Jun 4

31 Days Giveaway with Arlene Pellicane

Today I’m super excited to introduce my friend, Arlene and she is guest posting on becoming a happy wife.  Who doesn’t want that?  Be sure to leave a comment on today’s post for a chance to win one of 2 giveaway books.

Now meet my friend Arlene.

unnamedArlene Pellicane is a speaker and author of 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife. She and her husband live in Southern California with their three children. You can learn more about Arlene and find free resources to make your home happier at www.ArlenePellicane.com

Has it been more challenging lately to find your smile?

I remember a day when my son came home from first grade, long-faced, dragging his backpack behind him.

“How was your day?” I asked.

“It was so boring, boring, boring,” he replied. “I didn’t learn anything new. I played the same old games at recess. It was boring.”

I had to chuckle. If my first grader thinks recess is boring, what’s he going to think of college lectures or a full-time job? I launched into my best motivational mom speech about how we are the ones who bring the action. “If you’re bored (you know what comes next), it’s your own fault.”

I realized that day that marriage can be a lot like that. We can whine, complain, and fuss about the dull routine of married life. Doing the same thing every day and going apparently nowhere. Inwardly or out loud, we sigh, “I’m bored.”

But I have good news for you. Marriage doesn’t have to be like that. And it’s up to us to bring the action.

You can enjoy new passion and purpose in your very important job as wife. Don’t wait around for your husband to fix things for you. Be proactive to grow in your marriage.

Plan a date to a new restaurant.

Try a new activity together like kayaking, dancing, or photography.

Have a candlelight dinner at home.

Journal about five things you value in your spouse.

Take the words “I’m bored” out of your vocabulary. Realize the blahs come to everyone. Those who have happy marriages learn how to keep boredom at bay by constantly growing.

Now for the giveaway.untitled

Two fabulous people will win a copy of Arlene’s book 31 Days to Becoming a Happy Wife.  Leave a comment about what makes your husband so wonderful.

 

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  1. Debi Schuhow says:

    My husband is funny, he makes me laugh when no one else can. Also, he is tender towards me.

  2. Lisa Muniz says:

    Never tell my husband he can’t do something. No matter how difficult *I* think something may be, my husband is willing to try it. I don’t think there’s anything he can’t do. He can build; he can fix; he’ll even sew the kids costumes for the school play. He’s supportive of me and always there for our four kids, even if what they need comes late and he really should be getting to bed (he gets up really early). I couldn’t have asked for a better partner in life.

  3. Sandi Colwell says:

    He balances my seriousness with his beautiful sense of humor. Couldn’t do this life without him.

  4. Gretchen Hardaway says:

    Unconditional Love.

  5. He is truly my partner and teammate in everything! And he still makes me laugh harder than anyone I know!

  6. Just last night after a long day and getting stuck in traffic he was still happy to be with us with hugs for me after caring for sick children and kind words about a hasty meal, and immediately helping care for sick children and clean out sand from a scrape. He loves us and cares for us c

  7. We’ve had our ups and downs but he continually gives every thing he has for me and our 3 boys. His family always comes first!

  8. After 29 years of marriage, we seem to be in a rut. Some days we dont have lots to talk about, love this man and know he feels same but we need some SPARK!!!

  9. Kathi Whittamore says:

    My husband knows how to make me laugh, he loves to cook and will tell me to get out of “his” kitchen, and he always knows when something is bothering me.

  10. Gina Zahra says:

    My husband can be so thoughtful and caring.

  11. My husband is wonderful because he’s my gift from God!! Some days I forget that gift. We’ve known each other for years, but have only been married for a few months. Excited about this journey God has us on!!

  12. Cordelia says:

    I am deeply grateful for my husband’s time he spends with the Lord at the start of each new day. I know this will bring God’s guidance to his day. This has helped bring us closer together when we need to discuss hard things.

  13. Jen Hutchinson says:

    My husband brings me coffee in bed every morning- I work full time and he is a Youth Pastor, the quietness of the morning is wonderful to spend alone time together.

