31 Days to Great Sex by Sheila Gregoire
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I’m addicted to Diet Pepsi. I don’t drink a lot of it: usually only a
can a day, and I make myself wait until 11:30 before popping it open.
But that urge hits me by 10:45.
I turn to Diet Pepsi because I’m not a coffee person. Nevertheless,
I’m a big fan of caffeine. And so I drink Diet Pepsi, knowing that
caffeine and aspartame are bad for me, because I figure the pick me up
outweighs the potential dangers.
I know what I need to do: I need to sleep more so I don’t need the
caffeine. That, however, requires effort. And so I turn to the quick
fix.
How often do we do that in our marriage?
When we need to lose weight we watch what we eat. We stop eating out
so much and start cooking healthy foods. We exercise. And we know it
will take time.
If we want a new job, we go back to school. We take extra training. We
work hard at our courses. We know that will take time, too.
But when our marriage is blah, what do we do? Often we take the Diet
Pepsi approach—we have this need for intimacy and connection and fun
that we should meet through our marriage. When that doesn’t happen, we
throw ourselves into something else, like hobbies, or homemaking, or
church activities, or our kids. We take the easy way out.
Rather than putting the huge amount of work in to fixing our
marriage, we turn to something else instead.
Perhaps it’s because it’s not always obvious what work we should do.
How do you get yourself to magically connect? How do you heal weeks
and months and years of holding things back, of feeling disconnected,
of feeling hurt?
It isn’t easy. But I know that God wants more for my body than Diet
Pepsi, and that means that I have to do the hard thing of actually
quitting. And I believe that God wants more for our marriages
than to be merely existing, merely roommates, merely people who walk
through life together, but who don’t necessarily feel that rapturous
intimacy He promised.
Think about this: if marriage is supposed to reflect the deep intimacy
that God feels with us, then shouldn’t marriage be a beautiful thing?
And that intimacy that God designed us for within marriage has, at its
core, sex, even if we don’t always talk about it very much. Sex itself
is also supposed to reflect that urge to know and be known. Yet too
often sex becomes an obligation, something that we do because we know
we have to, but not something that we do because it helps us feel
invigorated, alive, or even loved.
I think God wants more for us than that. He doesn’t want sex to be an
obligation; He wants it to be a celebration! And while sex won’t solve
all the problems in our marriages, it does lay a foundation of
connecting physically, emotionally, and spiritually. It’s how we
become one flesh.
And sex wasn’t just designed to make you feel physically rapturous; it
also makes us feel intimate with our husbands. It makes us feel close.
It makes us laugh. It even helps us to sleep better!
Perhaps it’s time, then, for us to do the hard work—that work that
really does pay off. And I have a really fun way for you to do it in
my new ebook The 31 Days to Great Sex. You work through it with
your husband, but don’t worry; it’s not like everyday is about a new
trick to do in bed. Not at all! Instead, it’s a journey of
communication you take together to help you, step by step, feel more
intimate both inside the bedroom and outside of it.
So if you’re just too exhausted for sex; if you’re sick of him
pestering you; if you can’t figure out what all the fuss is about;
take a deep breath and tell yourself: I may not understand how great
sex is right now, but I know that God meant for it to be great. And
I’m not going to stop until I figure out how that’s actually possible!
Because it is, ladies. Don’t lose out on it.
Billions of people have had sex. I’m not sure how many have actually
made love. I hope through this 31 Days to show people how amazing–physically,
emotionally, and spiritually–making love can be.
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Sheila
Wray Gregoire is a national speaker, parenting columnist, and the
author of seven books, including The Good Girl’s Guide to Great Sex. Her passion is
to see marriages thrive, so that our churches and communities can
become stronger Christian witnesses. You can find Sheila, and her new
ebook The 31 Days to Great Sex, at her To Love, Honor
and Vacuum blog.
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I love that my husband is a giver and not a taker! I need to learn from him :)
I love that my husband loves me and our daughter with all his heart
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I love my husbands sexy smile and that he always respects me!
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I love that although my husband is now completely blind, he always tells me how beautiful I am and how nice I look on Sunday mornings as we walk out the door for church.
I love that my husband will still wash dishes after I cook, even though we are now empty nesters and I’m not working outside the home!! Still need to work at prioritizing sex and intimacy, even when the kids are gone. Thanks for a great topic that doesn’t get enough “Christian” encouragement.
I love that my husband is willing to work with me on sex. I’m just starting to realize what it means to him (after 7.5 years), but he’s very patient with me.
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I love that my husband tells my daughters that he thinks I am beautiful. He tells me too but it is important to he that our girls know that he finds mommy attractive. I love his 100% belief in everything that the Bible says. It is scary when he really takes God at His word but our life is never boring.
I really Love how my husband is really compassionate, and the way he likes to take of us! I just love everything about him. :)
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I love so many things about my husband. I am still very much in love with him after all the ups and downs of life. And ,as our anniversary approaches, I would love to own/read this book. Sure he does things that drive me insane, makes me crazy, annoys me at times, but he’s still MY man, and, I’ll love him till I die. Thank you God for my husband!!
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God Bless and Happy Thanksgiving!!
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How wonderful….my husband is this way true…it is such a blessing!!
His loving concern for our daughters.
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I respect and appreciate how hard my husband works for us. I love his blue eyes. :-)