Nov 19

God Wants His Job Back Giveaway

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NOTE: There seems to have been a glitch on the Crosswalk.com site and an old devotion of mine ran instead of the correct one.  The correct one is called God Wants His Job Back? Click here to take a peek and so you’ll know what I am referring to in this post. We’ll wait while you do. Be sure to come back for the giveaway!

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Do you too like to call the shots, be in charge, run the show?

Welcome to the control freaks club. :)

If you, like me, struggle with wanting to situate people and manipulate outcomes, here a few quotes taken from my newly released book and 6-week dvd Bible study: LET. IT. GO. How to Stop Running the Show & Start Walking in Faith.

“Where you can get yourself (and your emotions) in a tangled-up mess is when you act before you pray. Leap before you look. Cart before the horse in a race to your own coveted finish. Yes, do what you can — prayerfully and carefully — but leave the results to God. Your job is obedience. God’s job is results.”

“There exists a miniscule line between being conscientious and being controlling. A marker so fine, we women often cross it without even noticing that it’s stretched out right there in front of us, waiting to trip us up. What we must do is determine the difference between being conscientious (our part) and being in control (God’s job).”

And perhaps the whole book is best summed up by my friend Liz’s description of it:

“Especially written for wives and mothers who try to control everyone and everything around them (believe me, I get this!), Let. It. Go.offers solid advice, wise counsel, and a healthy dose of humor. Full of why-to and how-to suggestions, plus helpful tools to measure what needs fixing, Karen Ehman’s book goes right to the heart of the issue: ‘are we trying to be godly or are we trying to be God?’

Liz Curtis Higgs, author of The Girl’s Still Got It

I hope you’ll get a copy for yourself….and maybe for a control-freak friend or relative? ;)

Through the remainder of November, ALL PRODUCTS purchase through Proverbs 31 Ministries are 25% off! Whoo-hoo! Christmas shopping time! Click here to order.

Speaking of Christmas, would you like to join over 6500 women and get my free resource From Chaos to Calm: The LET. IT. GO. Christmas Challenge? You might just win a Kindle Fire for participating!

Do you often have Norman Rockwell-like expectations about the holidays — the decorations, the food, the gifts, the activity — laden schedule, the family get-togethers?

There are many areas where women want to exert control ensuring the perfect yuletide season. What if we learned instead to let go of unrealistic expectations and embrace an “out-of-control” Christmas this year: relaxing and relating in a peaceful manner while letting others offer input and ultimately allowing God to call the shots?

This five-day challenge will allow Christmas to go from chaos to calm as you learn to control what you should and trust God with what you can’t. The result? Less stressing and more blessing!  Click here for the free sign up.

And, as promised in the devotion, here is the giveaway:

It includes a copy of the book, a Cinnamon stick candle from the White barn Company and some Starbucks cinnamon coffee.

And two more offers for you, real quick:

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Dishes like Maple-glazed Turkey, Apple-sage stuffing, Butter-biscuit Gems or Pumpkin Dump Cake?

You will receive a free copy of an entire Thanksgiving menu plan AND all of the recipes from chef LeAnn of She Cooks if you buy a copy of Untangling Christmas by midnight PST Wednesday, November 21st.

Already bought a copy? Then buy another as a gift and you can get the free download for yourself and to share with the person you will give the book to!

Simply do this:

Purchase a copy of Untangling Christmas in any form (for Kindle, for Nook or the PDF) and send a copy of your receipt to freedownload@untanglingchristmas.org and you will be sent a link to the free download of the menu and recipes.

Our treat! Go here for details.

And finally, the LET. IT. GO. blog tour continues where we are giving away a second Kindle Fire. Today’s posts are found at my friends’ blogs: Kara Chupp’s  Arlene Pellicane’s  Goodbye, house. Hello, home! Getting Freedom

To find even more bloggers participating, click here.

Now, to leave a comment to win the giveaway, tell me, which area do you struggle the most with wanting to control, your husband’s behavior, the kids’ behavior, your schedule, the house, or circumstances in general? Or is it something else? Please share.

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Comments

  1. I try to control how I spend my time at work. I am a social worker so of course there are many things that pop up during the day. I fret about what I think I should be getting done and get annoyed with some of the interruptions. I need to let go and allow the interruptions which many times are from God. However, I think satan wants to distract me as well. So I struggle. Lots of prayer and encouraging devotions like yours online help me tremendously!

  2. Karen,
    As I read your devotion this morning, I just knew you were writing about me. From a very early age, I have always been the one taking charge because I was the oldest sibling. As a matter of fact I have done this for so many years that everyone around me now looks to me to plan/organize everything. It gets very tiring. Being a planner was something I always thought was a good thing. But, then I realized it was only a mask used to take charge and control of a situation. Attempting to to control my circumstances often spills over to control of my husband and family. I cannot begin to tall you how many mornings I wake up with a knot in my stomach wondering how I am going to manage (or control) the events in my day. And, many of those circumstances are totally out of my control, like managing the care of my elderly aunt. Take you for the reminder that God is the only one in control and that, I am His humble servant.

