Sorry this post is up a bit later than usual. I started coming down with a case of the creeping crud last night—fever, chills, some sinus junk. I felt I’d better not set the alarm and just wake up when my body wanted. My body wanted some serious sleep!
I wanted someone to take care of me.
It really doesn’t matter that normally I am mom/nurse/caregiver/encourager/chicken noodle soup maker/medicine dispenser for three kids. When I am sick, I want to be pampered. Normally, I think of myself as very low-maintenance (overheard my hubby telling a buddy that one day. I considered it a huge compliment. Todd has a severe aversion to high-maintenance women and tells tales of many guys at the shop complaining about their own high-maintenance wives. Now…. I didn’t care to hear what ‘non-strengths’ he thinks I have. I know for certain I have many!!!)
However, when I am sick, I get a little high-maintenance myself. And I love me a little TLC.
So, this morning, there was my dear husband, who is off on Fridays, getting me garlic oil pills and a dose of Airborne and a tall glass of water, wanting to know what else I needed.
He is a gem.
What else do I need?
Let’s talk bigger picture here for a minute.
What do wives in general need from their husbands?
So glad you asked.
My friend and Proverbs 31 sister Melanie Chitwood has just released a new book all about that. You could win her helpful book, along with a $10 Starbucks card. Read on……
First, here is a short interview with Melanie.
Melanie– Your new book is called What a Wife Needs From Her Husband. What prompted you to write it?
I believe most married men really do want to please their wives, want to know how to meet their wives needs, but they are just often at a loss for what that would be and what to do. This books gives them some surefire and easy ideas for meeting their wives’ needs. Plus, I had already written What a Husband Needs for His Wife and really wanted to be able to offer a counterpart to my first book.
Why do you think men might need to read such a book? After all, shouldn’t they just instinctively know what their wife desires from them in marriage?
It’s often a wife’s nature to want her husband to read her mind. In return, it’s often a husband’s nature not to get hints or not to receive suggestions in a positive manner. This book eliminates these factors. What a Wife Needs from Her Husband is like a window into his wife’s mind and heart. When a husband read this book, he’ll learn how to respond to his wife’s needs – without his wife saying a word…
How do you and your husband Scott, in the midst of raising a busy family, make communicating about each other’s desires and needs a priority?
We are only one year into owning a new business; plus, we have two active sons, plus my writing and speaking. Our lives are “rich and full,” as are most couples.’ We have a once per week time where we get out our calendars and look at the week ahead. We schedule in time with each other, whether that’s a quick dinner together or just sitting on the couch talking. We find that if we don’t make time for each other, then stuff accumulates. Without some touch-base time, I tend to have a tipping point where unsaid things have built up and eventually explode in some unhealthy communication. We try very hard not to get to that explosion time!
What do you hope men will recognize from reading this book?
My hope is that men will realize that small investments in their marriage can have huge results. I think sometimes men take the “all or nothing” approach. A husband might do something grand for his wife, such as save up for a beautiful piece of jewelry for his wife’s birthday, but then he doesn’t do much the whole rest of the year. While this is certainly sweet, the truth is that most women are not looking for grand gestures. What matters most to a woman is the daily, small acts of investing in the marriage. I card for no particular reason, saying “I love you.” Watching the kids for an hour when he gets home from work so his wife can have some time to herself. These are the small gestures that mean the world to a woman.
Okay ladies….now for the giveaway; a signed copy of the book and a $10 Starbucks card so hubby and the wife can go on a coffee date! :-)
This book is meant to be read by men. Most of you reading this are women. You can leave a comment and try to win this for your husband, son, father, Uncle Louie or other male. To get him to actually read it, do what our P31 president Lysa says to do. Remove all other reading material from the bathroom. He’ll pick it up out of plain boredom and may just get hooked!
Now, for those of you who can coerce a man into reading this blog and leaving a comment themselves….well that comment will be entered in the drawing twice! Let’s see how many men are out there lurking who might be brave enough to leave a comment on a girly blog site. What a show of love that will be!
For you women, the comment can be anything– who you’d give the book to or even a simple “I’m in!”
For you men, you too can just say “I’m in” but all of us gals out here in cyber-dom would be thrilled if you said one thing you appreciate about your wife.
You’d be like “romantic Valentine guy of the year.” or something.
Chicks dig guys like that, ya know! ;-)
Okay everyone….this has been a fun week of giveaways. And there are two more coming next week. One Monday on Presidents Day and one on Fat Tuesday when many of us P31 gals are holding a non-worldly carnival of giveaways.Be sure to click in.
Have a wonderful weekend and remember….you can comment on ALL 5 posts from this week until Sunday at midnight EST so take time this weekend to get caught up on reading, if you’d like.
Well..my fever’s gone and I’m feeling a bit better this morning.
I wish I could say I’m off to relax on the couch and sip tea all day…but, alas, I have one little boy, 10 fish, 3 monkeys, one general and 12 military cadets waiting for me at Homeschool Performing Arts practice. (I’m choreographing for Suessical the Musical :-))