Unglued Giveaway
Have you ever come emotionally unglued?
With your spouse? A child? The lady at the dry cleaners? The driver on the road?
Yeah, me too.
Sometimes in the midst of raw emotions we don’t make wise choices.
Like the time my husband disappointed me early in our marriage and I questioned his love for me. I was emotionally raw. So I cried. But I didn’t just cry.
I accused him of wishing he’d married his high school girlfriend instead of me and then? I chucked the closest thing I could find, his work briefcase, way across the room. As I did, it flung open and the entire contents sprawled across our tiny apartment living room.
It was not my finest moment back in 1986.
But neither was the time I snapped at my daughter as I prepared our Sunday dinner at which two of her friends were going to be guests. They were late. Very late.
As I leaned over to my husband to ask quietly if we should start with out them, my daughter thought I was complaining. I wasn’t complaining, just asking. However, my whisper made it seem otherwise. When she questioned what I said, I came unglued.
I didn’t let a brief case going flying, just some guilt-inducing and caustically accusatory words.
It was not my finest moment….three weeks ago.
My friend Lysa has also struggled with this issue. A lot.
Just last summer she penned a little book to help other women learn to process their emotions in a healthy and God-honoring way.
It is now a New York Times best-seller.
Just recently, she released a devotional on the same topic. I am currently reading it each morning. Here are just a few quotes that I’ve been tweeting that have stood out to me:
“Feelings are indicators, not dictators. Quiet my inner dialogue and replace my anxiety with your comfort and truth.”
“If ever I catch myself pretending or proving, I know I’m processing my hurt the wrong way.”
“When I feel an argument brewing I have to remember that my goal is to tackle the issue not the person.”
If you’d like a chance to be encouraged by this devotional and win not only it but some more cool stuff associated with it, leave a comment telling us what most makes you come unglued. If your what is a who, please don’t use names, just loose titles like, a certain friend, an extended family member or close family member. :) Thanks.
You could win:
~Unglued book
~Unglued Devotional
~Set of 4 Unglued key tags
~Highlighter
~Journal
~$5 Starbucks gift card
BONUS YOU ALL WIN: If you’re interested in talking about Unglued some more, join Lysa on January 29 at 9pm EST – when she’ll be hosting a live, FREE Webcast with Women of Faith’s Sheila Walsh! Visit Lysa’s Unglued book site for details by clicking here.
Okay, what threatens to make you come unglued? Winner announced Monday.
I become unglued when “things” don’t go the way that I am expecting to go. And that could be just about anything. I need an intervention!
My ungluing is more like a melt-down…When I become overwhelmed by the challenges of day to day living….along with the thoughts that crowd my head regarding fears for loved ones and the world state in general. I get unglued when I don’t control what I dwell on…
After about14 years of being a homemaker not knowing of I should be going to look for a job. What kind of job do I want? I still want to be at home if my children are ill. How would it work for summer? Ahhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!!!
I posted my unglued moments earlier. As I read about the lives of my sisters in Christ I would love for my family members to read some of these post. They need to see that it is not always us but them that takes us there. We don’t like going to that place, thats why we read books like Unglued.
I will have to say the amount of pressure I put on myself, hearing my children fight, and just be mean sometimes.
The first thing that popped in my head was when my kids don’t listen to me or they back talk, I tend to not have very much patience with it and become unglued. I would love to learn patience in that area!
What causes me to become unglued? Mornings!!! Why do math books hide and bread become moldy and cheer bows vanish and forms that require signatures appear when wer’re trying to rush out the door to make it to school on time???
One of my friends or a family member are the ones who tend to make me unglued moreso than a stranger. I tend to get unraveled at times when I feel they are not listening to me or having a disagreement with them. I do not reveal this side of me around total strangers.
Seeing our chickadees bedroom a tornado mess, within hours of cleaning it, receiving negative passive aggressive comments from an inlaw, having a sibling who doesn’t want to spend time with or speak to his family of origin – only wants friends in his life. I would love to read this book, I have heard so many great things about it.
I come unglued with the “little” things and as much as I try, I have a real hard time letting them just roll off my back!