  3. I struggle with controlling my kids behavior. I homeschool, so their constant presence provides ample opportunity. :)

  4. Wow! How perfect was this for me today! Just trying to recover fro m a meltdown because I can’t control everything and everyone! Now I am

  5. I just learned of your book on this morning’s Proverbs 31 devotional, & I need to get it! So, I’ll be totally honest in sharing where I crave control the most… The way my husband does things to help around the house! The poor man is trying to be helpful, but all I can do is critique… Try to get him to do it more like me! Yes, that’s a problem, & that’s why I need your book!!!! :+) Thanks for the encouragement this morning! It was, as God always plans it, perfect timing!

  6. I find getting control in any area if my life ( work,husband,kids,etc) doesn’t happen if I skip my quiet time in the morning. I am not saying that after some time with Jesus I always am able to handle the day perfect in every situation but at least I feel the peace of knowing that no matter what the challenge is I am not alone. My mind is drawn back to my scripture of the day as if it were written just for me and my days challenges. Very thankful for quiet time!

  7. Definitely schedule.

  8. I try and control people, under the heading of “helping”. More so with my tongue then my hands. I blurr the lines between conscientious and control. I have to let the holy spirit do the counseling and I need to concentrate on the loving!

  9. Your devotion this morning was just for me!! Thank you so much. I struggle most with trying to control my childrens’ behavior, especially in public, and it usually backfires on me.

  10. I seem to struggle with trying to control everything in general when it comes to my family! It is so hard to give that control back over to God.

  11. I struggle with wanting to control my children’s behavior. God has helped me grow in this area, but there is still plenty of room for improvement!

  12. Seriously? Which behavior?
    I’m so deeply controlling that I have to leave the room when I get overwhelmed by what someone else IS NOT doing that I think they should be doing!

    I am bonified controlling! Heeeeeeelp!

    Come enter my McDonald’s giveaway. It’s in honor of my 1000th post!

  13. Schedule, friends, circumstances–I try to control most of these things! But I probably struggle most with kids. As parents, it’s our job to “control” them to some extent, right? But where is that fine line between raising Godly, respectful, responsible children and trying to control their lives?? Sigh! I’m praying for God’s wisdom in this matter. And have a sense that your book would be beneficial! :-)

  14. I struggle with trying to control my daughter. I try to remind myself that she and I are two different people!

  15. I’m a control freak, I try to control it all.

  16. Definitely controlling my husband’s behavior! I need to get my eyes off of my hubby and onto my Saviour! I’m looking forward to reading your book, Karen. ;)

  17. I struggle with wanting things done “my way”…

  18. Definitely for me it’s my kids behavior

  19. I am so struggling with this the past week! I am trying to control my husband and my teenage daughters. I am getting so frustrated that anything they say to me is rubbing me the wrong way and in the words of Lysa Terkeurst – I am coming UNGLUED ! Thanks for this book, I am currently reading Unglued, Let. It. Go. and going to start the Greater Bible Study next week. Praying for help, guidance and grace !!

  20. Life in general.

  21. For me, right now, it’s the people at church! Why can’t they all just think and act like me???? It would make things run so much smoother! LOL

  22. Oh I love to be in control…. Around this time of year it’s the decorations… Lots of them color coordinations. Flowers etc…. Timely having to transition from thanksgiving yellows and greens too festive white and Christmas red with Victorian accent…. Takes three days to out up Christmas tree alone… God help me calm down and let go please!!!!!

  23. Melissa Fordyce says:

    I struggle with trying to control everything & being 33 -with 9 Children ages 16,15,13,11,9,7,6,3,&1 it has caught up with me & my health is suffering – I need to learn to let go – before it kills me :(

  24. Definately I need to learn to control everything! My life seems to be in chaos all the time. I never have time for things because of my job, my son’s schedule and my husband thinking that I’m doing it all! I just need to learn to delegate and just let them do it instead of me thinking I have to.

  25. I struggle with trying to control my husband. I want him to read and study the Bible so we can talk to each other about how it speaks to each of us.

  26. My struggle seems to be in how other members of the body act and react to circumstances when I am making a concious effort to Let God control my own…..I tend to expect more from those who bear His name……
    Thanks for this opportunity to re-evaluate me……
    God bless you all!

  27. The thing I want to control the most is…EVERYTHING…unfortunately.

  28. I struggle with trying to control everything in my life it seems – and just when I think I am trusting God I realize it is on my terms and when I feel like everything is under control – I need to pray daily for the strength to let it go and let God be in control.

