her clients, enlightening, guiding and motivating them to achieve even their most deeply desired goals.
Teri is the President and Founder of Keeping It Personal (www.keepingitpersonal.com) a company that specializes in self-development training and discovering your life purpose and The Refine Conference for Women (www.therefineconference.com)
Great conversations while sipping coffee and soaking up as many sunsets as she can, make her tick — along with running and taking pictures. She’s passionate about helping others; an encourager and a cheerleader to many. Teri lives a joy-filled life deeply devoted to her husband, her two boys, and her relationship with God. (www.terijohnson.com)
Teri is social. You can find her on Facebook: http//fb.com/keepingitpersonal and http://fb.com/terijohnson.writes Twitter: http://twitter.com/keepitpersonal Pinterest: http://pinterest.com/keepitpersonal LinkedIN: http://linkedin.com/in/terilynnjohnson
Why did you write this book?
Honestly, God placed a message on my heart that I knew I had to share to help others who might not have the tools to move forward, or who are stuck — circling the same mountain like I had done for many years.
I responded in obedience even though I felt unequipped. I had not been a writer, so I was not confident in my ability to write a book. But, God gave me every word for every chapter.
My primary goal for the book was to impact just one person’s life. I thought, if that can happen, then writing the book was worth it, it was a success in my eyes. I’m amazed by how many lives have been touched and blessed by the book in just a few short months. God’s plan was and is bigger than mine.
What are some of your own “nevers” you have had to overcome?
Let me preface this question. The interesting thing about “The Nevers” is this; they are personal and unique. What might be a very big deal in my life, may not be in another’s life.
The nevers can be experiences or feelings. They could just be — life on life’s terms — but opposite of what we anticipated our life to look like. If something is significant in your life that you never thought you would experience or feel — it’s a “never”.
So, for me — in no specific order, let me just share the external “negative-experiences” that I never thought I would have to go through: rape, divorce, alcoholism. But, there is more.
I have experienced being treated in ways I never thought I would be treated. I’ve had emotions and feelings and fears I never thought I would have.
Everyday life presents us with new challenges, new gifts, and circumstances. Some of these things are “negative-nevers” the key is, being equipped to face them.
As I’ve implemented and lived the tools shared in the book, I’ve experienced healing and restoration.
I’ve overcome.
As I continue to move forward picking up the tools daily, I experience joy in living.
What do you hope women gain from reading this book?
My hope for every person who chooses to walk with me is that their heart would be touched in a powerful way by God. That they would be willing to not only learn new tools, but actually apply them into their lives.
Okay–to be entered to win a signed book and a $10 Starbucks card, tell us a “never” that has happened in your life.
I have a few light-hearted ones—swore I’d never be a June bride and I’d never have three kids (was worried about the oldest, middle, baby syndrome) and I did them both!
And, a more serious, every time I get down to the goal weight the doctor sets for me, I swear I’ll never gain back an ounce. Sometimes I gain it all back, other times it is just that annoying 15-20 pounds.
Now, how about you? What is a “never” you have experienced.
Winners announced Monday.
This is a little embarrassing, but unfortunately it’s true. I swore I would “never” be a yeller—like my mom was. But guess what? I yell and sometimes I think my mom is in the house.
It’s something the Lord is working to transform in me.
Sounds like a neat book!! Thanks for the opportunity at winning a copy!
Christin — I yell sometimes {more often than I would like} too!! What a great example of a never…thank you for your transparency — awareness is crucial, I love how God gracious works things out in us, even though it can take time and we continue to stumble.
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I honestly tried to never say I would never be or do anything negative – I was too afraid it would come back to bite me
But I do frequently find myself thinking that I will never get out of a certain situation – I will never get out of debt, I will never be able to take an exotic vacation (or any vacation), I will never be able to live in a certain neighborhood…. God is working on me to just be thankful for what I do have.
Lori — “never say never” right?? =) oh…how we learn as we grow! I believe gratitude is a great antidote for negative thinking — when we look for the good, count our blessing, …the many gifts in our lives — big and small — we shift! How do we overcome evil? With GOOD!! I have to remind myself of this frequently when my thinking starts to go down the negative path. Thank YOU for sharing your comment. Truly. =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
It’s been five years since, but I never thought I’d have to deal with my husband’s infidelity. Still painful at times, but better. The why always seems to get me, but because of it we were able to help some neighbors going through a marriage crisis. It has set us both on a path to fight for all marriages, so I do see the good from it.
Shelly….wow, thank you for sharing that very personal story. What I’ve found with forgiveness is IT IS A PROCESS …one that can take longer than I feel comfortable with. Grrrrrr. Just when I think something painful is behind me, Satan has a way of messing with me, emotions get triggered and then I need to forgive and bless again to move forward. What a testimony that you and your husband have to share and help others through this. HE can make ALL things new…
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
What a great book! WOW – I need to read this one. I will give you a light-hearted “never” first – I never thought I would marry a Georgia Tech graduate as I LOVE the University of Georgia. We take our college football seriously down here in the South!! Never say never!!
On a serious note, I never thought I would have to deal with something as serious as clinical depression, but I did just that for my entire life until I got diagnosed 10 years ago. The Lord truly uses our “nevers” to help others, and I am grateful that I opened up my heart to Him so He could accomplish His purposes for me.
Lara, lol — we have GOOD Nevers TOO!! So so grateful for those blessings, surprises, and gifts of LOVE! Our God is one of healing and restoration when we surrender to HIS will and HIS plan for our lives it allows Him to work in us and through us! I’m sure you are a blessing to others as you have overcome depression. Keep shining your light! So grateful that you shared! =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
Ooooh – great giveaway! I LOVE Teri!!! I never thought I would have a disorganized, chaotic home! I grew up with a Martha Stewart (before Martha became famous!) and a USMC Drill Instructor. I learned how to keep things neat and tidy, but it has not been something I’ve been able to incorporate into managing my own home… Frustrating.
Awh Debbie, you’re so sweet! Thank you for your kind words. EXPEXCATIONS {placed on us by others OR self-imposed} are things that can become stumbling blocks in our lives and they can also cause us to believe lies about who we are. Like, I’m not good enough or I’m a failure. I truly believe the tools in the book, if applied, will help you unpack this!! Keep pressing forward…thank you for sharing your comment. =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
This book sounds great!! I never thought I’d have children, with a 2-year old, and another on the way, God has answered prayer!! I never thought that life would be so hard, or that we’d be hurting financially as we do, but I keep trusting God that things will be ok
Brenda, I hear YOU on the “…never thought that life would be so hard” — there’s no way anticipate what life will throw at us, is there? I’m SO grateful that God goes before me and equips me for the unknown. Even though it’s hard, He remains faithful. How exciting…two precious nuggets! I hope your pregnancy is going well… =) Thank you for sharing.
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I never thought I would have a husband with cancer…not once but 4 times. My family has never had any major health issues so cancer was one of those things that “never” crossed my mind. Well, he is well for the moment and God is good!!!
