Answer Envy & Giveaway with Teske Drake

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Have you joined us after reading my Encouragement for Today devotion entitled Answer Envy? Thanks for clicking over. {Not read the devotion? Click here to do so}

In the devotion I talked about my struggle years ago to have a baby. So today I am asking my friend Teske to join us.

Teske Drake is a mommy to three babies in heaven, mother to two on earth, and wife to her one and only, Justin.

Inspired by her own loss experiences, Teske serves as co-founder and President of Mommies with Hope, a biblically-based support group ministry for women who have experienced the loss of a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, or infant loss.

Teske is the author of Hope for Today, Promises for Tomorrow: Finding Light Beyond the Shadow of Miscarriage or Infant Loss (Kregel, 2012) and she leads women to live in hope at

I have asked Teske to hop on today to respond to comments about dealing with loss, especially in the area of having children. You will love her gentle spirit and helpful perspective.

Also today, Teske is giving away a copy of her book, Hope for Today, Promises for Tomorrow: Finding Light Beyond the Shadow of Miscarriage or Infant Loss, along with a “Hope Journal” (a great accompaniment to the book, which calls for reflection and journaling throughout), and a $10 Panera Gift Card.

This is a hope-filled gift for you or a friend whose traveled the tough road of loss and infertility.

So let’s chat. Do you ever struggle with “Answer Envy”? In what areas?

Have you or a friend or loved one experienced heartache in the area of having children?

Tell us about it. One commenter will be chosen to receive Teske’s giveaway. Winner announced Monday.

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  • Oh Karen, I am so glad I did not delete your Proverbs 31 devotional from May 17th (i was away and couldn’t read it.)

    God’s timing is definitely perfect. I have been in God’s waiting room waiting for a good and Godly man for 25 years. (Seems overwhelming to actually write that.) I can see the Lord’s hand in protection, as He has removed unhealthy relationships throughout my life. When I was 30 I asked Him to remove from my heart the desire to be a mother if that was never His plan for me. He lovingly removed that desire. I am thankful for that wonderful blessing in my life.

    I have found the church is not the safest place for single women. It seems to be socially acceptable to be a male and single in the church, but not if you are a woman. I have been asked if I have ever prayed for a husband, if I wore dresses everyday a man would like that but the worst is being told I am a homewrecker simply because I am a a single woman in her mid-40’s. Christian women my age tend to be suspect of single women the same age. This pain hasn’t made my waiting easier.

    The only place I have found where I can deal with all my pain, disappointments and unmet expectations is at the foot of the cross. Thankfully, I have a risen Saviour who cares more about my singleness than I do. My worth is not based upon whether I have a man in my life, even when that is how many in the church measures worth.
    Thank you so much for your post, it was a great encouragement to me.
    Blessings to you

  • Our first grandbaby was born in heaven. We are lucky enough to have 2 other grandkids but those pregnancy weren’t easy either.

  • Answer Envy: Wanting to once again have the wonderful relationship with both of my kids that I once did! And not understanding……….they are not mad at me, nothing is wrong, we have always been close and with both of them…………won’t answer their phone, won’t call back, don’t seem to want to see me,don’t ask about what is going on in my life. Saw neither one for mother’s day. I was a single mom(my husband left me).My children were my life………wish they just wanted to be a PART of mine. I just am glad when I do talk to them or see them. I want them to want to be a part of my life and not a obligation.VERY hurtful and confusing!Plus both of them are away from the Lord! If I could just know that was good……..I would be happy! Oh! So happy. One day, Lord, I know you will make it right. ME and MY HOUSEHOLD WILL BE SAVED!!!!!!! Standing on YOU alone. I am praising YOU now, Lord and speaking it into existence in Jesus name!

  • It seems like this devotion came out at the perfect time for so many women. Two days ago I was at my Home Group through my church and was expressing the struggle I was having with envy. My husband and I went through a miscarriage in January. Our baby was at 11 weeks and 2 days. We were just about to tell EVERYONE that we were pregnant and then I started bleeding. I read so many stories on the internet of people bleeding and everything being fine but at my ultrasound my baby wasn’t there anymore.. It was devestating and I was silly to go to that ultrasound WITHOUT my husband. I know that miscarriages commonly happen in the first trimester so medically I understand but emotionally I am still struggling. My best friend is pregnant with twins and was 2 weeks ahead of me (due in July) and another good friend was 3 weeks ahead of me (due in July). I think that has made it so much harder and this is where I need strength from the Lord to not throw a pity party for myself and be a great friend to those pregnant friends. Since our loss I have seen 7+ friends/acquantiances get pregnant. Some trying and some not trying. My husband and I are trying again and have been unsucessful so far. I am stressing and feeling like I am so behind by not being pregnant right now which I know is irrational. I have so many people tell me to “not think about it” and it will happen but with all of the pregnant friends and working at a family practice where I am surrounded by the “baby boom” that is happening in my town it is impossible to not think about it. I know that if I didn’t have God I would be going crazy. I am so thankful to know that He loves me and has a plan for us. We hope that lots and lots of babies are in His plan for us but will take whatever He gives us with open arms. I am so thankful to be able to share my story with people who understand. I feel alone because most women don’t talk about their losses. Thanks for your ministry and for reading my story.