  29. This has been an area of difficulty for sometime now for myself. My DH tries really hard to explain it to me in various ways but I have not been able to REALLY see it or WANT to admit it. As a Mom I feel torn as I want to do all I can for my family; Mom knows best right? well as they have gotten older and now have their opinions I MUST respect that and LET GO. If I don’t then when they do leave they wont want to com back because it wasn’t a positive grace filled home.
    Thank you for this. I am very excited to read and learn and apply this to my life. My family thanks you for sharing.
    Blessings,
    Jen

  30. I struggle constantly with my house and wanting control. I complain about my husband not cleaning, but when he does, I feel he doesn’t do it “right”. I want everything perfect, organized, picked up before guests come over and I drive myself crazy, fussing over the little things that they probably wouldn’t even notice. We also have 2 yellow lab pups and the hair drives me batty, so I’m constantly vacuuming/sweeping. I want a clean house, but I often sacrifice more important things for it.

  31. I struggle with control over most things in my life but the one I struggle with most is my almost adult kids.

  32. Cathy Lange says:

    I want to control everything and everyone. I want to make beautiful memories but I end up making everyone stressed. I really need this book!!!

  33. I struggle to try to control most everything in life, but especially my family. I loved this mornings devotion and will make a more concious effort to Give God HIS Job Back!! Thanks so much for sharing and writing a book that most all the women I know would benefit from. :)

  34. I am just coming to terms that I am a control freak….it started out as multi-tasking and making sure that everything got done and then went on to include that everyone and everything was being done to top quality and has spun out of control. I try to control my husband the most because we have struggled through the years due to his addiction which he finally addressed a year ago. Your book and message is an answer to prayer and something I know that God is speaking to me about right now.

  35. I think I can identify with each one of those that you mentioned! Probably the area that ‘bugs’ me most is my husband’s behavior. . . just the little pet-peeves that irritate me! :)

  36. laurie lett says:

    It has to be the control over my kids’ behavior!

  37. I saw a trinket (key chain?) once that said, “I’m not bossy; I just have good ideas!” Seemed like a good thought to me. However, you’re right in that too often we/I want to be in control of all things. It is hard to let some of them go, unfortunately. God grant me help!

  38. I am struggling with turning over my daughter’s unhealthy relationship with her ex-boyfriend. She can not let go. In my mind he is not the man for her, but I need to let God be the one who guides her and helps her decide if he is good for her. Letting go is so very hard.

  39. I have spent many years trying to find that balance of getting things done and controlling all things. When to speak and when to keep my mouth shut. Still a work in progress. Trusting that God knows what is best for our adult kids has helped… Still a work in progress…When I am helping out in a project or taking it over…Still a work in progress…Praise God He is still in control and not me…I would surely make a mess of things…

  40. I’m a control freak, I control everything.

  41. KAY PARRISH says:

    WHEN I TRY TO CONTROL I LOSS CONTROL. I AM A LOT BETTER ABOUT THIS THEN I USE TO TO GOD BE THE GLORY AND PRAISE BE BLESSED

  42. I try to control my kids more than anything else. I am a homeschooling mother of 6, and as you can imagine the day running smoothly is a huge challenge, but it also rarely happens with this many little people around all the time. In a huge rut with this right now, nothing seems to be effective in motivating the older ones and younger ones alike, but your devotional challenged me to look at it from a different perspective: maybe it is less about obedience and more about my quest to control them. As a firstborn, only child, type-A personality, I too, was born to control things. But you are right, that is not my job. You have challenged me to this new perspective today…thanks for the wise words!

  43. Christina Burrell says:

    My biggest struggle for control is with my house having to look perfect.

  44. It has taken a number of years but I have learned there are differences between scheduling and controlling and controlling does not necessarily mean manipulating. Thankfully, my husband has been here to calmly put perspective into my life. I still don’t like to be late for anything but it’s not the end of the world anymore!

  45. I understand that God is in control, but I’d like to find a balance where I don’t feel like LIFE EVENTS are controlling ME.

  46. My biggest struggle with control is with regard to my children.

  47. In the past I tried to control pretty much every aspect of my life (husband, kids, work). In the past year and a half I finally came to the realization that it just doesn’t work – it makes me grumpy and exhausted taking on responsibilities that God never meant for me to handle. I’m still learning and have a long way to go, but I’m learning to trust God and let Him do His job so I can be free to do what He’s asked me to do.

  48. Jennifer D. says:

    I try to control it all. I want it to all be like the movies, a happy illusion. I have a hard time staying in the real world. I want everyone to be happy and everything to be perfect. I know that’s just an illusion and I need to just trust the Lord will be in control of whatever happens.

  49. trying to control the husband and the way he controls the kids! what a mess!

  50. I struggle with controlling circumstances in general. Mostly with how the family members do things. I often want them to do it my way. But, I’m realizing, I should let them have a chance to do it there way through devotions.

  51. Lately I have been struggling with my kids’ behaviors the most. I feel like thier behavior is such a reflection of me and my parenting. I am so worried about what others think that I forget sometimes that they are just kids. It is so hard to let go of all of the things I feel the need to control. I would probably be guilty of trying to maintain control in all the areas you listed if I am honest. I have lots of room for improvement I guess!

  52. Life in general is what I struggle with.

  53. Embarrassed to admit, I struggle in most of these areas. I have the “need” to control. But kids and house probably top the list

  54. I struggle with trying to control my marriage and husband. Wanting everything to be picture perfect. I always think I know more about everything from religion to marriage. My world is always in a shamble and it keeps happening. The more I try to control the more my life gets in shambles.