Jean — YUK cancer!! So happy to hear that your hubby is doing well right now, yes God is good, but the journey is not easy. OH how we grow. learn. become, huh? Thank you for sharing…
Ohhh this looks like a wonderful book. What a great give away. My mom and dad always told me never say never and I wish i followed that sometimes. I said that I would never get married all throughout high school but then at the age of 20 I was. Then I said we love each other too much, he would never cheat, lie or physically hurt me and we would NEVER get divorced… Well at 24 I was divorced after a traumatic marriage. Then I said I would never lose faith or myself respect… well after the divorce I hit a long hard road and took some dark paths and that’s when I said I would never find GOD again or have faith but I did. It’s been amazing and I am still finding my way back to GOD and trusting him and believing he loves me and I am his. I am learning to “never say never”. But on a happy note I said that I could never make it through nursing school and I just graduated with honors in June!!!! Also, my sister and I have finally developed a true friendship after many years apart.
Diane…I can relate to your “path” — I experienced a divorce, I NEVER thought I would end up there. lack of self respect, distance from God…dark paths, I’ve been there. CONGRATULATIONS on graduating with honors, Whoot! Whoot! How very exciting — I’m so happy for you! Thank you for sharing…
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
Developing confidence that I could do well at the job I am currently at. I have seen a lot of growth in the last several years, and operate more autonomously than I thought I would be able to.
That’s GREAT Katie — you are overcoming!! Love it. =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
My piano teacher only made me practice hymns for my lessons, saying I might need to play them if I became a pastor’s wife. I adametly said that I would never be a pastors wife. After 13 years of marriage and 3 children my husband felt called to go back to school and be a minister. 18 years later I can’t say I’ll never be a pastor’s wife, although sometimes I still wonder how it happened!
What a sweet sweet story! I would say thats a good never! =) I love the path that God takes us on… =) Thank you for leaving your comment.
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
It’s been along time since I thought of the nevers
I never felt good enough. I still struggle with this daily at times. You see I grew up in a home where there was a lot of stress (we lived on a farm that needed to support 3 families) we struggled financially. I struggled in school and I had a cousin who could read at the age of 4. She was a straight A student and we were in the same grade. I never measured up. God has an amazing way to bring others in your life who show you God’s truth and that I am His child and He loves me more than anything. I never thought I would marry a man who would love me unconditionally and I did. I never thought I have a real family and I have 3 wonderful sons who love me. Daily I remind myself God is not done with me and He has something very special for me, I just need to trust and obey Him!
YES YES YES Dawn — HE does love YOU more than anything — YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH! Thank you for sharing your story… You are right, He’s not done with us — we are the clay, He is the potter continually molding us to be who He calls us to be. =)
Keeping it Personal.
Teri Johnson
I always thought that I would never get to go to college because I was raised in a family of 11 kids. After getting married…and having 3 kids…my husband asked me if I wanted to go to college. I now have 3 degrees and a nice fun job!!!
Your husband rocks!!! what a sweet gesture and I am sure he had to pick up some slack around the house to make that happen for you with all your classes and studying.
OH MY goodness Mary — what an accomplishment! YOU have 3 more than I have!! lol What a GREAT opportunity God gave you through your husband. Thank you for sharing this GOOD never with us. Love it! =)
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Teri Johnson
I never thought I would get a divorce. But God truly restores more than everything that he takes away. I honestly do not think that I would have answered God’s call to return to him without this painful experience!
Sara, I agree with you wholeheartedly. I have looked back and think that I am who I am today BECAUSE of what I had to experience. Even though the divorce was painful, I would not have it any other way. Thank you for sharing — YES…God truly does restore! Love HIM!
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I may not have ever said this, but I surely thought it ~ “I never want to be a missionary and have to raise support for my ministry.” And guess what, that is exactly what my husband and I are in the process of doing! Support raising is still not what I would choose for myself, but it is part of the ministry God has placed on our hearts. And HE is the provider and director of our lives.
Becky — I can relate to YOU — He has called me to do things that I NEVER had the desire to do OR that I feel equipped to do. The book was one of those things. I struggled, I balked, it was a refining journey — BUT now that I’m on the other side of “His plan” it’s an amazing place to be and I would not have it any other way. Blessings to YOU and your husband as you pursue God’s plan in obedience. Thank YOU for sharing…
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
After being raised by a mom who didn’t open our home to very many people, certainly didn’t entertain or feel comfortable making coffee and food for company, I thought I’d never be hospitable. When I became a Christian, God opened my heart to other people and our pastor has asked my husband and I to host missionaries and traveling visitors in our home. I thank God, now, that He broke through my “never” and showed me how to open my life and home to many strangers—now, friends!! Thanks be to God!!
How beautiful! That’s a GREAT gift — so many blessings are shared though hospitality!! Thank YOU for sharing Maria.
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I never thought that I would work my career “backwards”….going from high paying to administrative assistant…but I did….to earn free tuition for college at a prestigious private Baptist university; I never thought I would love having three grown children, but I do! Ages 22, 19 and 17….they are awesome and I love where they are; NEVER did I think that a man would love me for ME, and that we would be so in love and so happy…but we celebrated 26 years together and he adores me and I adore him back! Life is really good! Thanks be to God!
Congratulations on 26 YEARS — that’s GREAT! So many blessings and things to be grateful for, huh? Thank YOU Lucy for sharing this testimony — God is GREAT! =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I never thought that I would have a husband who vebally abuses me… that he would be an alcoholic and a drug abuser. I never thought that I would be so scared to trust and open myself up to be loved because of being so scared that when I do… the anger would come out. I am so closed up and I feel like I am, and have been, raising 3 kids on my own for 14 years. I never thought I would be this tired and alone. I love the LORD, but I feel like I have not given HIM the chance to be present in my life. My boys love HIM and I see Jesus in thier eyes everyday. I pray that they grow up to be strong men who Love the LORD and thier families and not continue the cycle that has been in my husbands family for generations.
Oh Sweet Stacie, I have tears in my eyes as I read this…I want to give YOU a BIG HUG right now! One thing is for certain, there is NOTHING that we can do more or less to shake God’s love for us. In James 4:8, He simply says, draw near to me, and I WILL draw near to you. It starts with that little ounce of willingness. You say you see Jesus in your boys eyes everyday — this is God loving on YOU!! He knows your heart, your needs. His plans for you are for good — rest in Him… Thank YOU for sharing your story — I know my good will be a GREAT tool for you! I can relate to how you feel, big time.
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
What a great topic for a book. I think anyone can relate to this subject in some way. I am looking forward to reading this one. My never was I never thought I would be cheated on and have to go through a divorce and raise 2 children on my own. Only by the grace of God did I get through it. I have other nevers since but that was the toughest.
Deborah, thank you for the encouragement! I believe we will ALWAYS come across more “nevers” — how we work through them is most important. We will always have the opportunity how to respond, positively or negatively, regardless how difficult it may be. Thank YOU for sharing, I know divorce…
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Teri Johnson
Never thought Id be married to an alcoholic, Never thought things would change……But with God all things are possible, and I now have a clean and sober husband that gave his life to Christ and a marriage I NEVER thought was possible! Thank You Jesus for never giving up on me or my husband and changing our lives. Lots of other nevers but God is so good.
Lisa — I am one of THOSE too! SO grateful, YES — with God ALL THINGS ARE POSSIBLE! Thank YOU for sharing. =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I would love to read this book. I never thought i would be unemployed more than
year and it has turned into alot longer. How hard it is to trust God and keep your faith.
