Have you ever come emotionally unglued?
With your spouse? A child? The lady at the dry cleaners? The driver on the road?
Yeah, me too.
Sometimes in the midst of raw emotions we don’t make wise choices.
Like the time my husband disappointed me early in our marriage and I questioned his love for me. I was emotionally raw. So I cried. But I didn’t just cry.
I accused him of wishing he’d married his high school girlfriend instead of me and then? I chucked the closest thing I could find, his work briefcase, way across the room. As I did, it flung open and the entire contents sprawled across our tiny apartment living room.
It was not my finest moment back in 1986.
But neither was the time I snapped at my daughter as I prepared our Sunday dinner at which two of her friends were going to be guests. They were late. Very late.
As I leaned over to my husband to ask quietly if we should start with out them, my daughter thought I was complaining. I wasn’t complaining, just asking. However, my whisper made it seem otherwise. When she questioned what I said, I came unglued.
I didn’t let a brief case going flying, just some guilt-inducing and caustically accusatory words.
It was not my finest moment….three weeks ago.
My friend Lysa has also struggled with this issue. A lot.
Just last summer she penned a little book to help other women learn to process their emotions in a healthy and God-honoring way.
It is now a New York Times best-seller.
Just recently, she released a devotional on the same topic. I am currently reading it each morning. Here are just a few quotes that I’ve been tweeting that have stood out to me:
“Feelings are indicators, not dictators. Quiet my inner dialogue and replace my anxiety with your comfort and truth.”
“If ever I catch myself pretending or proving, I know I’m processing my hurt the wrong way.”
“When I feel an argument brewing I have to remember that my goal is to tackle the issue not the person.”
If you’d like a chance to be encouraged by this devotional and win not only it but some more cool stuff associated with it, leave a comment telling us what most makes you come unglued. If your what is a who, please don’t use names, just loose titles like, a certain friend, an extended family member or close family member. 
Thanks.
You could win:
~Unglued book
~Unglued Devotional
~Set of 4 Unglued key tags
~Highlighter
~Journal
~$5 Starbucks gift card
BONUS YOU ALL WIN: If you’re interested in talking about Unglued some more, join Lysa on January 29 at 9pm EST – when she’ll be hosting a live, FREE Webcast with Women of Faith’s Sheila Walsh! Visit Lysa’s Unglued book site for details by clicking here.
Okay, what threatens to make you come unglued? Winner announced Monday.
Yesterday I became “unglued” when I walked into her bedroom to find items stuffed in all the corners and not in their proper places!! This mom shamefully lost it:(
I came unglued last Wednesday when a tutor at the after school program that I am in charge of, had the audacity to question a recent change I have implemented to make clean up responsibilities easier and specific. What hurt me is she made a big deal out of it in front of all the other tutors, but I calmly told her that this is a new way that we are going to try this year. I appeared calm on the outside but felt like a failure and humiliated on the inside!
An exhusband with whom I share custody of our daughter.
I am a mom of 2 – a 2.5 year old boy & a 3 month old girl. And my husband and I own a business together. Right now he is handling operations while I handle all of the administrative aspects, marketing, accounting, and client communications. Every day I struggle with balancing all of that, home management and taking care of my little girl who is still at home with me. Yesterday, my husband asked me to run a few errands for him, reasoning that I didn’t have anything to do. I became sooooo “unglued!”
The constant bickering of my kids when I walk in the door after working all day. I walk in to hear the name calling, tattletailing and hateful words and I just hit the roof……then I reflect on my own behavior and realize that I am not setting the best example for them to follow. I definitely need to get control of my emotions. I would love to win this give away.
Can so relate.
You must be my long, lost twin because you just described me perfectly!!! I have 4 teenagers (3 girls, 1 boy) and the drama never stops!! I think I threaten to run away from them all on a daily basis now. I pray the Lord will give us the patience we need.
Trying to care for my spouse and child and elderly parents in the same house.
The thought of my daughter’s “so-called” boyfriend and the fact that she normally chooses him over family. He has been into a lot of bad stuff and is not a good influence. I pray everyday that I can let go and let God be in control of her.
A certain close family member “blocking my words out” and not responding to what I am trying to say.
Lately I have come unglued at everything in public and at home. People driving way too slow, a long line at the checkout and they won’t open another register and I am in a hurry because I have left at 15 year old in charge of the other 2 sitting in the car. When my daughter flung her stuffed animal across the room, hit her earring holder and they in turn flew all over the room. And having long work days, then watching my child in a ball game to only have to come home and cook. I have been coming unglued in all these moments and so embarrassed when I reflect on my behavior. Not my best witness in public or in front of my kids.
When being blamed over and over in a conversation with her. Not only blamed but belittled and called hurtful things.
I’m an adult now with a husband and children. Im God fearing and a good person. No need to put your hurt on me.
i love you and pray for you, but I refuse to be your verbal punching bag any more.
Thank you for the space to vent ladies!!
God bless
Most of my unglued moments come when my children aren’t listening.
I have come unglued on several occasions when we just can’t seem to get out the door in a timely fashion!
Our leaders in our SAMmy’s (Strength Among Moms Ministry) shared what their quiet time looks like and almost all of them mentioned this book!
Many things make me come unglued! This morning it was my family completely tuning me out.
I become unglued mostly with my teenage children. Either when they’re bickering or when they always say “wait a minute” when asked to do something.
I am a shy person. So I hold all my feelings in until finally I explode. I regret doing that all the time. I don’t know how to control that. I am not one to speak my mind about something and then get overwhelmed to the point it come unglued. I feel this book would help me in a tremendous way.
Thanks so much.
Family member who won’t take responsibility.
My husband not washing his own dinner dishes after he eats when the kitchen has been cleaned and all of the others dishes have been done, I cannot stand to wake up and find dirty dishes in the sink the next morning, it irks me to no end, no matter how often I ask he just will not wash his dishes, so the next time I go grocery shopping I will get tv dinners so I can have peace! LOL!!!
Pressure from schedules makes me be short with my family, and I hate that. I don’t want to be that way.
Oh dear! A couple of people but my son’s ex wife, whom he shares custody of his 13 year old daughter, can inspire evil thoughts to run through my head.
Oh dear…usually it’s my kids. I just love them so much. Why is it so often those closest to us that we lash out at? Too many “not my finest moment”s to mention.
I tend to come unglued when I am under pressure – feeling anxious and stressed, otherwise it is easier to control my responses.
Oh my, I’ve come UGLUDED a lot lately! Stressed out as a middle school counselor, I then go home from work and come unglued at the littlest things like; the dogs not being taken out, dishes on the bar, laundry on the floor, etc.
God Bless,
natalie
hmmmmm, morning! =D
I come unglued with my husband when I feel he isn’t listening to me!
I become most unglued with people who won’t drive the speed limit and won’t move over to the slow lane. Grrrr!! See, just thinking about it makes me crazy!! haha
My husband is a very needy person and wants me around and doing something with him all the time. I get very unglued when My time gets interrupted and I can’t have time to do what I enjoy and want to do. I do enjoy spending time with him, I wuold just like some alone time to do what I want to do sometimes.
I come unglued when my son continues to do what I tell him not to do with a little variation and then tell me that I did not say exactly what he was doing
When my kids argue with each other and tease each other.
Unfortunately, lots of things make me come Unglued (I’m working on that) — traffic, people at work who ask me stupid questions, my friend who makes one bad decision after another and then plays the victim and wonders why everything bad keeps happening to her. I could go on . . .
Unfortunately too many times I become Unglued with my kids over their constant bickering, selective hearing, you know being kids. Lol sure need both books!
I have allowed myself to become completely unglued by the foster care system. It is hard to not take my frustrations out on the workers who fail to do their job. My heart breaks the more I realize how broken the system is. Trying to rescue these kids has tested my faith and my sanity…I have been wanting to read this book for some time now. I hate that unglued feeling!
The never-ending mountain of “stuff” that needs to be done in order to make our family of six function smoothly, and the pressure that I put on myself to make it all happen result in me bottling up frustrations, and trying to just move on to the next thing, and the next thing… It usually happens when I have asked one of the kids to do something (usually very simple, like putting away their backpack) for the 74th time, and then walk into the room to see it still has not been done, and then I just blow. And it’s not pretty. And it definitely does not reflect the behavior that I aspire to model for them .
I come unglued when I ask my children to do something and I get the “uhhh….mom….. I don’t want to, or just a minute, or make her do that, it’s not my mess.” And then it really gets ugly when I go back in to check and see if they’ve done it and it’s been an hour and it’s still not done!
close family member
I like for everyone to be happy or at least content. However, when everyone around me is having daily issues and then I have issues myself, I have a tendency to feel out of control. It upsets my inner spirit and it shows on the outside through my face, walk and attitude. I ordered the book Unglued for myself and my grown daughter who has children but would very much like the devotional book and journal. I know others that have problems with control and would love to win the book so I could pass it on to someone else. Thank you for all your encouragement!
My teenage son has the innate ability to make me come unglued!!! I really belive this book would be a HUGE blessing!!!
I come Unglued when I’m tired and frustrated. I can stuff things down until I feel hurt and then I explode. I did the Unglued study and loved the tools and strategies Lysa offered. I can take the small steps forward!
I come unglued when I put dinner on the table and everyone starts complaining, “I don’t want that” or “I don’t like it” without even trying it.
A close relative. Just thinking about them raises my blood pressure
Well, I’m sorry to say, my Unglued moments (several this week) have followed the theme of the kids – bickering, fighting, name calling, lack of listening, etc, etc, etc. The thing is, they are both great kids, flat out amazing. Yet I’ve unleashed on them the same behaviour I tell them is unacceptable.
Unglued. Sounds like my life story.
My son making comments about his clothes not being washed, the socks not being folded of telling “the new rule” about me taking care of the dishwasher. This all occurred this morning after he took yesterday off to go hunting with his dad! I came unglued!
I become unglued mostly with my precious gifts from God my kiddos.
I think because we love them so much and have such an interest in their lives that we can over react to things they do because we take it so personally.
Oh my, I can relate to almost all of these comments above. Mostly, however, is my 23 year old daughter that is living with me along with her 2 year old son. Both of which I love with all my heart and would do anything for them. So tired, however, of disrespect and laziness form daughter not helping out around the house. If anything is ever started, it is never completed. I come home most days to dirty clothes in the floor, floor not swept, dogs not taken out and dirty dishes in the sink. The only thing she has to do is take care of her child and help out around the house but OCD prevents her from doing anything but read a book from start to finish without stopping or watching 5 recorded TV shows without moving. Our relationship is being destroyed in the process and I so want to get to a point that I don’t explode every single day as soon as I walk in the door. I am so excited that help may be on the way! I can’t wait to get into this book. Currently doing Let. It. Go. but also want to get into this one as soon as possible. You ladies rock!
Close family member. I look to this person for validation that only God can give me…
Lately, what makes me ‘unglued’ is having a schedule that is near impossible to maintain. Between Family, career, Sunday School Class, and everything in between. It truely feels there isnt enough of me to go around. I fight really hard everyday to keep a strong prayer life, and it REALLY MAKES ME UNGLUED when we are in the middle of good conversation or Him revealing something to me and life in general calls me away. Ive really taken the whole “pray continually” thing to heart the last few months and so much has changed because of it. There is just always something trying to block me.
Don’t get me wrong, I love my life! The Lord has blessed me beyond measure, in my eyes. I just want more of Him. Trying so hard to find the balance. I wish I didnt have to work and I could devote all my time to God and Family! but that is unrealistic…
I come unglued when I have to keep having the same conversation over and again like it’s new info despite the last dozen conversations.
Relationships…
During our too-infrequent room cleaning sessions. The kids don’t understand why I get so crazy about a room that didn’t seem to bother me before…and I lose it over their lack of concern about keeping their things nice. It’s OK for a few days, then they let things slide, I don’t want to get into the drama again so I ignore the mess for a while longer, and it piles up even worse for the next time! Vicious circle anyone?