  55. I struggle with control over my chronic illness’s. I want to control how I feel everyday and I can’t let go and let God control the issue. Which I know, He is already in control of it, I just keep sticking my hands in there and saying, “I know you got this God, but I am just gonna take a little bit back for ME to control because I don’t think you are getting it done.”

  56. Polly Schneider says:

    I struggle with frustration over not having a nice home. I am so discouraged about this I don’t even try anymore. I want to change this and at least try to make this old house look better. Is this an issue of control over my environment? I”m not sure, but I know it affects my feelings about my life and worth. I also have a lot of health issues that affect how much I can get done also.

  57. Lorraine Furtner says:

    Hi Karen. Oh it breaks my heart how badly I needed this post. I wish I’d read it 15 years ago! I struggle most of all with wanting to control the thoughts, feelings, actions, words of my 17 year old daughter. Not only is this impossible, it is exhausting. I want so much for her to succeed, and evidently I also I want so much for her to respond to what I say in a certain way, and do what I say, exactly when I say, etc. Again, “impossible and exhausting” for us both, yet I keep doing it! Why do I do that? On top of all that stress, I have fibromyalgia and continue trying to control and be perfect in taking 14 hours of school, and try to work out, and try to maintain a home. Well, you can guess… nothing is wonderful, and the workout? That’s gone. The house? It’s a war zone. But your post today was like a little hug from God; like He said, “it’s okay. You tried to do My job, but that isn’t working so well. Let me do My job, and yours will be so much easier!”

  58. I struggle with wanting to control the house…and everything that goes on inside it :).

  59. Kimberly F. says:

    I struggle with wanting to control everything but most of all trying to control my husband. I have been married 3 yrs and this is my 2nd marriage. I was married before for 15 years and there was an 8 yr me being single in between my marriages. I try so hard but sometimes I just totally become UNGLUED. And yes I have read the book. It has helped some but I am looking forward to this book as well. Hope I win. Thanks for all of your encouraging posts.

  60. I struggle with wanting to control my childrens behavior…its so silly and I can’t wait to read your book, they are good kids, I am doing my mama job and need to let God be God. Thanks for this chance

  61. My struggle is wanting to have things done my way.

  62. I struggle with wanting to control my kids behavior not realizing I have to leave room for God to work in their lives and not create perfect children but children striving for progress cuz we are all just that a work in progress!!!

  63. Christine D. says:

    I don’t like to let my daughter in the kitchen, because I can’t let go of the mess or the method of how she does things. Slowly I am encouraging her to make meals and desserts, but I have to leave the kitchen in order to keep the peace. It’s so tough. Her room is a mess & I have to close her door, so I don’t go in to clean it like I did when she was little. How do I learn to Let.It.Go?

  64. LET GO DEENA. Saying the words, Holy Spirit help me do it.

  65. Paula Lloyd says:

    I struggle with feeling to need to control events, as in I like to plan way in advance and when something happens and I have to regroup I have a hard time iwth that, or when someone wants to do something at the last minute….

  66. my personal and professional lives….trusting God fully that He knows better in terms of when and what major decisions to make…not what and when I want to make them.

  67. I struggle with trying to control my kids and my schedule … and it blows up in my face every single day, lol.

  68. I struggle with wanting to control how and what the doctors recommend in terms of treatment and medications for my medical situation. I am learning to let go and lean more on God for support and guidance.

  69. Tiffany Clark says:

    I definitely struggle with trying to control kids behaviors. Even though mine are so little sometimes I feel like I take all the creativity out of the activity they are doing because they will make big messes. Ugh! So frustrating when I realize I can be a control freak. Thankfully the Lord is gracious and I pray that I would grow and change into the mother he wants me to be.

  70. Elaine Berry says:

    Your devotional hit the nail on the head for me. Two years ago at Christmas my daughter was trying to help me out with dinner as I had hurt my back and I wanted things done my way, she had her own ideas and was not letting me tell her what to do. In the end I became so unglued that I verbally gave my family what for. My daughter has now not spoken to me in two years, she won’t communicate at all with me. The holidays are the hardest time for me as my family is spread out over the United States, and I miss my daughter more than any of my family. I’ve always had a hard time with celebrating Christmas and its just gotten worse these last 2 years. I don’t even want to help decorate.

  71. I would love this!!!!! So easy to keep taking stuff back…..and also tough to sometimes discern when God wants to involve us in His plans and when He wants us to just keep our hands off!!

  72. If I have to pick one…the most bothersome is trying to “change” my husband

  73. I would have to say everything. Control is one of my biggest problems.

  74. many things, in my mind, I control! Or so I think. My grandson is very challenging to say the least, he can be sweet as sweet and then other times he is not. I want him to make sound & good choices. So I’m on him all the time….

  75. I read the forerunner to this book before it came out and I loved it. I am so glad it is now out so that I can read the entire book.