Awh Linda…whispering a prayer for you right now as I type this. I hear so many of these “unemployment nevers” from — in our challenges, it can be extremely difficult to trust God and keep faith. One thing that helps me is to count my blessings. Look for the good. When I see His goodness around me, it gives me hope. Thank YOU for sharing your comment…
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I never thought I would be married and own a home. Well after 33 years single, here I am 18 years of marriage and still in my home. I thank God and praise HIM everyday for blessing me with so much.
Love the PRAISE report! Thank YOU Rosemarie!
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
On a light hearted side…in my 30s I never thought I would find an amazing husband who cherishes and adores me….married him at 38 years old. I also never thought that experiencing the highest of highs and the lowest of lows that I would have to accept living with bipolar disorder…and the challenges it brings in interacting with friends and family.
What a blessing Christine! Bi-polar hits close to home for me as I have someone very close to me who lives with it. It was a never for me, but on the other side. Thank YOU for sharing…
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Teri Johnson
Ad!!My never: I went thru a divorce and just felt determined to NEVER marry again. I only wanted to create a safe environment for my 2 kids and not complicate our lives with someone new. God apparently had another plan for us (imagine that) and the most wonderful man came into my life – who was also never going to marry again. It is now 21 years later and we are very happily married – my 2 kids love him and consider him Dad!!!!
It’s SO great when we discover that HE has other plans for us, isn’t it? His plans for us are for GOOD! Bring them ON!! Thank YOU for sharing Sue…I’m so very happy for you. I know personally that blended families can bring challenges, what a blessing that you children are blessed with another Dad. =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
Oh,the nevers…I never thought that I would be divorced, a single mother trying to navigate the thoughts of hurt that I had while still being a strong woman for my two daughters. I never thought that I would be in a position that i hadn’t spoken to my dad for 19 years.
and I never thought that I would like celebrity reality shows but I am so hooked on Dancing with the Stars! Who knew!!
Love the sense of humor Priscilla — I never thought I would LOVE shows like forensic files and investigative reports…can’t get enough!! Thank you for sharing your nevers. Blessings to YOU!
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Teri Johnson
I never thought I would go through infertility but I did. Then I never thought it would it end. But it did. Now I have three blessings from God!
Whoot! Whoot! What a great testimony! Thank you for sharing Rebekah. =)
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Teri Johnson
I really need prayer about my situation, I never thought that my 2 children would stop speaking to me because I don’t accept my son being gay. He was brought up in a Christian home and went to a Christian school and I am so heartbroken.
Praying for you and I can relate.
Deborah…I’m whispering a prayer for you as I type this. I hear the hurt through your words. If there’s one thing that I’ve learned through my journey it is acceptance. There is SO much around me that I don’t “agree” with, but I can choose to accept it and respond positively or to respond negatively. I always have to remember the enemy is out to steal, kill, and destroy! He is nasty — our battle is not against flesh and blood. The tools I share in the book, I believe will be helpful for you. I’m praying for you…healing and restoration. Thank you for sharing.
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
My “Nevers” are so many now because of my MainNever-I Never ever thought I would be living from a Brain Injury. I am like a child relearning everything but having to make adjustments just so I can do it myself. My life before the accident, what I remember that is, was pretty good even though I did have somethings to overcome. I guess those things happen to build me up for this current “Never”.
Thank YOU for sharing Vonnie. You seem like a very strong optimistic person. May you embrace and see the everyday miracles as you overcome on this journey…
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
Oh I need this book and would love to do a book study with a small group. This is much needed for women. I thought I would never..I have so many. One of which is being a mom a teenage daughter who became a mom at 17. That was over 6 years ago and life has completely turned around for our family for the good!
Robyn — the book works GREAT for a book study. At the end of each chapter I have 5 questions that would be appropriate for discussion or to reflect upon in quiet time. Additionally on my website I have worksheets available for free download for those who are serious about applying the tools into their lives to use. Feel free to connect with me through my website if you want to discuss this further. =)
Thank you for sharing your never! He can make beauty of our mess! So happy to hear that things have completely turned around. what a blessing.
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
Ready for a funny one? I said I would never marry a man that sits around the house in his underwear and guess what….???!!! There are also lots of serious nevers, and I’m not really sure what led me down the paths I chose earlier in life. God is good, and with His help, I’ve been married almost 20 years and have 3 near-adult young men that I’m very proud of.
lol Janet — I’ve got one of those men too! Maybe they all do that?!?!? Thank you for sharing.
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I never thought that after waiting 8 years for my husband to be ready for children that it would be so hard being a mother of 2. Though I have wonderful kids it is the hardest “job” I have ever hadI never thought I would lead/teach teen girls but 10ish years ago If was called to that ministry. These are some of the most sretching but rewarding things in my li
I agree — being a mom is one of the MOST challenging responsibilities that God has entrusted me with! I stumble on this parenting journey daily — I do and feel things I never thought I would. It’s humbling and it’s been the GREATEST teacher too! I’ve learned so so much through them and I am grateful. I understand the “stretching but rewarding” parts of ministry — oh my goodness! Keep shining your light Melissa! Thank you for sharing…
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Teri Johnson
I never thought I would have so much trouble thinking up a never!
that’s probably a good thing! I wish I had that issue… lol =)
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I never thought I could hurt so bad, after my husband had an affair with a co-worker. I will never understand…
that hurts…I’m sure you have so many unanswered questions and emotions and racing thoughts. I’m so so sorry Jennifer. Thank you for sharing…whispering a prayer for you.
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Teri Johnson
I have had a weight problem since my children were born and I have lost the extra pounds several times and I said I would never gain it again but I did -I am working to lose it and with God’s help will never gain it again.
You can do it Jane!! Yes you can! Thank you for sharing. =)
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Teri Johnson
Oh what a great book. I hope to win it. My never is that I was TOLD that due to my heart condition I would never be able to have children. But through circumstances beyond my control, God thought otherwise. I have 2 wonderful grown children that I adore. Don’t ever let those “nevers” stop you from dreaming! and praying!
Amen Kellie — what a miracle! Yes, the goal is to NOT let those things trip us up, right? Thank YOU for sharing your story…what a blessing!
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
Oops…I’m so sorry Tracey, I was looking at the comment below and called you Kellie! =)
I never thought I would have to deal with cancer. My mom, who is only 61, was diagnosed with stage 4 ovarian cancer 3 months ago and has been struggling with chemo treatments ever since. She hasn’t eaten in over a month and is in and out of the hospital trying to control nausea and pain. My dad is beside himself and doesn’t want to lose her. They both know the Lord and we are all praying for a miracle and complete healing.
I never thought I would have to deal with this, but God is the strength of my life and He alone is in control.
Kellie, I know this is a difficult time for you and your whole family…so many unknowns can be scary — may your strength be renewed as you continue to seek God during this difficult “never” — thank you for sharing…
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Teri Johnson
I am dyslexic and my Mother was told that I would “always” be a slow learner and never expect much from me.
That “never” spurred my Mother on! She taught me that with God and my Mother in my corner I could do anything.
I graduated with not only a Business Degree, but also Associates in Accounting!!
Those” always & nevers “ about my dyslexia never held my Mother back and has NEVER held me back either!