I said some ugly things when my husband would not stay close to me with the grocery cart and he was 20 feet ahead of me while I had my arms loaded with groceries!
I come unglued whenever something is out of my control. Would love this package!
Being stuck in a small house with small, whiny, sick kids makes for a long day! Yesterday when my husband came home, I lost it, ranting and raving about how awful the kids had been…in front of them. Not exactly a Proverbs 31 type moment!
As a mom that works outside our home, I have a tendency to come UNGLUED when my kids, who are normally pretty responsible, forget lunches/piano books/PE bags, etc. at home. . .especially since we live 15 minutes away!
Unglued…. Can you say Shaneka Jackson ( This is the story of my lfe)
kids arguing/fussing with each other
The thing that almost always makes me come unglued is to come home to a mess that someone else created and left for me (or just left, not seeming to care that I would be the one to clean it up).
Unglued …… stress especially from work – but I don’t take it out at work – I take it at home. Why do we hurt the ones we love the most??
Sadly, I usually come unglued with my family….and it is almost always because I am tired or stressed about finances. What would normally not bug me will on those days cause me to yell…..I remember getting a book when the kids were younger….something about a volcano and the kids just kinda laughed and said, yeah that’s you but we know you’ll erupt when you’re tired! So thankful my kids and spouse are so forgiving!
A family member who won’t grow up.
When I am not ready to discuss something yet, but the other person is pushing and pushing to have the conversation NOW. Sometimes I need time to reflect and pray before having a serious discussion with someone, especially if it involves conflict. When people relentlessly push me, I get angry and say things I should not. I become Unglued!
Just about anything: bickering kids, cloudy weather, cold, grocery shopping, messes, my period to name a few. Oh! and becoming unglued makes me unglued even more. It’s a vicious cycle.
I get unglued with my kids their fighting, not listening etc etc And right now we are going on 2 weeks of the flu bug in our home, it has gone through my 4 kids and myself, so my paitence is thin.
My three children. My ex-husband left me to raise them alone, and I am so often overwhelmed by just the day-to-day act of living and managing the lives of four people that I become unglued with them. I worry about what it’s doing to our relationships and their future relationships with others.
I come unglued when I see people not taking responsibility for their actions and sometimes/most of the time it probably is none of my business. When a close friend like a sister gets used by her children I want to come unglued. It’s so hard to stay glued together.
My biggest glue dissolver is my own tendency to over-schedule – to think I can get more done than I really can and my own unwillingness to ask for help from others to get it done. I’m getting a little better but it still happens even as recently as last week!
Unglued by my boss at work….doesn’t take responsibility to keep the business running smoothly, then leaves on a 2 week vacation! Eeeeek!
My 18 year old stepsons who live with us half the time and I love, but who egg on my 6 year old constantly. Seriously! Act like you are 18 and about to go off to college! Ok, deep breath!
I tend to come unglued when my back is against the wall and in a hurry or when the way I picture things in my head doesn’t come a reality. Such a relevant message!! Thanks!
This morning, I came unglued with my daughter on the way 2 school. I felt so bad afterwards. I dont want her day or mine to start out that way! (Not my finest moment)
Coming unglued is a daily struggle for me. I grew up in house with a family member who came unglued A LOT and I find myself doing the same thing with my family. It’s a daily struggle.
When we are running late or I am unprepared and the four boys “come at me” for some thing…do this, I am ready and you are not..etc And, while it is nearly always my fault, it does not stop the feelings or my coming unglued. I could certainly use this gift! Thanks for offering it!
When a certain family member asks questions that the answer is so obvious and continues to need confirmation even though the answer is known…it makes me roll my eyes. But after reading all the above comments….I realize I don’t have it so bad at all. I just need to carry on the conversation as if the person really didn’t know the answer and give the answer in a gentle and quiet way and continue on. This sounds like a small nit-picky thing, but I guess when EVERYTHING becomes a question just to make sure all the boxes are checked and every piece of information is re-affirmed, it grates on the nerves.
My problem is when I come unglued…. I go silent…or I just stop talking, stop commenting or discussing….this upsets the other party but I’m trying to control my feelings and glue myself back together.. I need a better release……:(
I’m a receptionist and unfortunately have a problem with becoming unglued with people that ask me the same questions a million times or try to get away with something that goes against policies. And sometimes my husband or kids, not my finest moments at all. This is the year I’m trying to push to not let anything steal my joy in God and let those joyful moments be my first knee jerk response instead my natural one right now.
The book sounds very applicable – practical and full of inspiration – so helpful to point out these areas we need to address in our own spirit! I could so use help in this area – as my kids are almost grown and I”d like for them to enjoy the last few years in our home, vs. being frustrated by my outbursts of frustration
Unglued? Someone wanting something from me when I am already under pressure. Or worse, ignoring me.
My ex-husband and his mother. Everytime I hear there name, I come unglued.
Young man who has autism was working with us and he kept repeating the same thing. I lost it and told him to quit it. He did. But I felt horrible. it was not his fault it was his autism that made him that way. Then I got mad at God for allowing autism.
I become unglued with many different things…and yes, I feel so ashamed after the fact. When I work all day and come home to a messy kitchen when my boys have been home and can just clean after themselves. Oh, and I have two teenagers…my oldest is so much like me and he knows how to “unglue” me! I would love to win this awesome gift!!! Please help!
Oh my control issues… which by the way… I recently won a copy of Let It Go on WomenLivingWell blog… and I am on Chapter 3…. yikes.
What better follow up than Unglued?
Lately, it seems as those the stresses of everyday life have built up and sometimes the smallest things can cause me to become “Unglued!”
I cant wait to read this book and devotional, it is next on my list.
Denise
I must tell you that I find more things make me come Unglued than don’t now a days. It is funny how life is like that. Everything seems to get on my nerves and then I see these posts. I know that I am not alone and there is room for progress. So what makes me come unglued the worst would have to be my husband and our finances. It seems that he has not been telling the whole truth about them and now I get to clean up the mess some how, only after having a repo man show up at my office this week. I am REALLY!! Just tell me what is going on. Anyway, Unglued is putting it lightly on how I reacted!
When my hopes and plans don’t get the priority that I think they should have with the boyfriend.
I come unglued when I feel like I have to do everything for everyone in my house. My kids are teenagers and I don’t understand why I have to tell them to do something 50 times before it gets done. When my patience gets thin, I say a prayer asking God for peace in my heart.
I come unglued easiest when my house feels out of control. When the room I just spent an afternoon cleaning, becomes messy in a matter of minutes.
It can be people, but in reality I think it’s when I have more on my plate than I can handle…then other things deal with that reprocusions. Really came to my brain this week when my 9 year old made a comment about we need to keep stress away from moommy so she won’t get upset. And it was said in a very kind and loving way, but it definitely made me stop. But then last night the 7 year old is screaming at me at the top of her lungs the whole way home because I’m not doing what she wants. Yes, I came unglued!
Lately it is very often. Last week when Target wouldn’t return an item I bought 2 days before because it was a special Neiman Marcus purchase and the sign was supposed to be near the item alerting customers the return date…..unglued because there was no sign! My behavior really embarrassed my 11 year old daughter who had slipped away and hidden in a nearby department. I felt like I was right so I didn’t back down. I asked for the manager and got my way. I wish I would have just kept the item. But I felt so wronged, so entitled. I also feel unglued when I walk into my house and my recent college graduate has left all of her dishes, workout bags and other stuff in the kitchen and family room. No matter how often I ask her to please pick up her things, they are still there. Knowing she is moving out in 3 weeks I try to not make waves but it is driving me crazy! I never used to be so on edge. I used to be a very laid back person and now everything bothers me…I feel like I am ranting about something most days…like there is always this feeling under the surface and even if I don’t lash out, it is still there causing me stress…Ha, after writing these things I am realizing that I probably need to read this book…STAT!
Coming unglued would be when I’m cooking and my husband comes into the kitchen and makes comments about if I’m doing something right, why am I doing something a certain way, am I fixing enough. This coming from a man who never cooks.and know nothing about it. That really unglues me.
I’m not proud to say it, but I come unglued a lot. Usually triggered by someone deviating from MY plan. Doctors’ offices are a huge hot spot for my “sticky” situations- for over a year now we have been taking my immune deficient 16 month old to specialist after specialist, and every time we go it pretty much guarantees me driving home in tears ranting to my bestie on the phone that nothing has changed and no one is helping my son. “If only I had a med degree” (because the I’d be an expert and solve the case immediately?! Lol!). Feeling powerless unglues me. But I am coming to realize how that contradicts God’s design. He is the healer and source of direction, and and my insistence on running things and expecting everyone to bend to my will is dragging my family out of God’s will. Started reading “Let. It. Go.” and it is really helping to open my eyes. Can’t wit for the online bible study next month!
My kids, completely tuning me out and ignoring me.
I become unglued with family situations…. I’m embarrassed to say that I become unglued far too often.
It’s difficult these days for me to come “unglued”. But when I finally do, it’s a non-stop fountain of spewing guilt inducing words. The one thing that makes me come “unglued” is being pushed for a response before I am ready to respond. I need time to think about my answers. To process them and hold them to God’s Word. If I don’t get that, you would think I never knew Him at all by my words and lashing out. And then I get to deal with the fallout. It is the most painful thing I endure. I don’t like it AT ALL.
i seem to come ‘unglued’ easiest when i am tired or have had an emotional day….
then it could be the littlest thing like the towels on the floor of the bathroom or the bowls in the cabinet not put up in the right place, or my lines at the grocery being too long. Oh how i regret becoming ‘unglued’
I become unglued when our busy family and work schedule becomes overwhelming!!
After a battling an illness for almost a year, I become unglued every time a new medication or treatment doesn’t work. My faith falters and I wonder why me?? I just had surgery and for some reason expected to be instantly well. I am trying to be like Paul and be content in all circumstances but sometimes….most times…I completely lose it!
When my children are disrespectful to me. I become “unglued” quite often!
Usually it is my teenage sons not doing what they are asked when they are asked (especially when they expect me to do what they ask of me immediately if not sooner).
Frustration with my 2 year old’s whining when she wants something and I’m unable to decipher her “words” and understand her request. The more she whines “peeeease” the higher her voice goes the higher my blood pressure seems to go.
I become unglued with my daughter who do not keep in contact with me on a regular basis….they can go two weeks or more without calling. A know thay are busy but it does not take that long to just call and say how are you and Dad.
Ok, I’m going to tell you a story, I’m very much ashamed and embarrassed about. I lost it when a mom disrespect my son and telling me lies about him to me. This was at a weekly church dinner with 50 people just starting there meal. I screamed on the top of my lungs, I HAD IT! But on fortunately I didn’t stop there. I was so embarrassed about losing my temper at church, I’m a quiet and shy person usually, I need this book to help me not lose, it!
Having my schedule interrupted.
I’ve been coming unglued more often than not anymore. Too much stress with job loss and financial struggles. I’ve been lashing out to my husband and son who both do not deserve it. I need help!
My boss who puts everything on the back burner including the fact that we are under staffed and deal with major overload and drowning in tasks everyday. And yet I know The Lord put me in this job for a season and I have to finish it, but it is a daily battle that makes me want to come unglued almost every second. Praying often for God’s strength and grace.
As a single mom who raised 3 children alone, nothing causes me to come unglued faster than their unappreciative attitude toward me and all the sacrifices I made for them. I pray they never find out for themselves how hard it was. Am I selfish to want an occasional thank you? LOL!
I can become unglued in a split second. It occurs most when I’m feeling out of control or overly emotional…
I come unglued when I am in a hurry and my daughter is not.
Usually my daughter…especially when helping her with homework. I really need to be a better example!
My lack of energy brings me to becoming unglued too often. The strength of the Lord has helped me a lot but some days the fibromyalgia, depression, and arthritis is too much. Deliverance emotionally is my prayer. May you find deliverance in your situation also.