  76. Valerie Hohenberger says:

    Oh, Karen! In my life, God SO WANTS HIS JOB BACK! My husband is in the hospital awaiting a donor heart. He has already been there in ICU for 2 weeks. We were praying that His will would be done by Thanksgiving, but then that turned out to be OUR WILL instead! God is using this situation to show us just how much we are not in control, I believe.

  77. I struggle with every thing you mentioned. However, children & husband are definitely a big area of struggle. I appreciated the devotio
    ~Blessings~

  78. I used to try and control absolutely every aspect of my life along with my family. I have learned a lot over the past few years that I am not in control. I sometimes forget this and still try to control things that I should not. Life is way to short and I honestly don’t want to spend my life controlling things that are out of my control…I want to focus on the things that God wants me to have control over. Even if I don’t win the book I will be purchasing “_)

  79. Colleen G. says:

    I have an issue with trying to control everything in my life and it can be exhausting.
    This sounds like a great book for learning how to release control – Thanks. Colleen G.

  80. Vonnie Kronk says:

    I seem to struggle with trying to control everything since I can No longer do everything! It is so hard to give that control over to God.

  81. I always feel out of control. The laundry, the dog hair, the endless needs of my three kids, my husband, the house – life! I know I probably feel so out of control because I’m trying so hard to stay in control. I have learned to let go in certain areas, but definitely not all!

  82. Kim Shumake says:

    I need a tshirt with this on it. God has me in class now for letting go and letting Him. In no less than 11 days i wad diagnosed with breast cancer and started my 1st chemo. I need this book to help me focus on God and letting Him run this show. All things considered He has blessed be abundantly more than i deserve. Good luck all.

  83. Yes, this book is for me! Can’t wait to read it!

  84. I try to control things around the house. Need to let that go!!

  85. This book is so right on the nose and I can’t wait too read it, I’m getting one for a couple of friends..they will definitely enjoy this and get this totally!

  86. nancys1128 says:

    I think the thing I like to control most is how the house looks. And with 4 people in it, all with vastly different ideas of what is “acceptable” this can be a major stress point at this time of year.

  87. I think I want to control everything! I want the house my way, my hubby to do things they way I want. Definitely need this book!

  88. I struggle with trying to control kids behavior AND husband’s behavior. I suffer from the,”I’ve given him (husband) a chance to do (fill in the blank) over and over again and the results are always the same (suffering on my and/or kids part), so, this time I’m going “direct” (results in constant nagging) so that EYE don’t have to suffer the consequences again. It’s so hard to just let go and let the chips fall! So, I’m very much looking for help from your book! Thanks so much for writing it! And, as always, I hope it is someday available on audio! :) I would definitely get that too for constant reinforcement! :)

  89. At this point it is circumstances in general.

  90. I do struggle with wanting to control the house, but I also struggle with wanting to control situations that happen to my kids and negative influences on their lives. It’s a tough struggle.

  91. PAM SCHAEFFER says:

    Thank you so much for your devotional today. I thought about it often today as Thanksgiving approaches. I’ve been trying to control my adult children’s lives in wanting them to come to my house for the holiday, when they have made other plans. I think that I just think everyone should be together, but I need to let go of my expectations. I loved your story about decorating with your son. I would love a copy of your book! I was way too controlling when the kids were growing up.

  92. Most unrealistically I want to control my children’s health, and they both be healed immediately. But I cannot do that, so I keep praying and trying to walk faithfully.

  93. I love to control the atmosphere…do I want it quiet? Then it needs to be quiet. Do I want laughter? Then everyone needs to be laughing – yup…it’s all about control.

  94. My kids behavior and attitudes … I want them to behave and not embares (sp) me, even though it shouldn’t!

  95. The thing I try to control the most is my schedule! Of course, based all on my timing and schedule and I need to allow for interruptions from God, family and others!

  96. I struggle with control period! I have expectations and expect all will turn out. Unfortunately, that is never the case…thus depression…so..I could use some help.

  97. I struggle with wanting to control life changing circumstances and “hurry” up a decision, when I know that God’s timing is always best!

  98. I struggle with trying to control everyone’s health in my house. If anyone gets sick, I think it’s because I let them eat this or that. I struggle with perfectionism in general. I want to know how to do it all a DO It all PERFECTLY now. I have a picture in my mind if how things should look and am always feeling it’s not that way because I am not doing enough to get it there:(. Excited to read your book!! :)

  99. I struggle with giving God control of everything! I want to put my finger in every pot, and monitor everything. It’s exhausting, especially because I know that’s not what God wants or expects from me.