Thank YOU for sharing this — you have encouraged me Flora. My son is dyslexic, this is a “never” for me. I believe, like your mother, that he WILL thrive and overcome this — but there are days that are challenging and when I don’t feel like I have what it takes to help him. I keep putting one foot in front of the others, but feel like I can always do MORE to help him…but we are tired and just need to take a break from the battle. I’ve gone the tutor route, because me helping him with reading/homework erupts WWIII in our kitchen. I’ve had to surrender this a lot, the feeling of helplessness, and embrace that my son is HIS and HE has it covered! So proud of YOU Flora!
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Teri Johnson
I now live in Destrehan since hurricane Katrina. My Mother was in the nursing home in Destrehan and passed away in 1994. I didn’t think I could ever go back. But as a new Catholic I was asked to come on Mondays and help the elderly come to mass via wheelchairs. My Mom’s room was right next door to where Mass was held, so it was quite hard for me to do this, but to say I’d never, nope, I have been doing it for 2 months with a cheerful smile. I have started giving manicures every Pink Thurs. also. This is one thing that was on I’d never do this to I LOVE doing this ! Our elderly are such wonderful patient people. Yes, I sure miss mine !
Bless your sweet heart Gail! You are a priceless gift to those people…I love and am drawn to the elderly too! Thank you for sharing this story…
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Teri Johnson
I never thought I would be married 3x
I never thought I wouldnt have children
I never thought I would be overweight
I never thought I would have a God who
loved me no matter what ‘I never thought’
for He loves me with or without the ‘nevers’
Glenda, I really agree with your last never, I thought the came thing too!
You are absolutely right Glenda — nothing can separate us from His love! Unfortunately though, Sometimes those Nevers can cause us to not love ourselves. Thank you for sharing!! =)
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Teri Johnson
i never dreamed i would be where i am today….we just gotta trust that we are where we are for HIS reason…In HIS PERFECT time, HE puts us in HIS perfect place…
I agree Sherri — we need to bloom where we are planted and embrace our place. Thank YOU for sharing…
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Teri Johnson
i never thought i’d go through something like having a cancer diagnosis, but that happened 16 years ago, and it is one of the most transforming parts of my life. thanks for everyone’s tranparent remarks!
I know Sherri…I am so blessed by the transparency in these comments! What a miracle in your life! Thank YOU for sharing. =)
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Teri Johnson
I never thought I would gain as much weight as I have. I never thought I’d move to a different state, so far away from my family.
Thank you for sharing Christine, truly! =)
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Teri Johnson
I never thought there would be financial difficulties in our lives. But when it was at it worst, God was right there with us. It strengthened communication about money, and got us closer to being on the same page.
What a blessing so much good has come from your “never” — thank YOU for sharing!
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Teri Johnson
I never thought that my sister who is 9 years younger, would say unkind things about me and my then future husband. Now I am married and it’s been almost three years in September. I hope we restore our relationship and trust again. we used to be best friends and would call each other every day, now we barely talk. I know God is a healer, because He is working in my heart to love her unconditionally. This has been the hardest thing to ever go through emotionally, learning forgiveness for the past 4 years. I serve a Great God!! I know that he will restore and bless our relationship.
I’m looking forward to reading your book. My God continue to bless you and impact lives from this! Thank you
These situations hurt deep! I’ve had some conflict in relationships that I cannot figure out. The tools in my book will help YOU…they have significantly changed my perspective on how I live though these things. How GREAT is our God!! Thank YOU for sharing Mary Ann…
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Teri Johnson
I too, never thought I would have a spouse who would be unfaithful…and then I never would have imagined staying and fighting for my marriage afterwards. So glad I did – we are more in love than ever and will soon celebrate 30 years of marriage.
Kim…I am so so happy for YOU — what a great testimony of God grace, healing, and restoration! Thank you for sharing. =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I always wanted to go to law school but as a very shy person I “never” thought it would happen. My dad died when I was 34 and I decided to go for it. With God’s help, I was even able to raise money to be debt free the first semester! I’ve been practicing for over 10 years now and I’m glad I overcame my “never!”
What a great story, thank YOU Donna for sharing! =)
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Teri Johnson
I never thought that I would be where I am now. With God’s help, I am overcoming the doubt and worry of starting life over at my age.
With HIM by our side and our willingness — watch OUT…so much goodness! =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
There are so many nevers in my life. The biggest one is that I will never be able to lose weight and keep it off. Another never is that I will never be truly happy because I do not deserve happiness. I have a great family, great boyfriend, and great friends. But I still believe I don’t deserve happiness. I also think I am never good enough in everything that I do. My friends and family would be astounded that I feel this way. I am very well thought of at work, church, home…I just can’t get all of this in my head.
DeAnn, thank you for leaving this comment. It’s not enough for me or a million other people to tell you the truth — YOU DO DESERVE HAPPINESS — you have to believe that for yourself. To overcome te negative beliefs, we need to discover the truth about who we are!! The tools in my book will help you if you are willing to do the work and apply them into your life. You can find freedom from this struggle!!
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I woke up this morning and had a real good cry in our backyard this AM. I never thought I would struggle with so many things at once! I never thought I would be punishing myself for marrying a man with mismatch relationship with God. I never thought I would be in a car accident that forever took away my adventurous life. I never thought I would ask God to hurry up and finish my life on earth. I never thought I would struggle with my boys’ relationship with God. I never thought I would struggle with current debt (after all I was a cheapstake and saved thousands on my own). I never thought I would find myself in a battle of whether I should accept a job that would take me away from caring boys before school. I never thought I would be typing this! I need all encouragement I can get.
I am praying Isaiah 54 over you. You need to be reading…….God’s word first, then saturate yourself with good books (Gary Thomas-.Have a New Husband by Friday, is a GREATread, but difficult book for us wives, but right on . . be sure to read the entire book) DR. Daniel Amen has some fabulous books on the health of our brains. Go to the library and pray….then start wandering the aisles…GOD WILL SHOW HIMSELF. Check those books out and read. FEED your poor tattered soul.. DO IT!! Find yourself a womens Bible Study Group…….I attend a Community Bible Study,(Nationwide study) the women there are the most awesome resource of information, Doctors, encouragement, been there, done thats,, motivation, PRAYERS…and hey, irritation,but you will have that!! I hurt for you, & I love You, Laurie You ARE God’s favorite!!
Sweet Laurie…sometimes a good cry does us wonders. I’m SO SO glad you shared your comment, thank YOU! I agree with what Lori said — getting into the Word is crucial. However I’m not going to make the assumption that you are not. I know for me, that was pivotal in my transformation process — we are transformed by the renewing of our minds — the Word of God speaks!! If you need encouragement, keep connecting and reaching out to others — ask God to bring people to you who can help you and come along side you to lift you up! Also, one thing that really helps me is this: breathe…rest in HIM. Remember He’s got our life already planned out, our job is to love, serve, and obey Him.
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Teri Johnson
Teri,
Thank you so much for taking the time to write back. I still have my crying time, but I have gotten better. I leave my devotional book in bathroom so I could spend time with God before I step into the world in the mornings. After all my bathroom is the first place I go to when I wake up. I have decided not to take the job since I know it would not enrich our family life even though the extra money would wipe out debt faster. Thank you for your kind words!