Very stressful job and issues with family. The combination can be disastrous!!!
I have already posted before about waking up late, with no time for devotion and the kids wake up early.
My spouse can often make me feel unglued. I will sometimes take his helpful advice as a lack of support and we end up in a hurtful argument in which neither one of us knows why. I have had to learn to recognize the offense and find a loving way to express myself or go to time out in my room and prayer for the words I need to speak instead.
I am inclined to come “unglued” when I am doing all I can for someone and they don’t notice or seem to appreciate it. Then I am reminded that I’m really doing these things to honor God. It’s about him and not me!
Just about anything can “set me off”. I am pretty calm, cool and collected until…someone pulls in front of me, my kids are slow moving and cause us to be late, my husband decides to watch TV when there are a million things “to do” and the list goes on and on…
The demands everyone makes of me all the while never forgetting the demands I’ve put on myself. Never being able to meet the demands leaves me unglued when the next request comes… in particular, from my husband or my girls in a moment of thinking about life’s demands. [SIGH]
Lack of sleep can get me unglued so quickly, it’s insane!
Having my day interupted when I have it all figured out.
I find it easiest to come unglued when I loose sight of what’s really important!
I’ve found that aging doesn’t necessarily calm the “unglued” urges. Being a single, mature grandmother, sharing a house with best girlfriend for financial reasons seems ideal, at least it should be. I’ve discovered that sharing a home with Anyone requires much patience and love. I’m soo grateful for your daily encouragement as I travel this new, unexpected chapter of my life. I’m so blessed in every way, yet. I still manage to come unglued with my roommate. I can’t imagine my life without God’s Word, Girlfriends in God, bible Gateway, small groups, etc. thanks for allowing me to share my story. Hugs to all,
My children arguing with me and taking my words and twisting. That really makes me come unglued.
I become unglued when I feel out of control. With our finances, with my weight, with my husband not doing it my way! LOL God please be the glue that holds me together!
My family. It’s the people closest to us that I seem comfortable enough with to become unglued with them.
When things are not going according to MY plan. Shameful – I know…
My kids tuning me out, co-workers that do not do their work, daughter in the mornings poking around before school. I can go on, but these are a few that stand out today. I sure could use a little inspirational devotion to strat off my day off on the right foot.
I am pretty quiet when I come unglued. That is probably the worst type of unglued. I sort of hold it all in, but most of the time I think about it for several days and then let it go. But I can’t forget. I have completely come unglued before in public and that isn’t pretty. I’ve gone in my back yard and thrown a glass into the woods just to release the tension. I’ve gotten into the shower just to cry and cry where no one is. One time when my son was a paperboy (he was about 14) he had been out collecting his money the old fashioned way and he left the envelope of money on the front porch. For some reason I exploded on him that someone could have stolen it, etc. I forgot completely that he was being very responsible with his job and collecting and at the time he left it on our porch, he was allowing himself to be 14. I regretted that. He didn’t deserve that explosion. Usually I hold it all in and then something little will make me explode.
I come the most unglued when things do not go according to plan. I like to have things planned out, and when those unexpected things happen and my plans have to be cast aside, it stresses me out, and I tend to want to lash out. God is working with me on this, but I definitely can still use some improvement in that area of my life.
I am right there with you!
Blessings,
KK
I am unglued by motherly duties that go awry, have no effect or are unappreciated.
My kids not minding makes me come unglued. A messy house makes me come unglued. The worst is seeing my kids when they are upset imitate my “unglued” moments. Yikes! Last night I was up praying for God to fix my broken self. This devotional sounds wonderful! Blessings! Brandy
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One of the things that can make me come unglued is people who do not accept responsibility for their own choices whether it be with words or actions or even
inactions. OMG!!!!! It seems that EVERYTHING is always MY fault! AND? Guess
who has ALWAYS seemed to accept it? You got it, ME! It hits home even more so
when it involves a close family member or friend. THAT is changing. AND, some are NOT liking it. I do though, even if it has been VERY difficult for me. Thank you Jesus for your GRACE and MERCY!
I come unglued when I get home from work, get dinner made, clean the kitchen, then sit down to rest and one of my children comes in and says ‘Mom, I need to have a poster (report, paper, fill in the blank) for my class tomorrow’ and it is 9:00!
Can I say that it’s refreshing to know that we all struggle in our sinful selves? In reading some of these posts, I can see a HUGE common thread of loss of control. I am relieved to know that I’m not the only one that is constantly struggling! Thanks Karen and Lysa!
I come unglued with one who I have to give instructions to over and over.
i come unglued with my family! I hate that it is the people that i love are who i am the most “ungluded” with.
I become “Unglued” when my college child goes back to school and leaves me with a mess in her room to clean up! This is especially “ungluing” when she is the one demanding her school living space be spotless upon her return!
A certain family member makes me come unglued almost every time we have to interact!
Hearing myself say the same thing to my kids over and over without results makes me feel “unglued”. I’m sure they are tired of hearing me, I know I am!!
I did this as a study with OSB and I loved it! Im afraid that I become unglued on my husband and my daughter. ..I pray that I don’t but somehow I always do. I don’t know what exactly sets me off. .. stress. ..I do think the book helped me to not be as bad. I’d love to win the devotional! !
I come unglued when my children are bickering with each other.
This morning it was the phone and the front door and the 4 dogs that wouldn’t go back to sleep.
when I am feel like I’m being taken for granted by my family… when I see others proclaiming to live by faith only to have them treat others/me/my family in some of the worst ways possible… when things don’t go “according to plan” (my plans, that is!).
Love the authenticity and real sharing by you and Lysa on this!!
I’ve been coming unglued a LOT lately…my three children are grown up but that doesn’t stop me. I know (and I do) have compassion for them and I love them dearly and I think that’s what breaks my heart when I walk into my daughter’s home and I can smell a smell I shouldn’t inside her house and that my grandkids are being subjected to that kind of atmosphere. I told her that I wasn’t going to come to her house anymore as long as she allowed her husband to have any illegal substance on their property or in their home. I’ve been wondering if I was too hard on her but then I keep thinking I’ve got to stand my ground with my beliefs in Christ too and I’m sorry I came unglued and I pray that all this coming unglued just means that something awesome is just around the corner for me and my WHOLE family!!
I come unglued at my now “adult” children who aren’t stepping up and taking responsbility!!!
I come unglued when I have to deal with irrational people. Yep, responding to irrational people in an irrational way makes for an unglued situation!
I become unglued when I don’t feel like I’m in control. I’m a planner, so when things don’t go as planned, it can rock my world and cause me to come unglued. :\
This morning when confronted with little invonvienece that made me run a few minutes late, I lost it and took out my frustration on my poor unprepared husband. Why do I allow my pride( the I deserve thinking) continue to rule over my logical side that knows a few minutes of time lost does not matter in the eternal? My disobedience that shows in my disrespect of my loving husband makes me wonderful if God ever feels like He is beating His head against a brick wall. While I know in my heart that God has unlimited patience, my mind cannot fully fathom how that looks.
I come unglued when I feel my husband has left the difficult parenting stuff up to me. Why do I always have to be “bad cop”?
This book is on my to buy list! My close family, that I live with and love the most, is where i come unglued the most
The unprdictability of my babys schedule and therefore my scgedule…..this whole new world is so new to me and its definately a dtruggle for someone who is used to being so scheduled
I’m really working on this area of my life and trying to get my “anger” side in control, I’m using verses around the house to help my thoughts, so when those moments come up emotions and actions will be ones out of Love. I find when I don’t get my time with God first thing in the morning my “unglued” moments come up more especially when it comes to a little 2 year old boy of mine who I do love!
Thanks,
I become unglued with my 34 yr old daughter who is going thru a very BAD divorce. She and my 6 yr old granddaughter have been living with me and her Dad for almost a yr. She tends to become unglued very easy with me and then me with her. Trying so hard to help but don’t know what else to do. very BAD time in my life.
The “short person” whom I love so dearly.
Being overwhelmed! Raising a grandchild with special needs & having adult children with 11 other grandchildren. At this time in our lives it is difficult to do it all. I’m never enough to the other grandkids, my husband, God’s church, others I want to serve, or to the Lord. I become unglued when others don’t seem to cooperate to make things work & I can’t do it all. With God all things are possible & yet I feel overwhelmed & unglued.
Regretfully coming unglued is usually of my own doing. I will be disappointed in myself and, as my dad and I call it, I dump my bucket on someone else. I am disappointed that I didn’t get a task done, didn’t show more self control at dinner, didn’t follow through on something my kids or husband asks of me and I just “stuff” that in my bucket. Then wammy! Some one else fails around me and I “dump” my bucket on them. The bucket full of my own disappointment gets thrown in someone else’s face. It’s not pretty and in no way pleasing to God. The most recent was actually because I was running behind and as we ( my 3 boys and I) left my 17 year old was driving. He made an innocent mistake and I almost took his head off. I will tell you at that moment I thought I might be dying due to this little mistake but, the words toward him were harsh and ugly. I was upset because I made us late. He suffered the dump of the bucket. Fortunately, he was very forgiving and we agreed to each be more careful. How wonderful is it that we have a gracious Father who guides us through life and teaches us by using our own mistakes to help us grow?
Pre-teen son. I think that I drive him crazy too. Maybe we can do the book together
I come unglued when my kids won’t pick up their toys and I walk all over them. Surely it’s not too hard to clean up.
My unglued moments come when my schedule, over which I do not have complete control, gets too full and I do not have any down time. Unfortunately, my family often feels the brunt of it.
Unglued about a lot of things big and small. Example of small…when one put trash on the counter to be thrown away rather than open the cabinet door under that spot and place it in the barrel.
I come unglued when people are rude. Instead of showing the fruits of the spirit, I become unglued and call them out on their rudeness. Which just makes me feel bad, not them. Another thing that I really want to get control of is when my son, 5, does not mind. I come unglued because I am so scared that he will grow up being disrespecful but I have to remember he is just a kid and I need to be gentle and not a lion.
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When someone asks for my opinion and then either walks away without hearing it OR listens but then argues about it or tries to say my opinion doesn’t make sense or finds a way to disregard it all together.
What threatens to make me come unglued….? My kids not listening when I ask them to do something, to the point I sound like a broken record. The underlying issue, planning our retirement which is under two years now but we know it will fly by. The worry wart in me makes me come “unglued.”
I come unglued when there is no organization in the house, even when there is I come unglued trying to get it done to become organized!! I guess my control issues make me come unglued!!
Unfortunately, I become unglued at several things…clutter, demands of family members, and a family member in particular! I am not proud of my feelings or actions!
Stress…frustration…not dealing with the current in the current. Annoyances that I let pile up…when others make their problems my problems.
Moochers within my family!
The selfish and greedy mentality of people I know really get me “unglued” and it does not help them or the situation that is for sure 
i think i cause myself to become unglued. i take everything back from God, when i feel the least bit out of control.
I’m a “Type-A” personality and seem to come “unglued” several times a day over piddly stuff. This is NOT how I want to be remembered. As a wife of almost seven years who longs for a large family and a husband/wife team that works together instead of fighting, full-time worker, and graduate student, I welcome the opportunity to gain control of raw emotions.
I become unglued over big and small things. Example of small is when someone put trash on the kitchen counter instead of opening the cabinet door under that spot and put it in the barrel.
All too often. It’s hard to “keep it all together” when dealing with a child with ADHD, Anxiety, and Oppositional Defiance Disorder. I need to start putting some of these concepts in place ASAP!
Dinner time is when I struggle…I am busy preparing the meal and all my 3 of the kids need something right then. As they all talk at the same time I find myself coming “unglued”. I look forward to reading this book, so I can stop letting my emotions control me. I would love to win, but if I don’t I think this giveaway might be something to buy for myself and maybe share with a friend. Thank You!