  14. Robin Fisher says:

    My husband is wonderful because he makes me laugh and genuinely cares about me.

  15. My husband is a gift from the Lord….perfectly suited for and fashioned for my sanctification. He is not perfect, but loves Jesus. I am always trying to find ways to love my husband in “word and deed”. Your book looks like a wonderful way to start!

  16. ANNETTE says:

    He is an awesome provider, he is a hard worker. When I became ill 14 years ago he and the children had to completely do everything work and take care of me, the children and the household and he did not miss a beat.

  17. Several years ago I mentioned how I loathe the chore of emptying the dishwasher. My husband unloads it for me every morning and never complains about it!

  18. My husband took on a very challenging family when we got married. He instantly became the father of three young children, one with autism and seizure disorders. But every day for the last 7 years, he has embraced his role as their father and my helpmate with joy, patience and love. In fact, when our oldest daughter graduated from high school this past week, he cried as much as I did :-) I’m blessed to have him.

  19. Phyllis says:

    My husband is my best friend and has been for 36 years. He is my iron man (he does all of our ironing!- yes dream come true) He always pitches in on all of the housework. Our grand kids love to spend time with us and he is never to busy to put down what he was doing to go outside and run with them or put on a crown and have a tea party. He has made many personal sacrifices for me so that I can do the ministry that I love. I am so blessed to have my man!

  20. My husband watches the kids on Saturday morning so I can grocery shop in peace. Priceless.

  21. Heather says:

    My husband is great because he always makes me feel beautiful and loved. Whether I’m feeling down about my body or feeling like I failed at something, he always lifts my spirits. He asks me “who’s princess are you?” and I answer “Yours and Gods.” Today is our third wedding anniversary!

  22. JanefromSC says:

    My husband is the best and most wonderful husband ever!! He started his own business 25 years ago and amid the ups and downs of a small business and the economy he has never once given up. He works hard in construction every day. Does his own work and then comes home and is a wonderful father, coaching our children in all their sports and loving me. He has always sacrificed and put his family first. He loved my mother like she was his own and constantly did things for her just like a son would. 18 months ago he unexpectedly had to have quadruple bypass surgery then a week later suffered a stroke. He had speech aphasia which affected him in that he could still talk but what he wanted to say always came out wrong. He had to do speech therapy for 4 months and he worked so hard, accomplished much and surprised all the doctors and therapists at how well and quick he overcame his stroke. God was so good to him! Truly performed a miracle!! You cannot even tell he ever had a problem. God is still healing him on a daily basis. But amid all these things he had to overcome and work through on a daily basis he continues to put us all first and praises God for all He has done and continues to do for him.

  23. Jeannette Ragan says:

    My husband is great because he makes me smile. Ever since I first met him, he has always made me smile. He still makes my heart flutter too. I would not be where I am today without him and without God’s working in my life. I thank God every day that He brought my husband into my life and for the life I have no matter the struggles.

  24. My husband supports me in everything. When I decided to leave my teaching position to take a much lower paying one, he encouraged me to do so, even though it meant he would have to make significant sacrifices. He chose to transfer to a job which required him to travel frequently and into harm’s way so that I could have my dream job. I can’t thank him enough for the sacrifices he was willing to make on my behalf.

  25. Been married 34 years – and he is my best friend. We are total opposites and he is able to push me out of my shell and introduce me to new things.

  26. The best thing about my husband is that he loves me and is willing to sacrifice his life for mine. I was recently diagnosed with a serious disease, and he has been so good to me about it, pulling his weight and mine too. He is God’s gift to me!

  27. Margaret says:

    He reminds me about keeping the small things small and not blowing them up into big things.

  28. My husband loves kids and love spending time with them and teaching them new things!

  29. JenJolea says:

    I LOVE to see my husband play with our kids!! We have our own business, so he works an awful lot, but when he’s with the kids, he’s “all in!” Warms my heart!!