Never is such a small word but a big word at the same time. I have had many nevers in my life. I remember thinking that I would never act like my mom, never have a child like me…well I do act like my mom in some ways and I do have a child just like me… My biggest never is that I thought I would never be so far in debt that I had to ask for help…I would never be so far in debt that I couldn’t afford to buy my children the things they need…I also know that all these nevers lead to betters…with God’s help and prayer we are making it.
I pray that each of you have a blessed day!
Smiles & Blessings,
Robin
Thank you Robin for sharing! Asking for help whether it’s for financial reason or not can be humbling if it’s a place you never thought you would be. I agree with God’s help, prayer AND our willingness to change we can make it. The key is our willingness to do something difference to get a different result.
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Teri Johnson
Wow! This sounds like a great book! Can’t wait to read it. Now on to the question…I never thought I would be here (literally). I was extremely ill as a child, and had many life threatening health issues through the teenage years. As a result, I never thought I would have the wonderful husband or three wonderful, beautiful children God has given us. I am so grateful everyday, all day long. But I never thought I would have such a blessed, wonderful life! God is so great!!
PTL Kerry Ann — what a miracle you are!! I love how God WOWs us!! =) Thank you for sharing…
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I never thought I would be in an abusive marriage. I never thought I would fear for my life. I never thought I would be a single parent. I never thought that God could bless me through all the “nevers”.
Isn’t THAT the amazing truth — through ALL the ugliness, HE still pours out His blessings upon us! Thank you Dee for sharing…
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Teri Johnson
Never ignore myself-try to please others so much that I become exhausted, depressed.
Oh my goodness, how I can relate with YOU on this one! Deb, people pleasing {though looks really “nice”} is SO SO wounding! Unpacking the why behind this is crucial in order to overcome. The tools in my book will help you with this one — discoving the truth to fall in love with ourselves prevents us from “ignoring” our needs. Some people feel selfish making this change, but it’s just the opposite. Thank you so much for sharing!
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Teri Johnson
I NEVER thought I’d be going through a divorce even though we’ve always had a difficult marriage. I had always hoped and prayed that God would intervene and things would change. I also NEVER imagined the ways God has been here for me and the encouragement and support He has brought me from family and friends and people I don’t even know personally.
I can remember that too…one day that hope faded — it happened, divorce. Thank you Karen for sharing…I love how God is always there to catch us when we “fall” — and the people He sends to bless us? What a gift.
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Teri Johnson
I admit, I really did not understand “the nevers” until I started reading the responses…the I SO TOTALLY UNDERSTOOD! I was always blessed with a quick mind and never had to study much to get straight A’s in school. Then I had a brain injury. WOW! Talk about changing things! Now I realize that God is in complete control of everything and enjoy the humor of the statement, If you want to make God laugh, just tell him your plans!
RIGHT, I love that statement too! We have NO clue as to what the big picture is, but sometimes {often} we think we’ve got it all figured out! =) thank YOU Valerie for sharing…
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Teri Johnson
I have a December birthday and I swore I would “never” have children in December so they wouldn’t have to experience what I went through. My first child was due Feb. 4 – and was born Dec. 31. My second child was due Jan. 9 – and was born Dec. 23. We have 3 birthdays plus Christmas in 8 days. So, we celebrate 1/2 birthdays and ALWAYS make sure their actual birthdays are celebrated separately from Christmas.
Love it Marci — God’s sense of humor! Thank you for sharing and for putting a smile on my face! =). I’m a December baby too!
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Teri Johnson
I never thought my husband would be unfaithful, that I would ‘allow’ my kids to be verbally and emotionally abused and that I would exhaust myself trying to put the pieces back together day after day, that our home would be a stressful and fearful place and not a haven, that I would get divorced (even after the infidelity – I never thought he’d do it again), I never thought he would steal everything that had been built over 23 years and that I would be in a crazy race to sell everything I did have left and I struggle to believe that I will ever be free from his cruelty again or have stability. My life is nothing that I hoped for! Without God and my amazing kids, I don’t know where I would be or what I would do – and I never thought I would think like that!!
WOW MJ….that’s a lot to endure thank you for sharing your story. I can see that God has given you the strength to persevere and press-on. With all the Nevers comes a lot of questions, and “filth” — sometime we hang on to the lingering after effects.
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Teri Johnson
I can empathize. After 23 years, my husband spent all of our assets, stopped paying the mortgage (leading to foreclosure), bought a motorhome that he hid at a friend’s house and had a girlfriend (the list could go on…). The truth is: God doesn’t waste any pain! HIS plan of restoration trumps any evil. Romans 8:28 doesn’t say some things, it says He works all things. My pea brain must remind itself of these truths. I’m praying for you. Look for God’s goodness and He will reveal it a piece at a time.
I never thought it would be difficult to return to work after 14 years as a homemaker. It is hard to accept that at 52, my skill set feels limited and I am challenged by the technology that has occurred in the field of medical transcription. I never thought I would consider returning to school to secure credentials but I am moving in that direction.
I can see how that would be challenging — BUT as I was reading this is saw the GOOD! You had the priceless opportunity to stay home with your precious nuggets, AND you are equipped to learn new things, you have a sound mind! You go girl!! You can do this!! =). Thank YOU for sharing…
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Teri Johnson
I never expected my ex to alienate my children from me. That was 16 years ago and I have still not been able to mend our relationship. I never expected to want to end my life because of the heartache. I never expected to want someone dead so badly that I could imagine myself doing something horrible.
Thank you Donna for sharing — it’s amazing how we can endure so much emotion pain by how others treat us. The tools in my book will help you if you are willing to do the work and apply them into your life. We can experience peace “in-the-storm” YES we can!!
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Teri Johnson
I said I never wanted to fall in love until I finished college. I did just that…..
That’s a beautiful NEVER! =)
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Wow so many nevers. It’s sad when we look to all the things that we never thought we would face but are. As for me I never thought that my husband would lose his good paying job and we would be struggling every day just to put food on the table. And I never thought that this would cause so much stress in our family situation that we wouldn’t be able to confide in each other somehow work things out as a whole…. But all this is happening and it’s hard to find the strength to know that one day it will get better……
Thank YOU Tammy for sharing your struggle…the nevers that life throws at us can definitely set. us. back. It causes tension in areas that we never that there could be tension. Keep looking UP…our strength comes from HIM!
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Teri Johnson
What a wonderful ministry you have, Teri. As I read through the responses, I was amazed at how many “nevers” find their way into our lives without us even being aware of them and the negative spiritual impact they have.
For me, there are a few:
1. I never thought I would become a Christian after being raised in a Muslim family for 24 years-praise God for that never becoming a reality.
2. I never thought my Dad, who was my world, and in perfect health, would die in a car accident at 60 and that too, unreconciled to me after disowning me for my conversion-as painful as it was, God did use the situation to reconcile me to my Mom/sisters and allowed me to truly experience Him as my Heavenly Father.
3. I never thought I would get married for the “wrong” reasons and end up going through 4 really tough years of marriage and ending up in a divorce at 27-it taught me what God’s grace really looked like; it finally became heart knowledge after being head knowledge for 3 years.
4. I never thought I would have children due to an ongoing illness and being told I would not be able to conceive-praise God I have two beautiful children; 2 and 7 months.