I become unglued when I have too much I am worried about and the family is complaining/bickering/disobeying.
I am a homeschool mom of a very strong willed heady minded soon turning 13 son and a very calm meek soon 9 yr old daughter. I am finding myself coming unglued more often than not. To the point of waking up in the morning and already being unglued because of the stress I know already awaiting me. Struggling to be teacher, mom, wife, and everything domestic I want to be glued together in Christ instead of being UNGLUED everyday. So depsperate to find help!
I come unglued when everything just seems to go out of my control. My husband I live in house the size of a sardine can on a ranch. His boss promised to build us a new home if we could just hold out for two years. It has been over 2 years now and we were blessed with a daughter after 10 years of being told that we couldn’t have children. So now we have a 2 month old and all of things a baby comes with stacked in a little bitty 2 bedroom house. We have given things away and I’m throwing things away and everything is just stuffed in places there’s no room for anything it just all closes in on me I like to keep things organized and neat and it’s just cluttered chaos. It gets so very overwhelming with the new baby and me going back to work working 60 hours a week. I tend to come and cant keep up with the house and the baby. So i come unglued and take it out on my husband and I feel terrible after words and I think my little girl senses my stress and its effecting my milk production. I get so upset because I can’t keep up with feeding my daughter and I’m worried that I’m not doing a good enough job tthere. I let things build up and then it just goes boom and I know I should let go and let God but its hard not to try to control everything. I’m praying for patience and the ability to let it all go and not come unglued. This devotional might help me do that.
Brought a memory back . . .we were having company and I had asked my husband to put some snack mix in his truck. It was still on the counter. My cousin and his wife were there. I flung it down the 12 foot kitchen table and the ziploc came updone and snack mix went everywhere. Had I not been upset, it would have been hilarious–it is now! I think you should get a huge discount on a shipment as it sounds like most of us need this book!
I come unglued because a close family member leaves everything in our household for me to handle completely alone, down to letting the dogs out. Just assumes that I will take care of it. They don’t have a full schedule, really no schedule…just able to do what they want, when they want. The full responsibility of the household is on me – including working. While that alone is frustrating, I really come unglued when they then feel free to criticize me for not handling things the way they think I should. It makes me feel broken, inside and out. I so want to learn to not allow the untrue and unjust comments define me.
People being inconsiderate make me stick my foot in my mouth over and over. Thanks for the fun giveaway!
Hurting close family member. When they lash out I have a hard time not doing the same.
I most come unglued when I feel like I am losing control of a situation. When making dinner for friends and I’m running out of time for example. I can so relate to your Sunday dinner and having your kid’s friends over. I’m glad I found your blog!
I am always coming unglued recently. I have two kids that are living at home (27 and 24) . Neither one of them works or goes to school. We are living on a very tight income, and we are paying our kids car insurance, food, and board here. I am unglued because I get disrespected by them and I feel that they should be pulling their weight around here, and find ways to pay their bills or go without. I would love to toss them out the front door, God needs to intervene and take over.
I don’t mean this in a proud way, but I don’t generally get mad about much…except when it comes to my husband!!!!!!!
My teenaged son can unglue me like no other. No other than his dad, that is.
I thank our Lord for imperfect progress.
Blessings, Girls!
When I’m stressed or when my kids don’t listen to me when I ask them to do something then complain that I’m a nag. GRRRRRRR
I become unglued when people tell me how to do things when I already know how to do them. Well, deep down maybe I don’t really know how to tackle the job, but I don’t want YOU to tell me how to do it! LOL. I become unglued and I want to run the show! I need to learn how to become unglued the right way and to Let. It. Go.
Most of the time its my husband, he gets the worst of me, and I hate it, it is hard to get past this, but we’re working on this together, PTL!
I’ve noticed that I can wake up in a certain mood (not always a bad mood, normally irritable – like I have lingering feelings from a dream the night before) and I can become unglued so easy and it’s almost like a battle with in me to not come unglued.
I come unglued when I allow my pride to bubble into anger, and it’s source is not always immediately apparent, but the target is almost always those I love the most. Not great mommy & wife moments. I do know that when I take that split second the Holy Spirit almost always extends to me to choose the right way, God’s way, it turns out so much better. It’s not easy, and I’ve noticed it takes A LOT of practice and even more grace.
Great book! It has helped me a lot. As CS Lewis put it: “We read to know that we are not alone.”
I become “unglued” with a close family member. I’m usually pretty good about “controlling” my reaction with others.
I come unglued when I start to see my own shortcomings in others. Make sense?
I work with children all day long. 400 first and second graders. I become unglued when I have encounters with adults who do what were teaching our children NOT to do.
A close family member. My words could be so much more powerful if all the emotions – anger, frustrations, irritation, etc. – were not drowning them out.
If I’m honest with myself, just about anything can cause me to come unglued! While I have learned (through lots of practice & by the grace of God) to let a lot go, there are still things that can set me off, unpredictably, to the casual observer. I guess I feel like I let “so much go” or bite my tongue so often, that a reoccuring issue (piled up papers or unfinished house projects) or an affront to my parenting (like using the word ‘boughten’ – no it’s not a word, but somehow my honors English student keeps using it!) can set me off! It’s something I work on regularly, but that is exhausting! Sometimes, I use so much energy controlling my tongue, I have little energy left to actually be nice. I love my family, but sometimes they drive me crazy – LOL! I thank the Lord that we are, as a family, generally very happy and easy going! I love them to the moon and back, but you know how ‘road trips’ can be
I become unglued when my family is not listening to me, they assume they know what I am saying, but don’t hear the entire conversation/instructions. Ugg! I could use to read this book!
I think kids know what triggers our unglued moments and that’s usually the source of my not so proud moments. Especially when I ask my sweet young thing to do something and he says “no.” With God’s help I don’t become unglued everytime, but once is too many if you know what I mean. Blessings to you my friends!
My unglued moments nearly always come on the heels of lack of sleep and/or a season when I haven’t been in God’s Word like I should be! Thanks for the great giveaway!!
Lots of unglued moments – can’t wait to read the book from cover to cover.
the thing that makes me come upglued is lazy people and seems God just keeps putting those people in my life. I know I have to learn not to come unglued over this but some times you just want to say “DO WHAT YOU’RE SUPPOSE TO DO AND MOVE ON”. quit putting things off. It just drives me so crazy I want to shout but I bit my tongue and move on. Sometimes I pray but I’ll admit sometimes I just shout inside. I thank God, He doen’t get upset with me the way I get upset with others.
Karen–
I am an unglued mess, so I must really need this!
I am desperate to add to my family–I have a fantastic nearly 4 year old son who is praying each night for a baby sister. I am onboard with adding to our family–but we really will need an extra-special miracle for that to happen. See, I am 44 years old, and we do not have a huge pile of money for intensive fertility treatments. I have been doing what I am able to do, and have had a miscarriage last year to show for it.
Meanwhile, my sister in law, whose family went through the motions to get everyone baptized in the Catholic church, but does not attend church or have a relationship with Jesus, is pregnant, despite her myriad heath issues, lack of good self-care, and a very weak cervix..I feel like a knife is stuck in my chest. This is so unfair!!
I am very willing to adopt a baby–that would be awesome!! But, again, there is that nasty specter of no big pile of money to pay the $4000-$25,000+ cost to adopt a baby. Even the very first step for adoption or fostering, the social worker home study, costs about $2000 in my local area, according to the research I have done. Then, there is the looming prospect of having our home visit–which is a nightmare when you have the poor housekeeping habits that I have. The flesh is indeed very weak on that one!! I don’t even think we are in a place practically or emotionally, where we could foster kids–and I certainly don’t think $2000 is a practical reality all in one chunk right now.
I know God has heard my prayers. I know He has heard my son’s prayers. I just am feeling so raw and unglued about my situation, and I am, frankly, a bit angry that there are no other real options for me to try. No wonder there are not more adoptions!!
If any of my sisters want to pray for me, I would welcome this. I am trying to keep my faith up, but it is becoming increasingly difficult to see that my hopes are dashed for another month, and my time to naturally conceive my own child is coming to a close quickly.
I need to keep it together, and I need a LOT of help!!
Thanks!
Carissa in eastern Iowa
Carissa,
I am praying for you and want to invite you to see about getting plugged into the Mommies with Hope ministry, which I lead and is based in Central Iowa! We are a biblically based support group for women who’ve experienced miscarriage, stillbirth, and infant loss. We also have many women who struggle with fertility issues. I hear the cries of your heart and am praying now that God would give you a peace that surpasses understanding amidst the chaos of your circumstances. Visit our website and/or find us on Facebook. http://www.mommieswithhope.com
With Hope,
Teske
I have a tendency to come unglued when my husband and daughter get into an argument with each other over the silliest stuff. Maybe hubby talked during daughter’s show. Its always something not worth fighting about. But it turns into a major argument. I get tired of hearing them, and I will come unglued. They also have a tendency to yell a lot at my granddaughter instead of getting up and making her mind them. They don’t seem to understand why she minds me so well. I will get up and tend to the problem, they just yell, and she has gotten to where she just tunes them out, and keep doing what she is doing. These two have a tendency to really get me UNGLUED!
I am working hard at not becoming “unglued”. It has happened many times in the past and I’m working on taking small steos to not letting it happen any more.
What makes me come “unglued” is when my 11yr old comes home from school sad and tells me that another adult parent is constantly rolling her eyes and making comments about my daughters outfits to another adult. and when I bring it to the attention to the principle nothing is done about it! It’s bullying plain and simple…
it’s always those closest to us – kids, husband, parents!
Feeling out of control or overwhelmed.
I get those unglued feelings when life is moving too fast and I can keep up. Things start to slip and I start to make noises that sound suspiciously like my tea kettle and then it all goes down hill from there.
*When I can’t keep up…there isn’t a problem when I can keep up.
No one makes me come unglued like my oldest kiddo. He is a text book “strong-willed” child. He will push, and push and just when you think an issue has been dealt with…he will push some more! I know someday, with the guidance of the Holy Spirit, that strength he exerts will make him and amazing leader or advocate. But could I have just one day that we don’t struggle over every little thing?
This is exactly how I feel with my youngest. I remind myself often how amazing she will be as a leader as an adult but really as a child she has pushed ever button I have. I think it’s that indepence and asserting their own will that is what will make them great adults just not great for us moms while raising them. I also remind myself that God knows I’m strong enough and the right mom for her or he wouldn’t have entrusted me with her which helps to. I also try and focus on the great things my youngest has taught me to be better at patience, trust, letting go of some of the control and just learning sometimes I’m not always going to win all great things I needed to learn. I guess if God wants to use my child to “teach” me how to be his child I will take that
Good luck with yours and pray you have some comfort or relief with your struggles as well. God Bless!
What gets me “unglued” or really seems to set me off is my children dragging their feet or not doing what is needed to get ready in the mornings. They are ages 5, 8 and 13 and know how to dress them selves etc. but just seem to need constant reminding on brush your teeth, comb your hair, where’s you backpack, homework the list goes on. I can hit the floor ready to go and within minutes they can set the hold day amuck with the endless procrastinating. I have to remind myself constantly to lower my expectations and to “lead” them the right way by example but it is definitley a daily struggle for me. I don’t want to be the crazy “unglued” mom who’s kids remember starting our days with chaos and hurt words. I keep leaning on the everlasting father who has helped me with so many struggles to overcome this as well and know in his time he will. Unitl then it’s a daily remider for myself of patience, another dose of patience and then yet one more:) Thanks for the encouragement through your blog and I am currently enjoying you “let it go” book and loving it!!!!!
Oh the stories I could tell! Some family members SEND me. . .
My children make me come Unglued more than anything else. It’s usually my fault when my expectations are too high and they don’t meet them.
Seeing children not cared for properly ,irresponsible parents.