  30. Debbie Muench says:

    My husband is an amazing man! We have been married for 20 years. Every year he seems to love me more and more. My husband is the most selfless, caring, loving man I have ever know. His is a true example of Christ’s love for us in all that he does. He is such a wonderful father to our three boys. He lives in such a way that those around him catch a glimpse of God’s unfailing love for us. He lives a life of devotion, faith, and grace to which I am eternally grateful for. We have been in ministry for 18 years which tends to be difficult at times but he has always treated his family as his first and foremost ministry so that he can be effect in all that God has entrusted to him.

  31. We will be married 35 years in October. Sadly, we have wasted many of these years and could definitely use some help in finding joy and happiness again.

  32. Toni Johnson says:

    My husband is amazing because instead of taking the easy road in a hard situation, he chose to forgive me and take the road of healing. I’m in awe of him everyday!

  33. Tracey N. says:

    His caring nature and demonstration of love for his family

  34. kim montaini says:

    My husband is so patient and loving with both me and my boys

  35. He is the best friend I have ever had. We laugh, cry and even fight, but we always know that we love each other and WE ARE WORTH THE FIGHT to stay a team!

  36. KAY LYNN PARRISH says:

    MY HUSBAND CARES FOR ME WHEN I AM SICK. I RECENTLY HAD A BAD FALL AND BROKE MY LEG. I COULDN’T WALK FOR 3 MONTHS. MY HUSBAND TOOK TOTAL CARE OF ME AND TH HOUSEHOLD CHORES. HE IS A BLESSINGS OF THE LORD. I PRAISE THE LORD FOR HIM. THANK YOU FOR YOUR POST . KAY

  37. Wendy Dandridge says:

    My husband works very hard long hours to provide for our family. AND he cooks on the weekends, he’s a great cook!

  38. Lori A. says:

    My husband is so wonderful because he is willing to help out around the house and doesn’t mind my list of honey do’s.

  39. My husband is wonderful because he is always watching out for me!

  40. Heidi Menges says:

    I appreciate my husbands honesty.

  41. He that’s way of seeing me and looking at me, even when I feel like a mess, that tells me he thinks I’m gorgeous in and out.

  42. Emily Bugnacki says:

    My husband is so wonderful because he keeps his priorities straight in life. He puts God first, then me, then our kids, and then all the other “stuff” in life. He has been working really hard on our relationship by taking time to intentionally focus on how to make our marriage more Christ-centered and meeting my relational needs by spending more time communicating. He is an excellent father and always takes the time to point our kids to God.

  43. Jennifer says:

    My husband is a kind caring guy. He’s a hard working and provides for our family. He always pitches in on the house work and willing to do anything for our children.

  44. Sara Neisen says:

    My husband listens to me, mops the floor if I ask, helps with laundry and provides for our family. It will be 20 years for us July 2!

  45. I will be married to this wonderful, God loving man 31 years in August. We have been through ALOT of trials together, some very hard and some not so hard, but we were able to hang on, and God brought good out of each and everyone of them. We have raised four great kids, out youngest just graduated the end of May, moved out right away, and now we are sharing the “empty nest syndrome”.
    We have a lot in common ( I think that’s one of the reasons we get along so well), and there are things like gardening, he didn’t really like but did it to please me, and now says he enjoys it.
    We chuckle now cause we wonder where out next date will be. It’s actually very nice.
    I’m so blessed.
    Anna

  46. Maria W. says:

    My husband of 43 years truly loves me with his whole heart. Recently, I’ve hurt my back and he has shaved my legs for me, put my socks and shoes on me and loves me with the love of Jesus!! His humility and true love for me is having it’s effect. I’m falling in love with him more and more each day! He prays for me, too—that goes without saying. He’s a wonderful husband and he puts a smile on my face!!!

  47. My husband doesnt let too many things bother him. It is so rare to see him in a bad mood- maybe once a year.

  48. My husband has many admirable things that I love about him, but the first thing that comes to mind is his love for his family, me and the 3 kids are always provided for and come first!

  49. He is genuinely excited on laundry day when his underwear drawer is filled! I get lots of smiles and praises! Nice to be noticed.

  50. Laurie Lett says:

    He is wonderful because he took sign language class to learn how to communicate with me, and we are going on to 14 years of marriage this December!