Now that I think about it; I could go on but the gist of it is that in all my “nevers” God truly showed Himself faithful.
Thank you again for how you minister to so many in their nevers. God bless you.
PS. Love you, Karen
Thank YOU Ayla — you are so encouraging! I love that you shared the “gist” — God truly showed Himself faithful. That’s the bottom line, that we never lose sight of Him and that we continue to grab hold of HIM through it all.
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Teri Johnson
Ooops in 1. I meant to say “praise God for the “never” never becoming a reality. Just re-read it and it sounds strange. Of course I’m eternally grateful that my salvation was a reality
Never thought I’d move to the big city! Also never thought I’d end up hosting a visit from my father, which, truthfully, makes me nervous.
Thank YOU Susan for sharing…I hope you ENJOY your time with your father! =)
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Teri Johnson
I never thought I would be experience the aches and pains of getting older….at least not this early in my life ( I am in my early 60′s ) Seems like a get over one health issue and another pops up. I am having a difficult time dealing with aging……seems so much of the aches and pains are not something we can control.
Control <– oh. that. word. I've learned I have very little of it in any area of my life. grrrrrrrr!! The ONLY thing I can control is how I respond to what happens. Getting older and those "things" that come with it — life challenges us, doesn't it? Thank you Bobbie for sharing here…
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Teri Johnson
I never thought that after 25 years of marriage and 3 wonderful children, my husband would suddenly die of a massive heart attack at age 45, As a parent, you try to keep your children from getting hurt then suddenly you can not work your little “Mom” miracles to help them. I am so thankful that God allowed us to be such a close family that we could help each other through the tough times.
I also NEVER thought I would write a comment on a blog!!!!!!
Carla, I feel honored that you left your FIRST comment sharing with me! =) I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, it sounds like you are blessed with a good support system. I’ve been learning that “miracle-mom” needs be transparent and let others around her know, she doesn’t have all answers and is not equipped to comfort every hurt and every need! My children are learning through my transparency that we need to rely on God fully…I just don’t have all the answers.
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I never thought that my children would be anything by healthy. But my oldest daughter, just 7, had heart problems, and needed open heart surgery when she was four and a half, and may need another one (praying for healing). My youngest was in children’s hospital for meningitis before she was 2 months old, and was almost immediately after diagnosed with hip dysplasia that she required treatment for and is finally outgrowing now that she is almost 4.
But God has taken care of us, cared for us, provided, and even healed deep childhood wounds in me as we went through this. He has been faithful..
Thank you Kristy for sharing — I’m amazed by how God works things out in us through the trials others go through. Yes…He remains faithful!
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Teri Johnson
Teri sounds like a great gal and I would LOVE to read her book I believe everyone has a “never” !! I never thought I would move away from Huntington Beach California thought I would spend my life there…….So when God called me to move to Las Vegas at the age of 17 now 21 years later still living in “Sin City” with 7 kids a great husband and church family but I have to admit my heart is always to be back near the beach full time we visit not often enough but when we do hard to come home!!
Thank YOU Cindy for the encouraging words and for sharing your never… I enjoy going to “Sin City” and visiting the spas!! =)
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NEVER turning into my mother
NEVER letting alcohol defeat me again
NEVER choosing an abortion
Beth, thank you for sharing your Nevers….
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Teri Johnson
I never thought I’d be divorced. When my twins who are now going on 12 were just a rear old I was just that. We have grown up together with God as our teacher. If God ever finds a man for me my heart is open to the possibilities, but it’s not “needed” at this point. When my children are out of the house and I can hear a pin drop that might be another story… Lol.
I’m sure you have your hands full with twins — hearing a pin drop would be lovely, wouldnt it? I often crave time in my house ALONE just to enjoy sitting on the couch in quiet. Lol. Thank you for sharing Susan. =)
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Wow – the “nevers” – where do I start?
I NEVER thought ……our family would overcome addiction, break the “no church” habit, and draw closer to each other as we drew closer to Him. And I certainly never, EVER thought that a lost girl who wandered the wilderness for 40 years would end up in Ministry. Yup, that’s how Awesome our God is. ? Thanks for the chance to win this book!
Thank YOU Tera for sharing!! =) I know right? …where do I start? I feel the same way. I can relate to, how did I end up in ministry…really God? You want Me? I’m speechless! Keep shining your light!!
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Teri Johnson
There are so many “nevers” I could pick. I never thought I would marry an abuser & then never thought I would get a divorce because God could work a miracle (He can but He also gave us freewill). I was definitely never going to live with my parents ever again. Ended up living with them 2x in connection with my marriage. Never was going to be dependent on others. Well my ex left me with a lot of debt, I got laid off, & now am living with my Daddy, pretty much home bound. However, God is good, no matter how much pain & frustration I am experiencing there are others so much worse off than I am. I never believed I would have a good relationship with my mother. My Granddad & then my Dad (not Daddy) died this year. The last couple times I have talked to my mother have been good conversations & she actually called me yesterday!
So many good things happening, despite of the nevers…God IS Good! =)
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Teri Johnson
sounds like a great encouraging read! if I don’t win, I’ll definately look for it! thanks
Thanks Michelle — you can find it through my website, at any online bookstore, it’s available on kindle, nook, and iBook too! Also, your local bookstore can get it for you. Would love to hear your thoughts as you journey through the pages…
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Teri Johnson
I swore I’d never be a homebirthing mom, but when my 2nd daughter arrived only 30 minutes after my water broke, she was born at home, in my bathroom. That’s what I get for praying to not have to be induced!
Wow! Oh my goodness…I’m sure tat was exciting and scary at the SAME time! What a miracle! Thank you Julie for sharing…
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It never occurred to me that we would ever loose our home – yep, lost to foreclosure. Oh, but God brought us out and into a “new place”. I never thought we would have anyone living with us, but He brought us Kim who we are able to mentor as her faith grows in the Lord. And, I never thought I would have an interest in ‘missions’, but, oh yes I do…I have learned my mission field is right where I’m at – wherever that is during the day. I have this passion & desire to testify boldly & confidently of Christ & see others saved – I never had that passion before…oh, but God!
Amen Jodi — we have opportunities everyday to be Christ’s hands and feet! I can relate to you, God planted this desire in me to boldy serve…I never thought I would be me…BUT GOD! Thank YOU for sharing — keep SHINING and sowing seeds into the Kingdom! =)
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I never thought my son would die before me , at age 7.
Oh Tracy, I’m SO sorry! Thank you for sharing…I cannot image how you feel or what it would be like to lose a precious nugget. Blessings to you…
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Teri Johnson
I never thought I would live in the same state all my life…much less the same county. Never thought I would be a “boy” mom without a daughter…but very blessed.
I would love to win the book!!!
I’m a boy mom too!!! I’ve lived in the same state and the same country my whole life too! =) thank you for sharing Marla! =)
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I am “now” learning not to use the word never and limit the Lords abilities. I “never” thought I would get a boyfriend and although I was at the age of 45, one did enter my life and also lead me to the Lord.
This book sounds like an awesome read!!
Love IT Joanne — HIS plans for us are for good! Thank YOU for sharing…I agree, never say never — I’ve learned that too! It just might happen to you…. =)
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I have so many “nevers” that it would take me awhile to type all of them. I’ll stick to the BIG “nevers” that have come about.