Many things are making me come “unglued” during my recovery of my brain injury! I am just now, 5 years later, getting back to my Old self but hopefully a better “New” self! I’ve had to relearn alot of things like a baby learning it the 1st time & I’m turning 50 in March! It’s been a Long process but I am starting to see the light at the end of my tunnel and I want to No Longer come “Unglued”
I come unglued most often at a certain 11 year old boy who lives in the center of my heart. Yesterday I found myself raising my voice at him, telling him he was in my words “incredibly rude!” to which this child of mine replied “I think it’s rude that you’re yelling at me.” My heart about broke. I need prayers and patience here.
The places I come unglued may vary, but they all seem to have the same root….I come unglued when finances get tight – which seems like all the time!
I have snapped at co-workers, unsuspecting fast food workers (usually they just get a tense glare), and my poor children. Those are the ones I regret the most. I am still trying to forget a time when I came unglued at my daughter when she was 5 years old and she lost my work ID…or when she was about 14 and she lost her phone. She’s 18 now…but I am still trying to get over the MANY times I have blown it with her.
Let’s face it – I am one big unglued mess.
When people don’t follow through with what they tell you they will do.
Lately, (and I’m embarrassed to admit), I get unglued the most at my toddler! She’s glued to me, follows me everywhere and won’t sleep unless I’m next to her. I love being with her, but lately she hasn’t fallen asleep so I find that I lie there, silently pleading with her to sleep, and my to-do list flashing before my eyes. Don’t get me wrong, I love spending time with her, there are just some days where I need some “me” time, to do devotions, relax for a few minutes, etc.
My husband and daughter do a pretty good job of causing me to come unglued. They argue with each other over silly things, and also have a tendency to yell at my granddaughter instead of getting up and taking care of the problem. She ignores them and they just yell more. I end up having to get involved. I think all the adults in my house need to read this book.
I come unglued when faced with the fact I cannot control my husband or his choices while we are working on restoring our marriage after he had an affair with my best friend.
‘UN’ Glued? I’m having a hard time remembering the last time I was ‘glued’……
Trying to live each day managing a home, family (with three children, ages 14, 11, and 8), all the extra-curicular school and church activities… At 45 years old, and experiencing perimenopause symptoms, it is sooooo hard to “keep it together” and not come unglued over the things that life throws at me. I used to be so much more efficient at “life”!
I come unglued when I feel like things are not put back in their proper place or when I feel overwhlem by different people needing me to do something all at once. (bill, friends, sometimes family even my own health). Blessings
The thing that makes me come the most unglued is being a stepmom! The whole drama that comes with our situation (which I’ll spare details out of respect for the child and his mom) and feeling like things aren’t “fair” and wanting to fight for “justice”. I need to learn to shut up and focus my anger/frustration in a more Godly manner! <3
I COME UNGLUED WHEN MY SON WON’T TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER!
I come most unglued when I feel injustice is being done- it could be against someone else or myself, and sometimes it’s not really an injustice, just a misunderstanding, so that makes it really embarrassing when I come unglued.
I get unglued when a bunch of stuff piles up. This happens early everyday with 4 young children. I try to stay calm with my own strength until I end of falling on my knees pleading for His forgiveness, strength and help. Why do I make this mistake over and over. “Jesus loves me this I know. For the Bible tells me so. Little ones to Him belong..They are WEAK but He is strong.”
I come unglued when an unpleasant “unexpected” happens–especially with family.
In my life, I have found that I lash out (“come unglued”) when I or my children are treated unfairly and I feel helpless in the situation. At times, I feel closer to my family and act like a mama bear, but other times, I feel unsettled emotionally and find that I lash out at the ones I love the most instead of taking it to the Lord in prayer.
i start to become unglued (internally) when bad things are happening, especially within my family unit…it is a control-thing as well…i try to just keep giving whatever situation/person to God…the sovereign One! xoxo
I come unglued with her when she answers back in a short curt reply. RESPECT is important to me, so I go berserk when this happens….often.
I become unglued with my youngest– who tells me she has cleaned her room and put her clothes away only for me to find them thrown on her closet floor or hiding under bed! It is a struggle at times to keep my cool! I know this book could help me!!
Thanks!
I can most often come unglued when I’m hyper-focused on a project and it gets derailed for one reason or another – an ill-timed interruption, a needy child, an unforeseen circumstance. I have a PLAN and the path I was following is getting a little more crooked than I’d like. *sigh* I know, I know. I’m working on this control issue! I’m actually in the middle of the “Let. It. Go.” study now! We just discussed chapters 3 & 4 last night.
Thank you for the awesome giveaway!!
What makes me come unglued? Well it used to my exhusband, it did not matter what he said or did it just rubbed me the wrong way. Then he was in a bad wreck that made him permanently disabled and I realized that life is just way to short so I started evaluating myself and what made him so easy to become unglued on. It was a lot of hurt feelings and pent up emotions I never spoke to him about. He passed this past October and he is with our Lord a whole person once again. I still come unglued, but not near as much as I used to. If somone makes plans and then changes at the last minute can really irritate me. Someone trying to make plans at the the minute and thinking we can just drop what we are doing and do what they are planning….but I must say that with the help of the Lord I can see a difference, it is a slow process and once I am constantly working on. Thanks, for all your opportunities to win! I love this blog and you will never know how some of your emails come at just the right moment with just the right words. Thanks, for all you do.
I have 3 boys. Need I say more?!
My son and I tangle over grades nonstop. I try to explain I am concerned with his future but all his brain processes is nagging
I sometimes come unglued when someone that I have helped a LOT, asks for more. Again.
I come unglued when the house is a wreck.
I come unglued with homeschooling my oldest.
I come unglued when homework that should take 20 minutes takes 3 hours.
I’m a type A personality, so if my day that I planned doesn’t go as scheduled, it can be a very long day of stressing!
holding my composure at work
I come unglued within my relationships.
Well, I have twin 5year old boys, a 21month old girl, my husband started his last semester of bible college today. And I am 40. I would LOVE to have this Unglued set!!!!
I am most likely to become unglued when everything seems to be happening at once – dinner, children talking, baby crying, etc.
immediate family and extended family
I come unglued when I am 100% correct about something but family members want to argue. I am quick to admit when I have misspoken or just wrong but some can not do the same. The coming unglued is more an internal explosion and a mild annoyance outwardly but all the same the glue us undone.
I become unglued when an extended family member attacks my mothering choices, and then there are the little things with the kids that can build and cause a Mama volcano, or un-gluing. Would love a copy of the book and devotional to help me out!
LACK OF TIME TO KEEP UP WITH ALL I FEEL I NEED TO DO. I’M NOT GOOD
AT SAYING NO. THEN I GET ALL WORKED UP OVER ALL I’M COMMITTED TO.
I had a fall out with my best friend two years ago. We both believed we were right on an issue and refused to budge on the matter, in fact, my friend refused to talk about the matter, with me or with our pastor. The fall caused several other relationships to be ruined. I have been left with an unresolved issue that I have no control or ability to fix. I have lost friends, and I have seen other relationships torn because we didn’t realize that it wasn’t us against each other, it was us against the devil… And because of that, the devil won. Even though it’s been two years, I still come unglued whenever the issue is brought up.
Going to a friend with my own struggles and being brushed off,or having them tell me how their problems are so much worse. Or getting a lecture. I’m always the listening ear. Always the one who lends the shoulder to cry on, so when I need that filled and I don’t get it,I tend to come a little Unglued. Struggling with it today.
The reasons I would like to win this giveaway: I have had the revelation that not only do I have a smart kid but I have a smart kid packaged with a strong will child all in the same package. This combination challenges my self discipline in ways I have not been challenged before. I challenges me to stay glued! (glued to HIM!)I know its all a part of the plan. The plan to grow her and to grow me, but I sure could use some encouragement and new tools in my tool bag. I wake up every morning reviewing the truths of God’s word and I go to bed at night reviewing the day and wondering if there was anything I could have done differently. I have had satan nipping at my heels all week. I homeschool and don’t have a whole lot of time to seek encouragement. Friends seek me for encouragement and I freely give. I value my time with the Lord each morning as I prepare for my day, but some days lately are definitely hard and leave me exhausted.. Meanwhile, my oldest child brings the balance of joy with her yielding spirit to the Holy Spirit and her currently compliant attitude. I am simply thankful that both aren’t challenging me at the same time. Thank you for the opportunity for this giveaway, may the Lord continue to guide and bless your ministry for His kingdom.
I love them dearly, but there are days when the constant neediness of my three boys, ages 3 and under, can unglue me.
unfortunately lots of things make me come unglued!
I tend to come unglued when I’ve told certain little people for the 800th time to do something (hang up back packs and/or coats, pick up toys, etc.). They will be my undoing!
Hmm..how to choose? I would have to say bickering, whining and complaining kids. Of course they don´t MAKE me come unglued, but that is when I most often choose to come unglued.
As a new stay at home mom of a 1and 2 year old I am in dire need. Having a terminally ill child and taking him to appointments 4 days a week, dragging my other son around, trying to keep house, stay organized, make friends, get to church, enjoy life, and never having my family ask how I am doing …… I am unglued for sure!
Kim, I am praying for you! Let the house go! I mean not to the point the health department needs to step in, but it doesn’t have to be perfect. Focus on your kids and people may not know what to say (I know a sorry excuse) so you may have to tell them, I need 20 minutes to go for a walk today, who can sit with my kids? Or I really could use someone else to take my other son to do something more fun while I take his brother to the doctor.
Sadly, most of my unglued moments happen with my kids.
Karen, for most of my life, I rarely ever came unglued. However, the most important person in my life is also the most frustrating person in my life! For 20 years, I just stuffed, most of the time. My worst unglued during those years was throwing a knife at him (that’s what was in my hand). It’s a good things a can’t hit the broad side of a barn! Something happened to me about 25 years ago, I found it harder and harder to stuff. I started just letting it all out. It didn’t make things better, it made them worse. Yet God remains faithful! I’ve prayed and asked for forgiveness and for help! My man is trying (not well in my opinion) and I’m trying (again, not well). I’m trusting God that with the help of the Holy Spirit and those He’s sent into my life through OBS, our lives will finally glorify HIM!
I become unglued over quite a few things now that I really think about it. I get unglued over whining and blatant disobedience. I get unglued over mess, I know something that is bound to happen everyday. It still unglues me at times though. I need to learn how to not let everything bother me to the point of becoming unglued.
What causes me to come “unglued” is when I try to do it all at work and home which is very often. I find it very difficult to ask for help or let others help. For some reason I “believe” that I need to do everything for everyone and I need to do it myself. Then when I come home and see everyone just sitting around, doing nothing and I am running around cooking, cleaning, etc…….I get mad/resentful and ultimately “unglued”!
I come unglued when someone doesn’t follow through their promises.
Our new puppy is making me come Unglued. I love
A clean house & the puppy is going potty everywhere! I have
Hollered more than I have in a long time! I feel stress just
Having to watch him & try to catch him before he “goes”.
Since I am the type that holds it all in until I explode, I don’t just come unglued, I come completely undone. Boy, do I regret it after the anger has subsided. I can say that it’s not usually the behavior or the actions of others, but it’s usually the words; words that hurt, accusations that aren’t true, condemnation, etc. Yes, my kids can be sassy, bicker, and misbehave, but I can usually keep it together.
What makes me become unglued is when I am overwhelmed with life! I get aggravated with my family…when they make unwise choices…and worry makes me unglued also! But Jesus is the glue that holds me together when I feel like I am falling apart!
Almost everyday am so Unglued with things at home and at work, then even church relationship is affected…
Help needed actually
Hormones and too much on my schedule will cause me to come unglued! I can’t do a whole lot about the cycle of hormones, except know they are coming
I can do a better job of giving me more margin in my life so when those unexpected things creep up I am not totally thrown off by them!
Clutter and disorganization
I can come unglued at almost anything if I don’t step back and pause before reacting to my situation. It seems like my initial reaction is always to get mad or yell instead of being calm and gentle. I know if I don’t ask Jesus to help me that I will come unglued. If I haven’t started my day off with Him, it is not pretty and even if I have, I can still forget about Him and go my own way!