  100. Today…would be my husband’s behavior.

  101. I think my area of control is definitely the house, because that is usually where I will be unchallenged by other members of the family. :(

  102. Beth Anderson says:

    I try to realize that I don’t have to control everyone’s jobs and how they do them at school. I have a compassionate heart for teenagers and when I see other people being “clueless” I want to tell them what they’re doing wrong. It’s not my job to do that. It’s not my job to fix things that other people don’t do or mess up. I can help but I need to mind my own business and not be critical. :)

  103. Wow! What a loaded question! I am in recovery of a panic/anxiety disorder, depression, PTSD, and Broderline Personality Dosorder. While I try to be defined by the woman God made me to be, I really struggle with letting control go, over almost everything. Having been raised in a home of severe neglect and abuse and also being abandoned at a young age I had a really long struggle with who I was. I know now that I am a daughter of Christ, a beautiful wife to my husband, and a blessing to those around me. That doesn’t mean I don’t forget and try to take the reins back from God! I also really struggle with being human, it comes from being abandoned as well. I also want to do the best, and be the best at everything, often I have to remind myself to slow down and do MY best. Gos only calls us to be the very best of ourselves, and He is there to pick up where we can’t! Praise the Lord!

  104. I want to control circumstances in general…the way people “make” me feel and the way certain situations can leave me so stressed!

  105. Natalie E. says:

    I want to control my free time and not have it “interrupted”. I like to have a plan and be able to follow through with it. I know this study would be great for me!

  106. I struggle with letting my husband discipline the kids, take us to a location the way he thinks we should go and not the way I think we should go….and having everything together @ home, only to feel frustrated when I fall short:/

  107. I try to control my image. I tend to say yes to too much to make myself look organized and competent and to feel needed while things go to pot where it matters most…in my quiet time, my relationships, my responsibilities…so my frustration level rises as I struggle with too much to do and too little time to do it. I don’t want to seem what I’m not…I just have an oversized picture in my mind of what all I’d like to do…even good things at church, for my family, etc.

  108. I try to control my schedule and those around me. For example, I like to know by mid-July our exact plans Thanksgiving, Christmas, etc. I did the challenge last week and am working to be better at this. Would love the book.

  109. What do I NOT like to control? ;) If I had to reveal just one area that I struggle MOST it would be wanting to control my son’s behavior. Mostly when we’re in public. I grew up with one sister, so having a boy (who is definitely ALL boy… read: can’t sit still, likes to be loud…) is a bit of a challenge. I’d love to “give God His job back”. LOL.

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  110. Ugh- what DON’T I struggle with trying to control? Definitely my kids – I have 3 boys (and I even tried to control that, I admit my disappointment at not having a girl)!! I try to control my house and schedule and constantly feel behind and overwhelmed. :( I hope I win this book, but if not, it’s definitely on my Christmas list!!

  111. I struggle with giving God control over my circumstances. I wish I knew what he was trying to teach me and why things are the way they are. My husband and I have struggled financially even though we feel like we make wise financial decisions. He’s been laid off twice and we are currently both unemployed and trying to find jobs. I know God has provided for us in the past and has continued to but in my finite view of things it seems like everything is starting to fall apart and there is nothing I can do about it.

  112. I struggle with trying to control my kids. I recently realized I am smothering them with rules because I am overcompensating from my own childhood of no rules. Just this week, I started my first step of trying to “Let. It. Go.” Our oldest daughter is 13, so I don’t have long to get it right before she starts to rebel from her overprotective controlling parents. Thank you for writing a book for those of us trying to raise them up in the Word, but forgetting who is actually in control. We need help!!

  113. I want to control everything! I am the extreme control freak. My schedule, my children, my husband, my circumstances! I have subscribed to your 5 days of Holiday Control Cleansing. I WILL let go this holiday season…it’s got to be better than how the holidays normally turn out.
    :)

  114. I am very unsettled when I do not know what’s ahead because I like being in control of schedules and circumstances. It really throws me off when things don’t go as I’ve planned. This book looks very helpful!

  115. My house is definitely the frist I want to control but seem to have lost control of. My kids are second in line. In so many ways the two go together. Why can’t I control my house…could it be because I can’t control my kids? I can’t wait to dig into your book! God bless!

  116. house!!

  117. My kids behavior.

  118. Simply controlling the circumstances and randomness of life.

  119. All of the above! So, I guess I’d say in general.

  120. Unfortunately, I struggle to control just about everything. Asking God to help me surrender it all to Him and become obedient to Him has always been my struggle.

  121. Angela Cooper says:

    I am a person who tries to control every situation that arises by ‘fixing’ everyone’s problem. No matter what the situation is I either fix it myself or I try to find someone who can (if I can’t). I get anxious, nervous, frustrated, and sometimes depressed because I feel ‘helpless’ when I can control and fix everything.

  122. Oh goodness. Does this speak to me or what? I’m sooooo bad about trying to control it all! So much so that my husband reminds me at least once a week ” honey, remember you’re not in control, God is!” My response is always ” I know, I know” . Then I ask for forgiveness! My control issue is SEVERE! From the kids behavior to husbands behavior and even silly things that are WAY out of my control like I MUST drive! I can’t stand to ride in a car. Why? Because silly ol me thinks that it’s safer when I drive! YES! It’s silly I know! Because that’s something that is wayyyyy out of my control, but I’ve always been that way! My husband also reminds me that my 3 children can not live inside a bubble wrap ball to keep them protected! ugh! HELP! Lol
    I would so love to win this book! As you can tell….. I could definitely use it.