  51. He truly loves me as Christ loves the church with unconditional, sacrificial love. Even when I’ve been most undeserving, He has loved me in a powerful way.

  52. Elaine Segstro says:

    I am so grateful for my Godly husband. He is truly a gift to me. Unconditional love and support for what I do. He surprises me with thoughtful little gifts and is an AMAZING listener!

  53. My husband is an amazing family man – I love his devotion to keeping our family strong. Some days our differences are a struggle, but we find ways to keep our marriage strong.

  54. Jessica says:

    My hubby is wonderful because he is my opposite! He’s silly and goofy and he jumps in at the right time when my serious and critical self is about to meltdown! I love his carefree, yet responsible way!

  55. He is so much fun to be around and he’s such a funny dad. He’s always have the kids going.

  56. I have a wonderful husband, I have been with him longer then I have been alone This year 31 years, and I still love him so much He makes me smile, and laugh! But with his job he is gone a lot, but we try to make the best of our time when he is home. This is the only reason that I like cell phones & texting We may not always be able to be together, ” ” but we can, by phone!

  57. My husband listens to the Holy Spirit. You may think, ‘well, that’s too simple’. But it’s a really big deal! I can’t imagine surviving marriage without the Holy Spirit. When we argue, (oh, wait, I just admitted we do that), we don’t have to prove our point. We just have to stop talking enough to the hear the Spirit convicting me of those words I just said. We’re usually BOTH wrong. :-)

  58. Cindy Francis says:

    We will celebrate 23 years on June 8. He loves the
    Lord, me & the kids, and others. He always enjoys being with us no matter what. He is all of the things mentioned in the above comments and more! I love him so much. He also cleans the bathrooms…my least favorite job. ????

  59. Diane N says:

    My husband is a hard worker, faithful and graceful husband, and still makes me laugh after all these years.

  60. Lucy Sanguinetti says:

    My husband is the most wonderful man I know. We have been married for 28 wonderful years, and have three children. When my daddy died 18 years ago, Jay was talking to my mom about what she missed most about him. Of course the companionship, the love, the sharing of mealtime, etc, came into conversation. But my mom looked up at Jay with tears in her eyes and said, “…For 42 years, Bennie brought me coffee in bed everymorning to wake me up. Now I have to make my own coffee!” From that day until now, Jay has brought ME coffee in bed to wake me up every morning! It’s the little things that count! I love that man!!!!

  61. My husband is not demanding of me – he knows i will get to things and he can be very patient when all is going “crazy”.

  62. My hubby is patient with me even when I blow my top.

  63. Christina K says:

    My hubby allows me the opportunity and blessing to stay home with our two little boys. He excepts the crazy in me and loves me. My hubby is a true blessing!

  64. …after the kids are tucked in bed each night, we cherish our mini-date nights on our living room sofa together… (and he is always able to open those impossible pickle jars for me :) !!) …he.loves.me!!!

  65. He works so hard for our family. He’s always there for support and to remind we of why we do the things we do. He can build and fix just about anything. He is so very loving and he keeps coming up with new ways of spending time with our 2 year old daughter. And he’d humble too!

  66. Andie Terry says:

    Having been married 44 years, not all have been wonderful but the past 31 have been strengthened by our love for the Lord. My hubby has always encouraged me to do what God is telling me to do and then standing by me. His compassionate heart also helped me take care of my Dad who lived with us for 10 years. No we are facing retirement and another chance to spend more time together!

  67. My husband is so kind and thoughtful. Just today I was gone all day and he had dinner on the table when I got home And this is still after 46 years of marriage. I love that man.

  68. Sherri Ireson says:

    My husband has such a kind compassionate heart. He often treats down-on-their-luck strangers that he comes across to meals and conversation and was so helpful when our cousin was dying from brain cancer. I wish I could be a better wife to him!

  69. About to celebrate our 11th anniversary…..my husband works extremely hard to provide for our family and without question I know he will be there for me. He makes me smile and laugh and holds me tight when life gets messy and hard.