I frequently become unglued when the house is a wreck, the dogs are barking or my son won’t eat the food I just prepared for him. Most recently (30 minutes ago!), I yelled at my husband for unplugging an air freshener and spilling the fragrance oil all over a book I had just bought. I would love a chance to win and learn how to not become so unglued. Thanks!
I find it easiest to come unglued not necessarily when something happens but when I am tired or not feeling well when something happens. But I can feel myself becoming unglued on the inside when I feel rejected in a situation. Thank you for your transparency in sharing your unglued moments.
Oh my…how it seems I am not alone…thank you God! I would really LOVE to win this giveaway for some encouragement when I do come “unglued”! It is usually some close family members that push me over the edge. Sometimes, daily. I have found, though, that when I spend some early quiet time with God, I’m better able to focus on Christ in those moments of almost losing it. And even when I do get quiet time…I still fail.
when he leaves dirty dishes filled with water sit in the sink ‘to soak’ instead of putting them right into the dishwasher
Seems like EVERYTHING can make me unglued these days! I was diagnosed with a non-cancerous tumor two weeks ago on my adrenal gland which means my hormones are out. of. whack. Seriously. I’m a nut job. Thankfully, God put me in the care of the right doctors and I’m having the tumor – and my adrenal gland- removed in February. I would love this book set as I prepare for life with normal hormones and learning how to follow God like a non-crazy person
I just finished her Made to Crave book with women at church this week and LOVED IT! Unglued is in my queue to work through next!
Oh yeah I’d love to win!!!
I become unglued when I’m operating in my flesh, not relying on the Spirit!
During math homework sometimes, especially when my son is tired and frustrated and wants help. So I start walking him through the problem and he’ll say, oh I get it now, only to realize later, he didn’t. The tears are flowing, his, we’re both tired from a long day and fuses are short.
I usually come unglued most with my children and my husband, the ones I love the most.Would love to win the set.
Blessings,
Not agreeing about finances can make me come unglued!
monk5 at charter dot net
I ususally come unglued at spouse or children–and it is because I can be controlling and if things do not go my way, I come unglued. Also when my children are rude to others, don’t say please and thank you even though I have told them hundreds of times. I can come unglued at those times easier than I wish.
I come unglued anytime someone wrongs one of my children and I come unglued at home when everything is chaotic.and messy.
I would give the books away as a gift. I have already done the study and it is excellent.
I come unglued when my house gets totally cluttered. It just hits me all of a sudden. Everyone around me knows they better run, when I hit that point. Ha ha!
When my husband comes home from work and wants to “relax” tends to cause me to come Unglued. Especially when I’ve been at work all day as well and just want to relax. ;-/
I’m striving not to become so easily unglued. It was easy when we were away on vacation this past week and a half…now the rubber hits the road.
Please enter me in the giveaway.
Blessings,
Jodie Wolfe
Thanks for the devotion today! i often can become “unglued” when something happens that isn’t on the schedule or when people are rude and unkind constantly.
sometimes i react on the outside or i stuff it. Seems to be a common thing for the majority of us. It reminds me that when others become “unglued” that often there is more going on with them than i know about. I am so glad that the LORD is patient with us and loves us!
Lately I am so tired of feeling unappreciated, taken for granted, unloved, and falsely accused by those closest to me that it leads to unglued moments. After thirty years it feels like things will never change.
In the past it has been arriving, expecting something to be completed and it is not.
Having my children question me or not do what I ask make some unglued! I need to work on my need to feel in control.
Several below zero weather days, a four year old bouncing off the walls, a 10 week old puppy and a micro managing boss…makes me come unglued!
I am an extremely emotional person. I get emotional about everything. I mostly struggle with my temper at rude people who don’t know how to use a blinker, they don’t know what they should do at a stop sign and other rude behaviors. I also tend to throw or slam my cell phone or other electronic gadgets when they freeze up on me.
i become unglued when the neighbors are toooo loud and inconsiderate of anyone else.
When someone criticizes my husband or children unjustly.
my children when i’m overly tired or i just let my emotions get the best of me.
Most recent – Daddy knowing I am having an especially bad day (physical health issues & being sick) & he not only doesn’t offer to help, but doesn’t do his self assigned chores either!
What DOESN’T make me come “unglued”? Kids, traffic, my darling husband, the job I feel trapped in, being late to church, forgetting why I walked into a room, messes left by others, the extra 20 (well, really 40) pounds I carry around, not being the person Christ wants me to be…
menopause (brought on by chemo) and a preteen… we’re a work in progress…
I allow certain family members to push my buttons to the point of becoming waaay unglued.
Lately my dog is making me come unglued. Sometimes my grown children push my buttons too. Some days it does not take much.
I come “unglued” when people buy into rumors or make assumptions about other people’s motives or circumstances rather than seeking out the truth and asking questions of the people involved. I’ve been involved in some church leadership issues over the last couple of years that have had a lot of that going on and it makes my blood boil. Aren’t we supposed to be extending love and grace to one another and being the hands and feet of Jesus? Part of that for me personally has been to keep in mind that God sees all things and He will bring to light those things that are hidden and secret motives. I’m learning to let go of trying clear my name and convince people of the truth and instead trust that God will handle it and work in people’s hearts. It’s not my job to fix it…it is my job to extend grace and forgiveness as many times as it takes and that is an ongoing process.
I come unglued sometimes when the kiddos in my life present a snarky attitude. Not the best example to set when I’m trying to explain why their tone is not appropriate but I become unhinged myself. I try to remember my mantra from when they were toddlers: “Are you feeling tired or hungry?” (which was usually the case and diffused the situation in my mind a bit). I apparently was so good at using it that occasionally my 4 year old would say, “Are you feeling tired or hungry, mama?” when I was a bit short. Sadly, it was easier then b/c young kiddos grouchies didn’t come with “attitude.” But always something to continue working on.
I come “unglued” when I’m not spending my quiet time with Jesus. It doesn’t matter if it’s extra socks on the floor or a legitimate uncalled for temper-tantrum from my toddler…if I don’t have that time with the Lord, I become “unglued.”
Being treated like I cannot be trusted to do the job I have been given
I can relate!!
Unglued
All of us have at some point in our lives. My big one right now is my son who has been sick for several months now. He keeps waiting and waiting fir the doctor, social services etc. to contact him instead of calling them back after it has been days since they were to call.
Yes I need Unglued
Unglued? How about Done? Where you’ve screamed,cried, and banged your chest for a solid year only to be ignored. And now I feel like I’m on a desert island all by myself, nobody cares, nobody listens. What’s the point in losing it? It’s not effective, so why care anymore? Does your book tackle the “Beyond the Unglued”?
When I end up ‘doing it all’ and my kids don’t take care of their messes… When certain extended family members do hurtful things and then pretend everything is fine… When I feel invisible to my immediate family… When I feel I am being taken advantage of…
I come unglued over the smallest things when I get over tired. At that point, my husband does not know what to do; give me a Kleenex or leave me alone. Due to many physical problems currently, this seems to be happening more often as of late.
Became unglued last night over my kid not turning in his homework after I found his assignments still in backpack!!!!
I threaten to come unglued (and have plenty of times) the most by the people I love the most and am closest to. And, it’s worse when I’m very tired or at “that time of the month.”
Boy oh boy..surely this book was written for me. I come unglued in my head, more then verbally and get on my ‘case’ all the time for it. On the outside I am patient and long suffering (& proud of it…ggl) and a peacemaker, but over my 72 years, I definitely have had my moments of coming ‘unglued’.
I retired in 1999. Now I make and give away nice sized and pretty dolls (boy ones are handsome) and have completed 145 to date. one goes out to Switzerland to a 4 year old tomorrow. (The first completed one to go overseas) 5 will be left to look for a VERY sick child to love. The one in Switzerland is in need of a bone marrow transplant.
I am handicapped due to empysema but can do that. I’d love to win the book, etc.
thanks for the opportunity.
Vickey Stamps
What most makes me come Unglued is when I’m not listened to.
Nothing gets me riled up quite like not being heard. It makes me want to EXPLODE!
Lately everything unglues me. My lack of self-contol with over eating, my husband, finances, job, my 2 teenagers, the economy, the president, people at church who don’t volunteer, and even my friend who is coming to visit for the weekend…I think I need this book.
Hmm, I am a mother of two children who works full time in school. There are a lot of opportunities to become unglued- breakfast eaten too slowly, missing shoes, wrinkly laundry. The little things become big things and the big things become a problem without God. I could definitely use a little help not coming unglued!
Inefficiency at work. I take so much pride in what I do, I just lose it when others don’t live up to my expectations. Sometimes, the other person truly dropped the ball. Other times, however, they simply didn’t juggle and balance the ball the way I could and want them to. I don’t come unglued at them, but later, at home, I vent and vent and vent. I just seem to have no patience.
i frequently come unglued at my close family members esp. when I’m not getting enough sleep. My hubby is the most often reciepant of these rants, since it would be totally uncool to yell at the 10 month old.
I frequently come unglued when I feel I am no longer in control. I need to remember to get out of the drivers seat of everyones lives and let God take the wheel.
I hate to admit it but I came unglued with my Mom yesterday. My son was acting up and I was correcting him. My Mom stepped in and told him if he stopped acting that way then she would take him and buy him new Legos. She has done this before but I lost it with her yesterday. Not a good way to start the day.
Other drivers unglue me too often, and those are the ungluings that are explosive. Unfortunately, I’m also a stuffer – when it’s close family members.
Im a single mom to three beautiful children. I tend to come unglue when I have given them directions to do something 3 times and they all want to fight with each other. I have 2 boys that are teens and a 5 yr old daughter that likes to refree her brothers fights. So when she is in the middle of the boys wreslting and gets hurt I come unglued. When I have a term paper due and no ones is paying attention to me I come unglued.When things arent going the way I want to and Im frustrated I come unglued.
Right now it is the anxiety of waiting to have a biopsy to see if I have cancer or not has me on edge. I am no afraid of the cancer I just want to KNOW! So I am a little touchy right now.
I have to say that hear lately I have been coming “unglued” over EVERYTHING! This something that I am in no way proud of in fact I am completely ashamed of my actions. I am a teacher in a CDC class room with special needs children. Some times I am totally overwhelmed and when I get home my husband and three kids know about it! It seems as soon as I walk through the door the fighting, yelling, screaming, and tattle telling begins. I react by doing the same thing toward them when I KNOW that it is wrong. Even while I am doing it I can hear myself saying stop you know this is not how God wants you to react. Then my husband gets home and he starts to yell and scream and it just snowballs from there to by the end of the night it is complete crazy! I find myself coming more unglued on my son more so than anyone. Even if the girls are starting with him I always blame him in the end . I can tell it is putting a strain on our relationship and I do not want that. I know what I am supposed to do but I need guidance to follow through! I do not ever want my kids or husband to feel not loved or that they are a complete hassle in my life. I want when someone asks them about me to say that I loved them unconditionally and always had time for them.Not that I was always coming unglued on them!
Oh Karen! Love the maternal woman in my life…..but sometimes
Sometimes I just have to call on Jesus!
xo,
Beth
Coming unglued? Let me tell you about coming unglued!!! I am the oldest of five children. My parents passed away and left me in charge of a mess of an “estate”. Words are flying, feelings are being damaged and the past few weeks have gotten really hard. I feel so alone! My husband doesn’t want to hear it…which leaves me empty and yearning for someone to talk to and let me vent…and on top of what I personally have going on, we also take care of his elderly mom and quadriplegic brother who live with us (with the help of sitters).She fell in the wee hours of the morning last night and now we are sleep deprived. I feel like nerves are frayed, I am biting peoples heads off, people are biting my head off…just not a good situation right now. I can only pray that it gets better soon!!! I am coming UNGLUED!!!!