  123. I use to have the problem of wanting to control everything in my life to the smallest detail so much that I would get on my hands and knees and scrub every little spot on the carpet daily. I learned the reason behind it and replaced those lies with Gods truth. I still have trouble with continually taking the role of Head of household because I had to be that for so long. Its been a struggle to let my husband take the role on 100%. I recently discovered that I have this issue and it is disturbing because now I see how my actions have dishonored and disrespected my loving husband.

  124. Doing things my way…I am working on letting my hubby and kids do things their way instead of me correcting them to do it my way. Would love a copy of your book to help me out!

  125. Robin Still says:

    I simply struggle…struggle with my home wanting it to look perfect so that if someone stops by I am not embarassed, I struggle with wanting my children to be perfectly behaved, I struggle with trying to be someone I clearly am not, I struggle with a sister who often doesn’t think before speaking to me and therefore I feel like I am always wrong. I so need this book so that maybe I can learn to just let it go!

    May you be blessed today….
    Smiles & Blessings,
    Robin :)

  126. I think the one thing that I struggle most with is circumstances around me (extended family, unforseen events) that just take me over the edge sometimes. okay usually those things that I really have no control over are what I flip out over

  127. I tend to givie my problems to God, then take them back and try to “fix” them myself. I struggle with letting go and trusting God to take care of them. I really do need to give God his job back and trust that he will take care of things. Thanks for writing this book!

  128. I try to control my poor kiddos.

  129. beth lockwood says:

    I struggle with wanting to control everything. My kids have physical disabilities and I want to control every aspect of their lives as well as wanting to control my husband and circumstances.

  130. I am struggling in every area you have mentioned and I know that God is providing me many opportunities to make improvements and I am failing miserably. I need this study for the nudge in the right direction! Thank you God for,always giving us another chance!

  131. michele thomson says:

    I struggle the most with the time that my kids are at their dads house. It has also been my greatest blessing because i have learned to pray Gods word over them & surrender them completely to God.

  132. I struggle most with letting go of controlling or striving for the things I hold closest to my heart, the things I most long for – my desire for marriage and family, and being a worship leader at my church. God has proven Himself to be faithful over and over again, in my life, as well as the lives of friends and family (and throughout the Good Word). “Pull me a little closer, take me a little deeper. I want to know Your heart. Your love is so much sweeter than anything I’ve tasted. I want to know Your heart.” I just need to submit to His will. His plan is good, His will is better, and His timing is PERFECT!!!

  133. I try to control my health with over planning everything. I seem to not feel settled until I know exactly when and what is something is going to happen. I have a rare disease and I have to go to the doctor a lot. My breathing is affected and so I have to plan when to suction when to take the trach out to clean it and such. When things do not go my way, well you know what happens. Thankfully I am not married or I would be a monster to my spouse. lol

  134. Wanting to control m boyfriend.

  135. I struggle with controlling my husband and adult children. I’ve actually said to my children, “I wish I could live your life for you!” I think I could really use this book!

  136. Joanna Warren says:

    Circumstances in general, and that often results in an attempt to control the behavior of anyone else related to the scenario. This is one of the biggest struggles I face daily.

  137. I try to control my families schedule, the key word is try!! I think that if I am in control the world will spin correctly on axis!! HAHA I have learned and am still learning to allow margin in my days. I allow space, time space so that if change occurs I don’t blow up or go crazy with my words, thoughts and actions. It has given me so much freedom and peace. I am still a work in progress, but aren’t we all!

  138. Diane Fetter says:

    most likely my husband, but thankfully God has already started working in this area. I would still love to read this book!

  139. Linda Hagopian says:

    I struggle in wanting to control my husband. I would love to lead a group study on this topic! (Will look into this.)

  140. Nancy Termer says:

    Me a “control freek”-no way, I’m always giving space, listening to others needs before mine, allowing God to Move in my life and to Trust Him-no I’m not needing this book!
    Well-I just listened to the first video from the series posted on line and did I get awaken by How Much I AM a Control Freek! Especially when it comes to God, Did I say that???? Yes-I did…I really could value from this encouragement to put God back in the Drivers Seat and not be a back seat driver, but relax and ENJOY the Ride!
    Thanks!
    Nancy in Ohio

  141. I don’t think I can narrow down one area where I seek control. I am much like you describe yourself – leader becoming the boss. It’s so hard to differentiate sometimes! Thanks for this devotion and reminder that god is in control. He is the boss!!

  142. It is amazing how God hears my little prayers and answer them through the internet. Driving to work this morning i was thinking of this very thing. I spent my hour drive trying to figure how and when I became a control freak! I am not sure i can pinpoint if i try to control my kids or my husband more! I saw your book on Pinterest last night and I will pin in tonight -can’t do it at work. I love how you KNOW me and my struggles but yet you have never met me. It gives me comfort that i am not alone in this struggle. I look forward to reading your book and learning to let God have control of my day. Thank you!