  70. My husband listens to me when I experience the frustrations of life. Then he tries to calm me by helping me see my problems from a different angle. He also inspires me to be more active by suggesting fun physical things to do together, like bike riding or playing golf.

  71. Jennifer says:

    My husband is faithful and a very hard worker. He loves me and our children so much!

  72. My husband is amazing. He is my polar opposite. He is calm, and rational. He can fix anything (i look at it i’m not even sure what i’m looking at, but he knows). We compliment each other. He keeps me grounded. He keeps me from letting my imagination get away from me and panicking over nothing. He helps keep me focused,and relaxed.

    And then on top of that, he is an amazing father to our children.

    I have no idea what our family would do without him. I have no idea what I would do without him.

  73. My husband has blessed my life in so many ways. He jumped into the role of stepfather and has exceeded my expectations. He always does the right thing and is truly a man of God. He leads our family by example with patience and love and shows my children what the love of a father means. When my youngest son made some bad choices before prom, he showed incredible patience, grace, wisdom and love. He is the love of my life and I believe our precious Lord chose him just for me and my children.

  74. My husband throws in laundry w/o complaint! A special thing that he does on some Sat. and/or Sunday mornings (not every but sometimes:) is to make me coffee and toast & bring it to me in bed! On those special mornings he usually lets me sleep in and makes sure the kids have eaten and are quietly playing or watching a movie so I can sleep or eat in peace:) Those mornings are my favorite and it makes me feel so special and like he cares about me. These days our marriage has had some very rough waters so it’s more rare to have this happen but when he does it means even more than it used too. Thanks for the give away & for letting me share! I would love to be happier and more content. I do strive with God’s help to be, but I would love to read this book in addition to God’s Word. Blessings!

  75. Julie E. says:

    My husband is always thinking of ways to make me happy. He works so hard at his job (he works 12 hour days doing shift work- some days, some nights) and never complains. On his scarce days off, he is always out working in the yard trying to make everything look pretty for me! If I’m running short on time in the morning, he will make the beds or do whatever needs to be done without me having to ask. He is constantly making me laugh as he is one goofy guy! He always puts me first and is extremely thoughtful. He tells me and shows me all day that he loves me. He’s pretty awesome!

  76. My husband has a 15 yr old son(my stepson) that lives at home with us(he is the only one of our kids still at home). My stepson was 7 when he was in a car accident with his 2 siblings(my husbands other 2 kids) and his aunt and cousin. Unfortunately,Ryan(stepson) suffered the worst of it-he is now paraplegic. My husband is his full time caregiver. He also cooks most nights,and helps me with yard work,and cleaning/organizing the house.He has multiple health problems of his own,but still cares for our kiddo full time(lifting,bathing,etc). He has vowed to care for Ry every day,for the rest of his/Ryan’s life,if need be. We get no outside help,I am a student,and we have no respite care,nurses,nothing. So my husband is to be commended for all that he does. I just wish he would take better care of himself. He has health problems that require more surgery,and dr’s appts.,but does not want to put the weight of full care on me,with school,and the house,and everything. I LOVE this man! We don’t always get along,but I remind myself what he is doing/going thru every day,and it gives me a whole new perspective. PLEASE help us out with some books to help our marriage. Our days consist of caring for our son,cleaning house,and watching tv(can’t go far,with Ry at home,and my TERRIBLE allergies!!)……:(

  77. Sharon Gingerich says:

    My husband is 8 years my junior but a godly leader for our home, extremely self-disciplined (which I lack!), a great Daddy, kind, and loved by all! He is my hero and I am so blessed to be his wife! He was worth waiting for 33 years! ;)

  78. Mickie Hodder says:

    My hubby is retired & I still work and I’m
    blessed as he runs many errands for me
    so I don’t have to ESP in the mornings when
    I’m tired & begin my day with my prayer time
    my alone time with my God…I make sure I tell
    him how much i appreciate & love him!!!

  79. My husband takes an interest in my hobbies and is willing to help out with them eg. gardening, He shows he loves me in so many ways – by working hard, spending time with me and our children, and demonstrating active participation in our local church.