I become unglued in the presence of BLAME. It’s a symptom of not being willing to take responsibility for your own actions. Blame drives me up the wall till I feel like I’m hanging from the ceiling!Help!
When things don’t go according to “plan”.
I am in the (supposed to be) final month of a 2 year long int’l adoption. I’m stuck in a third world country, away from my husband and other children. This is the second trip in 2 months and nothing seems to be progressing in time. I so want to be home with our new adopted child (who is with me here – special needs child who has many challenges I feel ill – equipped to handle)! I am so unglued with this process! I need this resource desperately!
Thank you!
I have 3 wonderful kids, really I do. But, for about 9 years now I’ve been in a hamster wheel cycle of unglued yelling and then asking forgiveness from my kids. I come unglued on a daily basis no matter how much I tell myself to breath and relax before I get home from work. It’s crazy and I need God’s help in a huge way. If you could pray for me, I’d appreciate it too. It’s been very slow progress.
Pam’s right on–the root of my coming unglued is usually fear, but I often cannot see it until after I am trying desperately to glue things back together for the loved ones who catch the fallout. I have identified a certain feeling I have in just the last few seconds before I become “unglued”–and it’s really the grip of fear. If I can respond to that and walk away to think about it, I can usually avoid a meltdown!
Fear. I believe it is the root cause in most situations when I have come unglued. Fear that I don’t know what I’m doing as a mom and I’m going to ruin my children. Fear I’m making a wrong choice. Fear I’m not as good a friend as I should be. I’m so sure I could benefit greatly from what I know is godly advice written on the pages of Unglued. Thank you for the opportunity for a chance to win the gift pack.
I would be blessed to win this because next week I will be a new teacher. new fears, new emotions, new heartaches, and new emotions. Emotions to adhere to the heart of a parentless child, or to the one that is just “unlovable”. I never wanted to be a teacher, until God called me to it. I was the child in the classroom that never had a father or mother by my side. Never did I have someone telling me to not give up, except my emotion-controlled teachers. I want to be that teacher, to serve and give back and the book would be a wonderful tool. I have been financially independent since adolescence, enduring multiple jobs and loans to reach my goal of becoming a teacher. As of today, I have also learned that financial stresses and circumstances will not stop my passion for the greater good in education. I want to be a teacher not only make a different in a child’s life but to show children, like I was shown, that regardless of dark moments light can be seen. I hope with this book I can have the emotions to display the same!
I have just recently realized (not that I haven’t always known coming unglued wasn’t a good thing) just how damaging & hurtful coming unglued can be for everyone involved, not only for me, the attacker, but for the attacked as well. In my futile attempt to keep peace a couple of weeks ago, I lost it not only with my fiance, but the next day as well with my daughter. Didn’t do anyone any good…just a bunch of hurt feelings and words we can never take back. A horrible feeling. I would love to read her book and share what I learn with others! God bless you all & your ministries!!
I become unglued too often when I am not taking care of myself physically.
I need to stay away from unhealthy foods.
I, shamefully, come unglued when I am running late. I’ve always had weird time issues. Of course, the rest of my family has no concern about being on time for anything…ever. So, I’m often coming unglued. I could really use this book, huh?
I will admit it my “unglued” moments come most of the time with my children ages 10 and 3. I will also admit they also come from my trying to control them (reading Let. It. Go right now) and when I am hormonally imbalanced. UGH!. Trying to get it together so I can be a better momma and recognized their behavior something they have to learn to change.
I come unglued most when those around me do not have consideration for the other people around them. This could be something as small as walking into a room and changing the channel of the tv even though there are people in the room watching it. Maybe it is more the selfishness of the person just taking what they want instead of seeing the whole picture that is going on around them.
Life with children as mine (16 yr daughter), his (14 yr old daughter & 12 yr old son), and ours (9 yr old daughter) blended family. Makes ths mama unglued.
I come unglued with my son who likes to play legos instead of do school work (who wouldn’t???). He also likes to tell me “no” to just about anything I ask him to do.
I come unglued with a coworker quite often because she has a bad attitude. I also have trouble with my teenage son- he argues with everything I say. I come unglued with my niece who is doing drugs and has 4 small children.