I never thought I’d be divorced twice. The second divorce leaving me never wanting to marry ever again. (Spent my life trying to please men who were looking for someone else-now am going to care for my grandchildren and see what He has for me). Isaiah 54:5 he can be my husband.
I never thought I’d be raising my grandchildren. (Which I have enjoyed more often than not).
I never thought I would make some of the choices that I have that have left me with deep scars (bad choices I made).
I never thought I would physically feel the way I do (most likely arthritis). I’m 50 and feel 80 often, especially in the morning.
I never thought I would be in such a stressful job (now doing two instead of one-same pay, of course). I have a job though!!
Thanks for this tough topic as it has made me realize blessings within the nevers.
You are looking for the good Bev — that’s awesome! When we have an attitude of gratitude our spirit lifts and keeps hope alive! Thank YOU for sharing…
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Teri Johnson
It’s almost a cliche – but I “never” thought I’d be as strick as MY parents were with me when “I” had kids. Well, needless to say, I may even be a little MORE strict!
It’s like that saying, “the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree” lol — thank YOU for sharing April! =)
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Ten years ago we bought a small two bedroom house which we hoped to live in for the whole tome my husband was in the Navy. While we lived there I thought about how I would like a larger house but that would never happen. After a few years we had to move for the Navy and sold the house. We moved from VA to Mi to CA back to Mi and finally back to VA. (For our last three years before retiring from Navy.) I drove through our old neighborhood today and thought “wow I thought we would NEVER live in a Big house.” We live in a bigger four bedroom house. I thought wow… I really never thought we would live in a big house ten year ago but it haapened. We never planned to live in CA but we did and grew along the way. I was never going to have two kids but we did three years ago. I also said never three kids and well, still praying about it. After this revelation I realized that if the house and kids can happen so can weight loss. It is a slow process but wow the pregess is measurable even if it is in years. Shuttermom77 at gmail dot com
What an amazing journey Stephanie — thank YOU for sharing! I love how God surprises us! =)
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As a stay-at-home mom for years, who loved it, I swore I’d never let work come before family. Years later, still as a SAHM, now to four in double digits and an editor, writer, and speaker, I struggle to balance my time. I’m ashamed to say my family is at times relegated to the back room as I get excited in an aspect of my ministry.
I also never thought I’d be the mom to a child with disabilities, but it has been an amazing adventure!
Sounds like a great book. Thanks for the giveaway.
Julie…thank you for your transparency — I think a lot of us moms struggle with the balance “thing” — it can be difficult when we are passionate and pursuing Gods plans for our lives. What I see is that you acknowledge the struggle and the unbalance, that’s HUGE…awareness is so crucial. It’s in the the light, now you have the opportunity to do something difference, to get a different result. God is not a God of condemnation — shame — guilt — embrace HIS grace sweet sister!! Keeping shining your light!
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I swore I would never be divorced and then after I was I swore I would never date/fall in love again.
Thank you Jessica for sharing — I thought those same things! =)
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Therr are so many nevers that I thought would ever happen. I guess the biggest “never” was that I never thought I would have children. I never wanted them and never really knew what to do with them. Until God blessed me with three of my own. Even still, until my third was born, I had left my abusive marriage, and accepted the Lord, I didn’t accept the responsibility of mothering my children. Now, it is my biggest and most blessed ministry I have. I go on mission trips to love children, visit and feed children in other countries. Children just gravitate to me and I have a natural way with them. I actually want another child and would like to adopt. I have so many more “nevers” that we’re radically changed by my acceptance of the Lord Jesus into my heart. However, that one is the one that is closest to my heart and will always be my biggest and most important ministry.
Praise God!
Thank YOU Kim for leaving this comment — God is SO cool like that! We thin “we know” and have it “all figured out” until He reveals His plan for us so graciously. Love your story! =)
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While in high school, I told my mom I was never going to have children….I have seven wonderful blessings:)
WOW — YOU go girl! I told everyone when I was in high school that I wanted 4 children, until I had 1. Then I decided 2 was the perfect number! You have 7 precious nuggets {and your hands full!!} lol thank YOU Suzanne for sharing…
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Well, I used to think I would “never” get a divorce. I would marry, and I would remain committed for life. I used to think that those who were divorced in the church were kind living outside of God’s will. While God hates divorce, I am not a divorced single mother, and God is blessing me like never before. It was a tough thing for me to learn that sometimes things do happen, and you have no choice to protect you and your child.
It’s amazing how our perspective changes through our own experience. I too had some of those thought pre-divorce …but then it happened to me. My Nevers give me a new set of glasses to look through…I am grateful for what I am learning and who I am becoming. Tank YOU Ruth for sharing…
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I have been able to see God’s blessings in the ‘nevers’ of my life. I feel so blessed to be able to see them and recognize life for what it is……….a struggle, but with Jesus by our side. Definitely a few surprises along the way!
Me too! Me too! It’s a great place to e when we can see the blessing from the mess and experience piece in the eye of a storm! Thank YOU Beth for sharing…
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I never thought I would have a child. After years of failed fertility treatments and a life threatening tumor – God blessed me with my hearts desire.
What a priceless gift Christene! Thank YOU for sharing =)
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I never thought I would marry someone who seems to be SO opposite to me – I’m “artsy” and he’s practical/”scientific”. 33 years later we’re still in love. We do share a love of the Lord. Sometimes our differences drive the other person crazy, but God is good. I also never thought I would speak out to stand up for something I believe in, when it would have been so easy to just go with the flow – it ended up with me resigning my job. I still wonder sometimes if I did the right thing – but I know God has a plan for me.
With God ALL things are possible! I’m proud of you for taking the high road and for doing what you felt was right in Gods eyes…I know taking a stand can be scary, we don’t always see the benefits, and may never know the impact it made until we get to heaven — but out reward will be there! Thank YOU Elaine for sharing.
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I never thought I would homeschool my children.
I’m right there with you — that is one of my Nevers! It sounds like you DO homeschool…What a privilege and a huge undertaking all at the same time! Thank YOU Julia for sharing. =)
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My funny never: I always said I would never live in a trailer. We lived in a double wide for 13 years.
My serious never: Like Karen, I said that I would never ever wear a size 16 again. God laughed and taught me what being healthy is compared to a clothing size.
When we focus on the “numbers” we lose sight of what’s important! Thank YOU for sharing Dawn.
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Marrying a man scarred by divorce and raising my awesome (step) son along with many other things
What a blessing you are to that precious son!! Rosey, thank YOU for sharing.
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I never thought that motherhood and marriage would be as hard as they are. But I wouldn’t trade anything in the world for my husband and my son. God truely has blessed me.
I hear YOU!! Sometimes the most difficult things in our lives are our BIGGEST blessings — and worth every effort sown to make them thrive! Thank you Elizabeth!
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I never thought this mom-of-a-toddler phase of my life would be so hard.