Wow, it is just me! I have been feeling so alone. No one in my family even tries to hear my story, but simply ignores or denies. I am praying for you, Kathy that God would bring you peace and comfort for your family. Thank you for sharing!
I come unglued when I am continually repeating myself and it appears that no one is listening. That is just one of the instances, unfortunately, but I am loving the book Unglued.
A boss who only speaks to you in a meeting and doesn’t give feedback on questions that I have asked. The boss makes me feel like I am invisible and not a valuable part of the team.
When I feel like I am losing control.
Lately it seems like I become unglued over any and everything. My family thinks that I have lost my mind. I even did the bible study. I need a
refresher. When I’m normal it is last minute things disrupting my day.
My moments of coming unglued have been coming more frequently and I wonder if they are hot flash induced. Most of the flare ups come at the times my close family members can’t seem to realize their actions are seen by the young ones and being mimicked by them. Yet, they want the you g ones to behave in a more respectful manner – the parents have been caught in lies and then disabling the young ones for the same thing? Unglued!!!
My kids:(
Most recently, I have experienced those who judge or instantaneously tell me, without a prayer or a second thought, when it comes to the relationship issue. They don’t know the whole story, and do not even try to understand, but they are looking at only the surface, then simply judge or presume. It is more hurting, makes me come unglued, when the most trustworthy ones I belive do this.
Dear Lord,
Help me Lord, to forgive those who have made me unglued. Forgive me if I am being sensitive to this issue. Help me find a right counsel. Lord, I truly want to live care-free life, handing all the issues over to Your mighty hands. I am giving You the control over all of my desires. Thank You, Lord in Your precious name, A-men
I become unglued when my children lie to me. Or I really come UNGLUED when my husband or children ask me why I am coming so unglued over something so small. OMG!
Most recently, I have experienced those who judge or instantaneously tell me, without a prayer or a second thought, when it comes to the relationship issue. They don’t know the whole story, and do not even try to understand, but they are looking at only the surface, then simply judge or presume. It is more hurting, makes me come unglued, when the most trustworthy ones I believe do this.
Dear Lord,
Help me Lord, to forgive those who have made me unglued. Forgive me if I am being sensitive to this issue. Help me find a right counsel. Lord, I truly want to live care-free life, handing all the issues over to Your mighty hands. I am giving You the control over all of my desires. Thank You, Lord in Your precious name, A-men
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I become unglued most often during the early morning hours when I’m trying to get everyone out the door on time and no one is listening to me and at night when I’m trying to get kids bathed & in bed & their not listening to me. Hum, I’m sensing a theme…I’m tired during both times and no ones listening to me…thinking I need to pray about these triggers
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In His Calm,
Mary
I become unglued when my family makes me late…. Let alone all the things mentioned above!
Let me first say – oh thanks goodness it isn’t just me! The bickering of my oldest girls (10 and 7) will unglue me faster then anything. But the one that worries me are the times I get unglued at work. i worry that a slip up could cost me my job if it was ever to the wrong person. This post really jumped out at me today and I am looking forward to this book – even if I don’t win
I come unglued when I am overwhelmed with the day’s itinerary and then my family leaves bits and pieces of themselves all over the house. AHHH! This drives me crazy. I am glad they think I am super woman, but I am not. I am really looking forward to this book. Thanks
I become unglued when I’m unfairly accused!
I become most “Unglued” when others forget I’m no longer the mess of a woman I once was. They think my past is who I am today, and because of God’s amazing grace, I thankfully am not.
A member of my immediate family who questions everything my husband and / or I say and do.
I come unglued when I’m feeling anxious or stressed. Sad to say that my family is usually the ones that see me when I come unglued. Excited to read Lysa’s book.
I become most unglued with my son, mainly because I’m a slight control freak…and he knows just how to push my buttons. I am already working on staying calm but every little bit of extra support would be wonderful!
I become most unglued when I am overwhelmed; too much to do, too little time and drama all around. Thankfully this doesn’t happen often, but when it does I can come unwound.
When a spouse, now an ex-spouse, consistantly missed coming home for dinner. Maybe it was my cooking. (I can laugh now.).
WORK, CO WORKERS
Everyday my morning mantra is , You don’t have control over others choices, so let it go..
However, it goes out the window when I realize I am doing the job I wasn’t hired for….
I find myself coming unglued on a daily basis with traffic. This has been a major issue for sometime. I drive a 100 miles @ day to work and most days I just end up crying and just loosing it. (not at anyone, but I can sure talk in my car with the windows rolled up, lol) I pray alot about this, but for some reason today a calm came over me., I really poured my heart out today and asked him to provide a way out and help me find another job that is closer to home. I am trusting him to provide.
Messes around the house!
I did the Unglued Online Bible Study and boy was that God’s perfect timing. We have had a family member move in with us that has no boundaries and does to like us setting them with her. Imperfect progress is a daily goal for me.
I come unglued a lot when it comes to my two girls, ages 8 and 5, for a variety of reasons. I always end up wanting to have the moment back right before I became unglued so I can redo my response/reaction.
Sadly, it is usually the people who I Iove the most that I come unglued with. I hate that I do that but sometimes the words just fall out of my mouth before I catch myself. I wish I could hit the backspace key and erase them all.
I have come unglued a lot in the past year. I’ve had a hard time at work and in my closest personal relationships. I’ve learned a lot from it but know that there’s more to do. I have been reading Unglued and have found it helpful. I’m excited to read the devotional!
I become unglued if I feel I’m being disrespected or if someone disrespects my husband or kids.
Karen, the thing that has most gotten me unglued in the past was the daily grind of living with somebody who has oppositional/defiant disorder. The LORD and I have made great strides in this area, and I am praising Him immensely for this! I still come unglued inside at times when I think too much about how other people see me. Why is it so hard to see myself through God’s eyes only? He is the lover of my soul, my strong tower and defender. Gotta keep reminding myself to trust in Him with my whole heart!
Letting what others think of me or how they treat me override what I know the truth of God’s Word says about me! (And in the midst of it –even having been there, done that — the unwise choice is too often the one I make)
Dealing with an 18-year old daughter who is in a season of irresponsibility, walking in disobedience, and attempting to manipulate and mom and dad to get what she wants. Working full-time in ministry and trying to give grace and mercy to my child during this season can be challenging some days and I admit I come unglued. I’ve begun reading this book and plan to share copies with friends. Praise God for the honesty, transparency and wisdom shared here-Thanks, Lisa!
UNGLUED WHEN AN X FAMILY MEMBER WOULD SAY AND DO THINGS THAT I COULDN’T RESPOND TO BECAUSE IT WOULD JUST CAUSE MORE PROBLEMS. THAT PERSON STEALING PERSONAL THINGS LIKE PICTURES AND REFUSING TO RETURN THEM.
Most of the times that I battle with becoming unglued there are just too many people, making too much noise, and trying to do too many things in one small area of space; Really, when I’m trying to cook dinner, with the one-year-old tugging and crying, the three-year-old bouncing and running after a large ball, the five-year-old attempting to complete his reading homework, and the dear husband tackling a home repair – all in the same small kitchen space – it is all I can do to keep my sanity and try to see the blessings in the chaos.
I come unglued with a coworker quite often because she has a bad attitude. I also have trouble with my teenage son- he argues with everything I say. I come unglued with my niece who is doing drugs and has 4 small children.
I come unglued with my son who likes to play legos instead of do school work (who wouldn’t???). He also likes to tell me “no” to just about anything I ask him to do.
Life with children as mine (16 yr daughter), his (14 yr old daughter & 12 yr old son), and ours (9 yr old daughter) blended family. Makes ths mama unglued.
I come unglued most when those around me do not have consideration for the other people around them. This could be something as small as walking into a room and changing the channel of the tv even though there are people in the room watching it. Maybe it is more the selfishness of the person just taking what they want instead of seeing the whole picture that is going on around them.
I will admit it my “unglued” moments come most of the time with my children ages 10 and 3. I will also admit they also come from my trying to control them (reading Let. It. Go right now) and when I am hormonally imbalanced. UGH!. Trying to get it together so I can be a better momma and recognized their behavior something they have to learn to change.
I, shamefully, come unglued when I am running late. I’ve always had weird time issues. Of course, the rest of my family has no concern about being on time for anything…ever. So, I’m often coming unglued. I could really use this book, huh?
I become unglued too often when I am not taking care of myself physically.
I need to stay away from unhealthy foods.
I have just recently realized (not that I haven’t always known coming unglued wasn’t a good thing) just how damaging & hurtful coming unglued can be for everyone involved, not only for me, the attacker, but for the attacked as well. In my futile attempt to keep peace a couple of weeks ago, I lost it not only with my fiance, but the next day as well with my daughter. Didn’t do anyone any good…just a bunch of hurt feelings and words we can never take back. A horrible feeling. I would love to read her book and share what I learn with others! God bless you all & your ministries!!
I would be blessed to win this because next week I will be a new teacher. new fears, new emotions, new heartaches, and new emotions. Emotions to adhere to the heart of a parentless child, or to the one that is just “unlovable”. I never wanted to be a teacher, until God called me to it. I was the child in the classroom that never had a father or mother by my side. Never did I have someone telling me to not give up, except my emotion-controlled teachers. I want to be that teacher, to serve and give back and the book would be a wonderful tool. I have been financially independent since adolescence, enduring multiple jobs and loans to reach my goal of becoming a teacher. As of today, I have also learned that financial stresses and circumstances will not stop my passion for the greater good in education. I want to be a teacher not only make a different in a child’s life but to show children, like I was shown, that regardless of dark moments light can be seen. I hope with this book I can have the emotions to display the same!
Fear. I believe it is the root cause in most situations when I have come unglued. Fear that I don’t know what I’m doing as a mom and I’m going to ruin my children. Fear I’m making a wrong choice. Fear I’m not as good a friend as I should be. I’m so sure I could benefit greatly from what I know is godly advice written on the pages of Unglued. Thank you for the opportunity for a chance to win the gift pack.
Pam’s right on–the root of my coming unglued is usually fear, but I often cannot see it until after I am trying desperately to glue things back together for the loved ones who catch the fallout. I have identified a certain feeling I have in just the last few seconds before I become “unglued”–and it’s really the grip of fear. If I can respond to that and walk away to think about it, I can usually avoid a meltdown!
I have 3 wonderful kids, really I do. But, for about 9 years now I’ve been in a hamster wheel cycle of unglued yelling and then asking forgiveness from my kids. I come unglued on a daily basis no matter how much I tell myself to breath and relax before I get home from work. It’s crazy and I need God’s help in a huge way. If you could pray for me, I’d appreciate it too. It’s been very slow progress.
I am in the (supposed to be) final month of a 2 year long int’l adoption. I’m stuck in a third world country, away from my husband and other children. This is the second trip in 2 months and nothing seems to be progressing in time. I so want to be home with our new adopted child (who is with me here – special needs child who has many challenges I feel ill – equipped to handle)! I am so unglued with this process! I need this resource desperately!
Thank you!
When things don’t go according to “plan”.
I become unglued in the presence of BLAME. It’s a symptom of not being willing to take responsibility for your own actions. Blame drives me up the wall till I feel like I’m hanging from the ceiling!Help!
I come unglued with the “little” things and as much as I try, I have a real hard time letting them just roll off my back!
Seeing our chickadees bedroom a tornado mess, within hours of cleaning it, receiving negative passive aggressive comments from an inlaw, having a sibling who doesn’t want to spend time with or speak to his family of origin – only wants friends in his life. I would love to read this book, I have heard so many great things about it.
One of my friends or a family member are the ones who tend to make me unglued moreso than a stranger. I tend to get unraveled at times when I feel they are not listening to me or having a disagreement with them. I do not reveal this side of me around total strangers.
What causes me to become unglued? Mornings!!! Why do math books hide and bread become moldy and cheer bows vanish and forms that require signatures appear when wer’re trying to rush out the door to make it to school on time???