  143. I struggle with control, wanting the old times back, and seeing the need for change and making everyone happy, but not me. I run around like Maratha when I should be Mary, enjoying the time, making memories and enjoying God blessings.

  144. I know that there was a glitch in the sending of the devotional, and the old one was run…but I really needed to hear that one as well as this one. So now I am thanking God for that “glitch”, it came at the right time!

  145. My house. I want it kept clean and tidy, but we live on a farm with three fantastic kids and a busy (and messy) wonderful husband.

  146. I struggle with loss of control on a daily basis. I have a chronic illness that has left me no other choice than to give up control in a lot of areas..but oh do I struggle with this. I have had to give up control on having a perfect house, when things get done, and so much more. It is so hard to want to do things that need to be done, but you cannot do them. I would love to read your book and put things into better perspective, as this is one area that is so difficult for me.

  147. How did you know me so well!! I love to control it all and when I can’t watch out!! I could use some help with this issue.

  148. I struggle with gifts! Iw ant to buy everything….but I don’t want to spend too much $$ or spoil! Isn’t it really all about God – so why do I feel obligated to buy everything in the store! UGH! I need help letting it all go!

  149. I unfortunately try to control so many aspects of life. My kids are the biggest currently. I have given up trying to have any control over my husband b/c he doesn’t budge unless he wants to so it’s fruitless. Same with the house…I still have perfectionist tendencies, but realize they aren’t attainable with 2 kids and a busy life. I realize the urge and need for control though always seems to end up causing more stress. I’m trying to learn to relax and just accept that I can’t do it all and I can truly do nothing without Christ. It’s like swimming against a strong current and exhausting trying to do it alone.

  150. The schedule. Ugh. Too many kids doing too many things with not enough parents to go around.

  151. i like control over everything bad thing that I need to let go of and not let God be in control

  152. Brittany Schwendimann says:

    I hate to admit it, but I can be a controlling person in most areas of my life. I had to rely on myself a lot earlier in life, and have learned to look out for number one…that is not good. I constantly have to challenge myself to be aware of my controlling behavior and remember this life is a gift from God…I’m not entitled to anything!!! Therefore, this mentality helps me to change my perspective. Live and let God has become a way of life for me in the past year and a half. I am learning that God will guide me to where I need to be, and that makes me feel safe….releasing me from my tendencies to control circumstances that are not really mine to begin with…All things work together for the will of God…not my will!

  153. I just want to send out a huge thank you to Karen. I have been struggling with the “how to” part of giving control over to God. I have been wanting to do it, but until I read your “God wants his job back”, I couldn’t figure out the how. Your write up gave me a light bulb moment and now I get it!!! I get it!!! I will make the mind set to be more conscientious in all that I do (doing it for HIm and not for man), and by doing that, it puts Him in the driver’s seat. I am not saying it will be easy, as there are years of bad habits to break…..but I really get it now, and will strive each and everyday to do better than the day before. Thank you!!! ; )

  154. Karen –

    I feel like your devotion yesterday (which I just read) was written directly for me. I am a huge control freak even though I know it isn’t healthy — for me or anyone around me. I struggle most with trying to control my children’s behaviour and my schedule and our household routines. Fortunately, I don’t really try to control my husband’s behaviour since I know that he’s in charge of himself. Anyways I would love to win your book.

    Thank you for offering us readers the opportunity to engage in meaningful dialogue with you.

  155. I unfortunately struggle with controlling everything, especially my kids and our routines, or more specifically “my” routine and schedule. I get upset when things don’t go my way or according to plans.

  156. I have such a problem letting go. I would love to win this!

  157. Expecting my husband to do things my way when it comes to working on projects around the house; that is my biggest letting it go challenge. We’ve been renovating for 3+ years & I always think I have more efficient ways of doing things. The Lord is asking me to let go thinking I have the best ideas more than keeping my mouth closed =)

  158. I fully understand the need to be in control, of everything. My younger sisters still tease me today, about being that little girl who made them sit on a chair, and wait, until everything was organized. Honestly, this is something I have felt the Holy Spirit nudging me to work on for the last few months. Your devotion came at the right time in my life, because I am open to listening. So, I will continue to work at letting God lead my day, actions, and words. All the while knowing that he placed my love for organization and planning within me.

  159. I honestly feel like like I struggle with controlling EVERYTHING haha I am such a micro-manger. However, I would have to say I struggle with wanting to control my circumstances the most. I HATE the current phase of life that my husband and I are in. I am a full-time grad student and work full-time as an assistant at an elementary school. My husband works full-time, and recently joined the National Guard so he will be leaving for Boot Camp in January. I hate that in our current situation we are broke poor, living away from both our families and will soon be apart from each other. I know in my heart it is all apart of God’s plan, but I hate watching my friends move ahead in their life and feeling like I am on pause in mine. I know it is temporary and that come summer he will be back from Basic Training, and I will be done with my school, but I hate the unknown. I wish I could control all these aspects in my life, but I really should just let it go and see what God wants to teach me during this process.
    Blessings,
    Kirsten

  160. Kids behavior! Definitely.

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