Oh Kathy, I can SO relate. I felt guilty when my kids were that age for “wishing the time to go by fast” — I struggled through it. God will give you enough! He has blessed you with this amazing gift and equipped you…keep your focus on Him for strength and guidance. Thank YOU for sharing…
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I deal with the nevers daily they just wont go away
Karen…I think we will always be faced with “Nevers” — two very strong words…always and never — but we can experience peace and joy in living as we journey through, we need to tap into tools that will sustain us. I know my book contains a great toolbox that can help! Thank you for sharing…
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Teri Johnson
Let me start by saying that today was my local Relay For Life celebration. I have survived cancer for 18 years. I didn’t get diagnosed until after my son was born in 1995. He spent his first birthday being shuttled between my home sand his grandparents, every other week. Having gone through 6 months of chemo and one month of radiation, I was left with the knowledge that 1: I could at some future point kin life not only have a relapse of my cancer; but that I was at risk of 4 other types as well. 2: I was informed that I may NEVER have another child again. You see, due to the cancer treatments, I might have been sterile.
I can joyously tell you that I never gave up hope. My daughter was born 22 days shy of her brothers 10th birthday, Groundhogs day 2005. After a scare five years ago (I thought that I might have breast cancer), I can say that God had allowed me to stay cancer free.
This is the biggest NEVER that my husband, my son, and I have faced.
Thank you for letting me share this.
Ander thank YOU for sharing…I am rejoicing with YOU and I am inspired by your story!! We serve a BIG God! I love this testimony …the message of hope! Keep shining your light! =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I have two among many “nevers”..
I planned on getting married and having children It was all I wanted. But I’m 54 and still waiting with hope..
I always dreaded creative writing in school. I just wasn’t very skillful. I wouldn’t show my papers to anyone but this sweet, gentle guy who sat behind me. Now I have a blog, write for an online newspaper, and have abou 2 1/2 chapters to a book written. I,m lovin creative writing. God’s funny.
He IS funny, isn’t He! =) thank YOU Donna for sharing…I admire your strength and your faith.
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
Wow, so many, i only ever wanted to be married with a family i never thought i would be divorced-not once, but twice! I never thought i would be on my own for the last 21 years, i will never be able to break down the wall i’ve built around me…… Your book sounds like just what the Lord has in mind for me to help me out of the nevers i would be delighted to win it. Thanks for the chance and for sharing.
Guess what?!?! You are right! YOU will never be able to break down the walls that YOU’ve built up around YOU…but…If you are willing, God can and will…brick by brick. He loves YOU so very much! He wants all the blockage removed that’s separate you from experience HIM! The tools in my book can help you if you are willing to work them honestly and apply them into your life. Thank YOU for sharing Diki…
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I never thought I would find myself not trusting the Lord. It just sounds wrong and yet when my secure little world was taken from me, that is where I found myself. I am so thankful the Lord is patient and allows us to turn from our sinful ways. He continues to show me His faithfulness.
Me too Chris…I’m so thankful for His patience with me as I continue to stumble on this path of becoming who He created me to be. Thank YOU for sharing…
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I have a lot of I never thought. Some are to painful to share but I am working on them with the Lord. Some I am ashamed of while others happened to me and I still don’t understand why. Rape, molested, husband had left, but praise God he and I have been able to work on our marriage and the Lord has blessed it. There are so many more painful things but at this time I am not able to bring myself to write them down, but Praise God who works all things out for His good and His Glory. Thank you Lord for loving me unconditionally.
Thank YOU Joan for sharing….I admire your courage!
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I never thought I would be 36 unmarried and have debilitating illnesses. I keep feeling if I just try harder I can make the bad go away and the ‘prince’ appear. It doesn’t work that way though. That is one of my big nevers.
Thank you Mippy for sharing this…so often we think it has something to do with DOING when God is calling us to BE, accept and look to HIM. I’ve been learning to “try-softer”…it’s not always that easy,and I have to constantly remind myself that I don’t have this all figured out — HIS plans for me {US} are for good!
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
My serious never would be: When my husband’s family lost his brother to suicide, I said I would never have that happen in my family and then 6 years later, my grandmother was murdered by my grandfather who then took his own life.
My silly never would be that I would never be married to a police officer..(husbands brother was a police officer). After 14 years of marriage, my husband became a police officer. LOL.. Isn’t it funny how God uses our nevers to teach us something.
I agree Angie — I love God’s sense of humor. Not always when I’m going through the difficult time, but when I look back and I see His hand all over it! Thank YOU for leaving your comment.
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
This is silly, but I was “never” going to live in the suburbs! I dreampt of living in the heart of the city, in the midst of all of that life and excitement. Now I find myself in suburbia but, guess what? God knows best. We have the most wonderful neighbors and I am convinced that we are where He has placed us to live in community and raise our boys.
He definately knows what’s best for us, right? He knows every need and all the details…HIS plans for us are for good! Love HIM and the depth of His love for US! =). Tank YOU Amy for sharing…I’m a suburb girl!
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I never thought motherhood would be so hard. . . so hard to keep my cool and not get frustrated! So hard to feel joyful in the midst of “those” days or weeks!
You are speaking to ME! I’ve thought and felt those same things! I’ve thrown up my hands, locked myself in my room and wept, it can be SO SO difficult! Each day, I ask God to give me enough…He’s faithful when I surrender and turn to Him for help. Thank YOU Yvonne for sharing, you are not alone…it’s a never I believe many of us mommas have. Sometimes I wantan easy button! lol
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
This morning when I opened my email, I never thought, 4 hours later, I would be leaving a comment. Teri–I have spent the last 4 hours reading your site and checking out your conference. YOU GO GIRL!! I love how you are partnering with God to inspire women!
PS. I am hoping to download your book today, so please don’t include my name in the contest.
PSS. My serious never is…3 1/2 years ago I was diagnosed with an invasive and aggressive breast cancer and 30% chance of survival without treatment…at that time .I never thought I would still be here–but here I am~celebrating and embracing every day!
Thank YOU Kim for your kind words and encouragement! Your comment makes my heart SMILE! I would LOVE to hear your thoughts on the book as you journey through it. What a miracle God is doing in you — I’m celebrating LIFE with YOU and embracing each new day too! Continue to SHINE! =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
A few of my nevers: being in a management position, going through financial crises, having a difficult time being patient when kids were little, being disrespected by my hubby, and gaining weight as I have matured. These are negatives, but I have an awesome prayer group and hope for my children in the Lord. He is stretching and helping me to grow. Taking my eyes off me and turning to him.
I love your last statement — taking my eyes off me and turning to HIM! That is so so POWERFUL and His deepest desire for us! Thank YOU for sharing…
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I never thought I’d feel old… but I’m starting to =)
lol…thank you Lauren! =) I’ve heard it said, we feel as old as we think?!?! True.? Or not? =)
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I never, ever thought I would be divorced. But God, indeed, is good, and I’ve had a wonderful life and have grown much, much closer to the Lord. Praise God!
I share that never with you. I wouldn’t want it for anyone else, BUT I agree, we can grow and have a wonderful live as we move forward embracing God’s grace! Thank YOU Elaine for sharing…
Keeping it Personal,
Teri Johnson
I NEVER thought my daughter would get brain damage from diabetes, and I would become her caretaker.
When I began my teaching career with 1st and 2nd graders, I said, “I will never teach Middle School.” God continues to place me with 6th -8th graders now for the fifth year…. It is very rewarding. They grow so much during that time and I get to watch and try to contribute somehow.