The first thing that popped in my head was when my kids don’t listen to me or they back talk, I tend to not have very much patience with it and become unglued. I would love to learn patience in that area!
I will have to say the amount of pressure I put on myself, hearing my children fight, and just be mean sometimes.
I posted my unglued moments earlier. As I read about the lives of my sisters in Christ I would love for my family members to read some of these post. They need to see that it is not always us but them that takes us there. We don’t like going to that place, thats why we read books like Unglued.
After about14 years of being a homemaker not knowing of I should be going to look for a job. What kind of job do I want? I still want to be at home if my children are ill. How would it work for summer? Ahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!
My ungluing is more like a melt-down…When I become overwhelmed by the challenges of day to day living….along with the thoughts that crowd my head regarding fears for loved ones and the world state in general. I get unglued when I don’t control what I dwell on…
I become unglued when “things” don’t go the way that I am expecting to go. And that could be just about anything. I need an intervention!
One instance I come unglued is when we are rushing out the door and the kids aren’t cooperating fast enough or are plain not obeying. And the reason I am rushing is I am a procrastinator and am usually running late – my fault! Oh to have patience with my own family that I have with everyone else!
I hate to say, but it’s usually my close family or my job that makes me come unglued. It’s affecting my relationship with my family & friends poorly. I have tried all that I can think of to not loose my cool but so far, it’s to no avail. I am praying that this book will help show me the way to not come unglued so often.
I become unglued when holidays come up and yes I love that everyone is visiting and happy, but it seems I am always dong all the work! I miss spending time with my grandchildren. By the time it is all cleaned up I have very little time with them. Isn’t there an infinite law in the universe that says Grandmas and Grandchilren should always play!!!!!!
Don’t get me wrong I love my family. Once in a while I here you always looked stressed or tired….
Ya think…..
I become unglued when I’m trying to hold a family devotion time and no one is paying attention, or they are goofing off or talking the whole time. It really unnerves me. I guess expecting a little reverence out of four teenagers is asking too much?
When the house is in shambles and I’ve got 7 kids pulling me in 50 different directions. Also, trying to juggle ministry in the other hand!
I become unglued when it comes too me losing this weight, I get at a steady pace and then my Fibromyalgia and Rheumatoid Arthritis gets in the way that stops me from exercising and I don’t mean for like a couple of days, I have been in a flare up for about two weeks now, my weather doesn’t help where i live, right now its freezing cold and sleeting outside tomorrow it will be 52 degrees for the high and sunny, it’s been on a roller coaster my body. I get unglued with my body and then I turn on my hubby and think that he doesn’t love me/want me and it’s because of the way I look when I know that’s not true because he is my biggest supporter. It’s my insecurities trying too ring in even losing almost 40 lbs and starting too feel good about myself it still reels it’s ugly head.
Unfortunately, I can come unglued when my kids (and husband) continue to do the things that push my buttons (and they know they push my buttons) such as leaving the toilet seat up, not bring up dishes from their room, throwing clothes on the floor AROUND the hamper, etc. I’ve read Unglued and it really helped me view my reactions in a different light. I would love to win this pack to pass along this wonderful insight to a friend.
Something that will quickly and totally UNGLUE me is when someone calls me on the spur of the moment like my dad for instance and wants to do something or go somewhere in an hour. I hate having things sprung on me at the last minute and he knows that but not wanting to hurt his feelings i stuff mine till i get off the phone. Then i pitch a total hissy fit, ranting and raving – my cat hides under the bed. I eventually calm down and am fine sorta. All i ask is a days notice, for some reason my ADD self needs time to adjust to an idea not in my original plan. That’s something that will cause me to become unglued!
Hi! I would love to win the gift package to share with a friend. I come unglued when people almost run me over as I cross the street. This just happened today, a couple of hours ago. Thank you Lord for sparing my life. Laurie
When things don’t go my way. Like when my girls don’t listen to me or do what I tell them to and my husband doesn’t help out.
I get unglued when parents want to be the friend of their children vs. their parent!
So sad to admit that!
I would LOVE to win that package – WOW!!!
Thank you so much for the opportunity!
Sometimes I come unglued because of small things, even the internet not working. That’s so sad. I’m learning to constantly be in sync with Jesus and not let every small circumstance change my attitude for the day. I’m not perfect but I’m walking with the One who is!
Trying to see eye to eye on financial issues with my husband…..0 to nightmare in 3.2 seconds flat.
People who try to cause my routine to change. In some sense they’re right in other I’m right. I need to be humble and change certain things. I need to be strong and say no to others. So I also need a little wisdom mixed in.
When my kids are whining – being patient in love is not always easy!
I most often come unglued due to the impulsivity of my 6 year old boy. I keep praying for imperfect progress! Thanks for a chance to win!
“Unglued” usually happens when I have missed my quiet time with Jesus. But it never fails on a Sunday on our way to church I get irritated at family not being ready, we are late after dropping the dog off and food for lunch. Then on our ride the conversation turns into knit picking and by the time I make it in I don’t want to hug nothing just need quietness to regroup.
I can become very unglued when plans don’t go as they should. I am learning to calm down, relax and trying to laugh through it. Easier said than done ; )
-Colleen G.
What makes me unglued the most these days is my son who repetitively does not do what I ask and seems to forget that I’ve even spoken to him. I think I could learn alot from your book….
Hey Karen!
Ugh. Emotions. I definitely think I’ll be working on controlling them for the rest of my life. I’m 22 right now, close enough to being a teenager that I still have days when I want to lose it, but out of it enough to BEGIN to really appreciate my sweet mother and the grace she had in dealing with me all those years! (I’m sure as I mature, I’ll begin to recognize more and more of her patience, self control, grace, and love).
Right now, the thing that makes me want to come Unglued is just the future and the unknown. I just went through a breakup and though my future feels bright and wide open, it also seems completely foreign. I have no idea where the Lord is leading me and it makes me want to doubt who He is, and seek out easy emotional comforts.
I’d love to win a copy of this book, not just for myself, but also to use as a Bible Study with the college group I lead!
I used to be a very active, always-going type of person. In 2005 I was diagnosed with a condition that put me out of work and left me depending on strong medications just to make it through the day. I have what is called Persistent Idiopathic Facial Pain, and the associated diagnoses of ringing in the ears, chronic migraine, and extreme sensitivity to light, sound and touch. I come unglued most often when my own limitations make it difficult for me to handle day to day life. I was always a strong person who took care of myself and, for almost 15 years as a single mom, my 3 children. Now I get disability and often need the help of others to go places since I have no warning before the constant pain is added to by a migraine or some other trigger, and I have to take even more meds to cope with the increased unpleasant sensations. It is sometimes very hard to let go and just be who I am, weaknesses and all. I get frustrated at myself and I lash out because I can’t be who I want to be. I also come unglued when ignorant (deliberately unkind) people treat me like I’m putting on an act or like I don’t know my own body. Some days I just want to hide in a cave where nobody buy my loved ones knows where I am. I get tired of explaining to people who really don’t care why I wear sunglasses in the store, why strong perfume makes me sick, or why I can’t turn up the TV as loud as a lot of people like it because it makes my head scream. I try, and I pray, but sometimes I could use some encouragement – or a boot on the backside. Thanks for the opportunity.
Would love to read this:-)
Unfortunately, I seem to come unglued the most at home, with those I live with.
Had you asked me this question a few mths ago, I would have been able to rattle off at least a dozen answers. But since reading Lysa’s book, God has been working on my heart. Big time!!! I don’t let things bother me like I used to. I use Lysa’s saying “if this is the worst thing that happens today…” ALOT…
For me it would be an immediate family member (teen). We are at constant battle at times, never seeing eye to eye. I prayer, do better, then not so good, roller coasting up and down. After reading about the book, it sounds like a real help.
Most often, I come unglued when I feel like I’m alone in my efforts to care for my family. Hubby and kids usually don’t see the messes we live in, the clock ticking by leaving us late for another thing, the work that goes into getting to school/activities/work/church on time. These things are SO amazingly obvious to me that I can’t understand how or why they don’t see it! I feel like there are too many balls to keep in the air by myself…so I lose it. I’m trying not to live like a martyr and remember why I’m doing these things, and sometimes I’m able to think that way. Still a work in progress!
I become unglued when we are all overscheduled and no time to breathe.
I become unglued when I have so much that needs to be done (or I feel needs to be done) and I fail at focusing on what’s important. Instead of focusing on the kids, I’m focused on the ink pen written on the wall in their bedroom and the fruit bar that has somehow managed to find its way into my just scrubbed carpet. Whoever steps into that situation is on the receiving end of a major unglued moment.
When I don’t get my way, especially when I know I’m right!! That’s when I come unglued. Deep down inside, I’m addicted to “the law” and so the thought of “do you realize who I am” runs rampant in my mind and easily off my tongue. It’s not often, but when it happens, I typically leave a trail of bodies behind.
When all four of my kids are asking me to do something for them at the same time.
I become unglued when my kids are bickering and when they question me on having to do simple every day tasks. “yes, you really do have to brush your teeth. Yes, again. Yep, today, too”
Clutter, Clutter, Clutter . . . whether it is physical or emotional. It needs to go or I have the urge to come unglued!
Right now I feel like I’m all unglued and so disconnected that although I know what I need to do (turn it all over to Him) I just can’t or don’t (not sure which it is)…
I get unglued when I have too many jobs and not enough time. If home and work are both pressurised its difficult to give the right amount of focus to each.
I come unglued (inward) when I am having a conversation with someone about something going on in my life or with my family and they interrupt have to turn the conversation back to them.
Becoming unglued? It happens when my family members do not fit my version of what loving family members should be. It’s so tough to see them and hear them act in ways that are unsatisfactory to me- or worse yet- take no action at all when it is needed. Sad to sad that I do fight with becoming unglued during these trying moments.
Feeling I’m out of control not only causes me to become unglued but often acts as a trigger for all kinds of long ago buried stuff I thought I’d ‘dealt’ with. Aaargh!
I become unglued when people decide things for me – like I can’t make a decision for myself! Even if you don’t always agree with my decisions, they are mine – let me make them – right or wrong!
My parents are going through a divorce that started late last year. It’s been tough.
We’re still getting days when my Mom is very short with us kids with very small things. It gets hard to connect with her sometimes because her emotions are torn over all the ruin she and my Dad caused in each other’s lives and their kids’ lives also. They regret putting us through all of it. A big issue has been my Mom’s verbal abuse towards pretty much everyone. She’s turned on us numerous times to vent….but she always asked forgiveness afterwards. But it just continues. She needs healing, so we can all heal.
I think this would help my Mom and all of the rest of us “short-tempered” people around the house.
There are 8 in my family. We’re a beautiful Christian family, who I believe have changed many lives wherever we’ve lived. Coming through a lot together, it’s been great to have my family together as long as we have been. But this isn’t it. I know my brothers and sisters and I all will stick together through these times…even if my parents don’t.
It’s all about staying “glued” right? It would be great to see a change in all of us that would better our character.
God bless,
Megan A.
I have a problem coming unglued at my husband who is ADD. It can be extremely frustrating dealing with his messiness and forgetfulness.
Unfortunately it is often my kids that make me come unglued. I love them but sometimes the constant noise and the bickering make me go over the edge.
When I feel confronted/caught off guard and my feelings are then hurt. I come unglued! The feeling that I need to defend or protect and I feel like I am starting to lose it. Time to reel it in and be rational. I am anxious to read about how Lysa shares how to better process the feelings aspect of things!
Oh, it’s usually my kids that can trigger me to become unglued. I love them so very dearly and I am trying my best to be calm and have self-control in dealing with them but it mostly happens when I’m tired and stressed by the end of the day.
I think many of my unglued moments come from my own negative attitude towards myself and the stress of being a working mom and wife and all of the things that come with that. I can’t wait to dig into the book!