  80. Cheryl Hanson says:

    My husband and I have been married 25 yrs. . Dave is honored and blessed to serve the military he has been through 2 deployments 1 to Iraq, 1 to Guantanamo Bay Cuba.. His logical rational mind keeps me grounded when I am all over the map. He has compassion not only for his family of 3 boys and a daughter in law- but also for his clients ( JAG/ Atty). He stands firm and unwavering in what he believes and stands for. The first few years of our marriage I thought he was going to leave me- because my father divorces my mom when i was 6. Dave calls me his Wifey for Lifey and had to instill that trust and security in me that i never had growing up. His hard work ethic has transferred to our boys. 21, 17 and 14 . His devoted Christian heart prays daily for our family. His decision to have his mother move in with us has been a challenging . He goes above and beyond for his family, friends, community, . He is indeed a blessing :)

  81. Krystal Mueller says:

    MY husband is W.O.N.D.E.R.F.U.L for many reasons…here are 9 of the many reasons:

    W- Willing to be selfless and get up to help with the kids when he would rather relax.
    O- Obnoxiously funny :) He always tries to make me laugh, even when I am mad at him…that’s where the obnoxious part comes in :)
    N- Neighborly, he puts the command to love your neighbor into practice every single day. He puts others first and loves everyone!
    D- Daddy, he is the most amazing dad to our amazing two children. He makes them a priority over himself.
    E- Everything, he is my EVERYTHING!
    R- Resilient, he has completed 2 different 40 day fasts to better his relationship with Christ. I could not go 4 days and he done 40 days, twice!
    F- Fearless, he is fearless because he knows God is in control and that no matter what, His will be done and it is the right things for all of us.
    U- Unwavering in his love and devotion to our Lord and our family.
    L- Likeable, there is no one that leaves his presence without realizing how likeable he is.

    I love my husband so much and I have been so blessed by God to have chosen him to be my partner in this life here on earth. I just hope I can learn to be a better, Godly wife that he can be proud of and brag about. Thank you Lord for choosing Erik to be MY WONDERFUL husband!

  82. My husband and I have been married for 28 years, have 4 boys and were just blessed with a grandson a few months ago. I have learned to love my husband in different way and for different reasons though the years and seasons of our lives. Amazing how the Lord plans our paths and teaches us how to walk on them.

  83. Sabrina M. says:

    He’s truly my best friend that loves me even in my “ugly moments”

  84. One of the things I appreciate about my sweetie is his perseverence. He has had many troubles in his life, especially this year. And while I fear he is close to giving up on life some days, he has continued to push forward and keep on going. Sometimes I’m behind him pushing, sometimes we are walking together. We are both stubborn enough though that we just keep on going. And I praise God for that.

  85. My Husband is a calm man. he keeps his cool even when i’m freaking out.

  86. My husband is a hard worker(at his job). thx

  87. He is kind and loving.

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  89. My husband is the best chef ever. He is also an incredible father to our 2 little boys.

  90. What makes my husband wonderful is the fact that he has stood by my side and grown from boyfriend to fiancé to husband, lover, friend. He’s even my best friend : )

  91. Samantha Atkins says:

    My favorite thing about my husband is that when the weight of the world is on my shoulders, he knows how to make me STOP, pray, and relax. :)

  92. Karen H. says:

    My husband’s heart for the Lord is my most treasured gift in him. He seeks God’s inspiration and guidance to write glorifying music to honor and worship our Lord and to stretch our faith. My husband can fix anything around the house. Even our neighbors and extended family asks for his help for those things. My husband loves me and demonstrates his love for me in too many ways to list. God made him specifically for me.

  93. Camilla Spencer says:

    I am truly blessed to have a husband like mine. He keeps God first at all times and makes every effort to make me happy. Like all marriages we have had rough patches, but we have made it through those times and grew tremendously from them. When our son went on to be with the Lord, my husband was so strong and comforted me, even when I know he needed comforting as well. My husband never complains, but always try to make the best of every situation. God knew that I needed a man like this. And I thank God for him everyday.

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